Looking out for my sister.

[TrueGntlmn]

hey everyone,
if any of you ladies could please help me out with this i would greatly appreciate it! my sister is graduating high school this year and is really interested in greek life. my mom and i are really excited for her, because we were both in greek organizations in college. she was an AOPi at uga quite some many years ago, making my sister a legacy. she has her heart set on going out of state to georgia southern, shes already sent her application in and should be hearing any day from them. they have an AOPi chapter on campus and just being an overprotective big bro and making sure my sister is going to have a good, memorable experience, i was just wondering how those ladies are over there? i remember a few chapters (will remain unnamed) at my college didnt quite have the best reputation and i dont want my sister to be involved in anything like that. now i understand all the circumstances that just because she is a legacy doesnt mean that she is going to automatically recieve a bid, or even make it all the way through rush. then of course she might find another house that she feels for comfortable with. but i'm just doing a bit of research and if any of yall could just let me know about all that i would greatly appreciate it! thanks ladies!

[SWTXBelle]

Advise your sister (and mom) to read the many stickied threads in sorority recruitment. It would also be worth their while to read recruitment threads. Pay special attention to discussion of legacies and the importance of recommendations.

Do NOT look for salacious gossip regarding the chapters at your sister's school. Gossip is just that - gossip. Your sister is a big girl, and needs to make her own decision. Meeting members, talking to alumnae and current students, checking out websites - that's how to gather information regarding the chapters. JuicyCampus - not so much.

[violetpretty]

Originally Posted by TrueGntlmn

hey everyone,
if any of you ladies could please help me out with this i would greatly appreciate it! my sister is graduating high school this year and is really interested in greek life. my mom and i are really excited for her, because we were both in greek organizations in college. she was an AOPi at uga quite some many years ago, making my sister a legacy. she has her heart set on going out of state to georgia southern, shes already sent her application in and should be hearing any day from them. they have an AOPi chapter on campus and just being an overprotective big bro and making sure my sister is going to have a good, memorable experience, i was just wondering how those ladies are over there? i remember a few chapters (will remain unnamed) at my college didnt quite have the best reputation and i dont want my sister to be involved in anything like that. now i understand all the circumstances that just because she is a legacy doesnt mean that she is going to automatically recieve a bid, or even make it all the way through rush. then of course she might find another house that she feels for comfortable with. but i'm just doing a bit of research and if any of yall could just let me know about all that i would greatly appreciate it! thanks ladies!

If you're asking about tiers, you've got the wrong site.

Your sister doesn't need her perceptions of chapters to be colored by what other people say (often inaccurately) about chapters at her school. I went through recruitment with enough garbage in my head from a male friend, but fortunately, I was able to ignore his comments.

It's great that she's interested in Greek Life next year, wherever she goes to school. One thing that you and your mom could help her with is to find alumnae to write her recs, since with your Greek affiliations, you probably know some people. One of the worst things to do is to go into recruitment set on certain chapters or set against joining certain chapters. You just set yourself up for disappointment.

Originally Posted by SWTXBelle

Advise your sister (and mom) to read the many stickied threads in sorority recruitment. It would also be worth their while to read recruitment threads. Pay special attention to discussion of legacies and the importance of recommendations.

Do NOT look for salacious gossip regarding the chapters at your sister's school. Gossip is just that - gossip. Your sister is a big girl, and needs to make her own decision. Meeting members, talking to alumnae and current students, checking out websites - that's how to gather information regarding the chapters. JuicyCampus - not so much.

To the OP, pay close attention to what SWTXBelle said.

[BSCKt]

My mom was really worried about me joining a Greek organization, but now that I am in it- I cannot see me being elsewhere. I love having sisters who are going to be able to help me through everything I do. And I think EVERY sorority offers that. None of my close friends are in the same chapter, and we all know that we have our friends, and our sisters. It's just a good way to build precious relationships with lovely women.

[peaches321]

True Gent,

I saw a young woman's heart broken because she had listened to the well-meaning opinions of her loving older brother. She cut houses that liked her, because her brother was the one doing the tent talk. You can't protect her by getting in her way. She has to find her own way. Georgia Southern is a lovely university with an active Greek system and many terrific choices for your sister. Help her by NOT helping her. Network with your mom to get her connected to recs (as someone said earlier), and then let her go. You'll have done your job, and left her job to her. Don't take it too hard when we jump on you so quickly. This site tries very hard not to get anywhere near the trash talk and devisiveness you may find elsewhere, so that's why we respond with such passion. We all wish your lil sis only the best, and don't blame you for your worry. Now, it's time to let it rest and let her do the rest.

[southernbell196]

As other people have said your sister will be old enough then to make a decision thats right for her. Please do not try to find out if a chapter has a good or bad reputation, becuase even though this probably isn't the easiest this to hear. The sorority with the worst reputation could offer your sister friendships that are uncomparable, or the reputation could be completely without reason. Its nice to see you watching out for your sister, but instead of worrying about labels of sororities, just be her big brother and watch out for her, inspire her and help her out when she needs it. She will make the choice thats right for her.

[pledgemaster]

I actually know 7-8 AOPi's from Georgia Southern. THey're really good girls. Maybe not top tier but they're getting better.

[AOII Angel]

Just because your sister is a legacy doesn't mean she will automatically go AOII. Let her decide when she starts recruitment if the girls are who she wants to be sisters with for four years of college. She knows that AOII is a organization as a whole that she likes since she has your mother's experience to draw on, but recruitment is set up to let her decide if the AOII chapter at her school is right for her. If our chapter at her school isn't the right fit for her, she'll know it. I wish her the best of luck, and of course, am rooting that your mother will be able to call her daughter a sister in the future.