How hard is at most schools to join a fraternity?

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I live in connecticut, i'm a senior this year and looking at schools mainly all down south. My older brother is going to be a senior at north carolina and rushed pi kappa phi as a freshman and ever since I was a sophomore in highschool I would visit him there at all my breaks and go to his school at the end of summer before mine had started and stay with him for 2 weeks, he lived in his fraternities house his sophomore year and when I visited him it was great. They were all amazing guys and treated me like I was one of their brothers, they took me out to parties every night, we'd all go out and do stuff and during the day just hang out. Even when one of my good friends from back in CT died half of his brothers personally called me up telling me they were sorry... I love the life and the brotherhood and friendship and everything, being in a fraternity is hugely important to me now after seeing what it was like.

My question is how hard is it to join? At my brother's chapter they always were open to meeting people and would take down people names in a book if they liked them and called them up with the interest of finding rushes and pursue them to a degree. At most schools is it like this or do you have to make sure your always on your game and going after them. I'm most likely going to be applying to ole miss, mississippi state, roanoke college, radford university, st. josephs university in philidelphia, university of alabama and WVU. I read alot about how rushing is really competitive especially at ole miss and mississippi state and how maybe they prefer instate. Would being from up north and not knowing any actives at the school hurt my chances unless they basically love me? I'm a little worried because ole miss and mississippi state are my 1st choices right now. I went and visited both them around 2 weeks ago and they were my dream schools, I loved the campuses and the fraternity houses there were siick. I'm basically a laid back kid, rock sperrys, polos and brooks brothers 24/7 and real sociable but I'd like to be able to join one of my first choice fraternities and not settle with guys who I can "tolerate"