Pursuing PNMs in rush

[carnation]

Okay y'all...some people are taking the pursuit of PNMs' stories a little too far. When BlazerCheer rushed, I was flooded by pms from people I didn't even know asking for details of her recruitment story. Sometimes PNMs don't want to post details--for instance BC was afraid that her opinions would get read by someone at her school and used against her...she was probably the only Asian rushee and it would've been obvious who she was. Others have had awful rushes and don't care for the world to know about it.

Now a few other PNMs have been pursued when they only wanted to drop off the face of the earth. Please don't do "research" into a PNM's rush if she doesn't post and then publish what you learned! If a woman suddenly doesn't post on her recruitment, there's a reason--be it a screwed-up computer or embarrassment. let it die. Please!

[aopinthesky]

and Hear Hear

Thanks for the wise words.

[Munchkin03]

Thank you, Carnation. I know that we do get excited and interested in a rushee's story, but sometimes people tend to get overzealous. I think posting lists, or links to lists, of new members is taking things too far. Remember, some of these girls are only 18 years old.

[SmartBlondeGPhB]

AGREED...........

(I was only 17 when I rushed..........)

[honeychile]

All I want to add is an "Amen"!

(and I was almost 17 when I rushed!)

[FuzzieAlum]

Can we say .... stalking?

[AUDeltaGam]

Completely agree!

[beachgal118]

I totally, 100% agree! Thanks Carnation!

[absolutuscchick]

I agreee...I think that sometimes we forget about the girls' best interests and focus on our own curiousity.

[KillarneyRose]

Originally posted by FuzzieAlum
Can we say .... stalking?

Exactly! There is one rush thread in particular that's verging on scary.

[AllisonDG]

I too agree with everything everyone has said...i seriously got freaked out by one thread. It kind of makes ME not even want to post things at the risk of being "sought out."

[texas*princess]

I don't really know what threads everyone is talking about, but I definately agree with what everyone has already posted. That is definatley scary to have people "researching" what happened. If they [pnms] didn't want to post, they didn't want to post about their rush experience, so that doesn't give anyone the right to try to be Nancy Drew and figure out why they didn't post...

[erniegurl00]

I agree whole heartedly with this. I have actually thought that we've all been taking these recruitment threads a little too far. There is no need for us to be pressuring these ladies to post or to spazz out if they don't post right away. They have lives too, and we have to remember that recruitment is a tiring and emotionally draining time. We don't need to add to that.

[Mandelion]

From a PNM's point of view..

I don't have a problem with people looking into what Greek Life is like here or checking on our PHC, and its not likw they couldn't find out from the other GC'ers that I know go to my school. But it would be a bit odd to ask them about me, you know?

I'm cool with answering questions and I've never felt harrassed, but I know if I don't get a bid next week (knock on wood!) that I wouldn't want people asking me for the news. It feels a little like I let the board down if I don't get a happy ending, which is just weird .

But rest assured, I will post either way, in my own time.

[ZTAngel]

Thank you!!!!!


Seriously y'all, it's not your right to publish what happened to a PNM during rush. If they want it publicly known, they'll do it themselves. And, if they don't come back for a long period of time, don't post things like, "Any updates?" or "Come back! We wanna know what happened!" Some of you guys are on the verge of stalkerish. These PNM's have lives. I hope you do too.