Sorors, SFs, One & All

[CrimsonTide4]

Hello Everyone,
It is that time of the year again. Some prospectives are getting acceptance letters and others are being rejected.

I have some questions for ALL BGLO sorority members. Did YOU join your sorority through a collegiate or alumnae chapter?

For those who joined via the ALUMNAE chapter,
A. Did you apply for membership during your college years?
B. While waiting for the chance to join, what did you do in the meantime?
C. While others around you were becoming members, how did you stay focused on the mission of joining the sisterhood that you felt lead to pursue?

To ALL BGLO Sorority members, what advice would you give those who were not chosen this year for membership?

For my SFs who are waiting/hoping to become a member what are you doing to keep your interests and to increase your attractiveness?

My Words of Encouragement:
1. Sometimes a DENIAL is a DELAY.
2. Ecclesiastes 3:1 -- There is a time for EVERYTHING, and a season for EVERY ACTIVITY under heaven.

[Conspiracy2]

Sorors and Sisterfriends:
First of all, that is my all time favorite bible verse. I am a very impatient person myself in all areas/aspects of my life. I am still learning that I cannot rush what GOD has planned for me in his time; For when things are rushed they never turn out for the good!

I have had 2 very good friends receive rejection letters and needless to say I hurt for them....I want them to soooo experience the good things that I have through my sorority. So, this has been a hard time for me too and many others who have already acquired membership but are still on pins and needles as they await some sort of word on friends and family members.

The advice that I have given to them and that I would like to pass on to others is this: One of the things that really impressed me about some of my neos was the fact that some of them tried out with me, and they didn't make my line. However, as hard as I know it was for them, they were out at our probate show, supported our parties and our programs all throughout the year...therefore when they pursued membership again that very next year my sands and I were so receptive to them and needless to say, we had much respect for them because we do know that it is hard to watch someone probate and you know so bad that you want to be up there doing the founders step with them! It takes a lot to come out and still support everyone who crossed without you, especially when you tried out with them. Buy it does speak volumes to my Sorors when they see you out supporting them when you could very well still be sitting up in your room sulking and going through all the coulda...woulda...shouldas

Delta however has been here for 88 years and we will continue to be here. Keep doing what you are doing and make sure you stay on top of your game! Even when you graduate. Community service and involvement does not stop when you walk across the stage and receive your degree. Delta does not stop once you graduate either...IT IS A LIFETIME COMMITTMENT! And remember, when the man upstairs sees that you are right, then the time will be right for you!

OOOOO-OOOOP Sorors!
Conspiracy2
02~LZ~00

[PrettyKitty]

I pledged UNDERGRAD and I wouldn't take back my college experience for nada!

If it's in your heart and you are about to graduate or have graduated, then apply to a grad chapter. If you get rejected apply again. If you get rejected a 2nd time apply again but make sure your credentials are even tighter. Basically, if it's in your heart, there is nothing that will prevent you from becoming a member.

[RedAngel]

I joined Delta Sigma Theta through my alumnae chapter.

A. Yes, I was accepted for an undergraduate line but I decided to wait for alumnae due to a changing economic situation that happened after I was accepted. Looking back I made the right decision.

B. In the meantime, I continued my public service/volunteer work, kept my college grades strong and kept the faith.

C. See "B". I knew that if I was going to be a member it was going to happen in time. I kept my eye on the prize for eight years.

Advice? Use this experience as a stepping stone. I agree with my Soror that sometimes a Denial is a Delay. If you know where you are deficient strengthen that area and know that all things happen in time. If its what you want don't give up! I have one friend that was denied membership but became a member the next time. She had waited more than 20 years. When it does happen---you will be in the right mindset to enjoy it.

Red Angel

[Ideal08]

I joined my sorority through a graduate chapter.

A.) Yes, I applied for membership when I was an undergrad.
B.) I did the same things I had been doing, except with a lot more tears. I continued my service, and I continued striving for my dream.
C.) A sista was BITTER!!! I couldn't even congratulate my Kappa friends properly, I was so bitter. I apologized for that recently. But nothing took away from my purpose and my drive. It's hard to not keep striving when your roommate is a member of that org! It was hard, but I continued to support them, even after they had graduated. Keep being seen. Try not to be bitter. It's hard, but nothing worth having is easy to get.

As far as advice, it's like everyone has said. There is a reason that you might get rejected. Everything is under God's plan, so don't even worry about it. I KNOW it hurts. But that's life. Take it in stride, and keep striving. I know now why I couldn't have my letters when I wanted them. God had a plan for me, and for my LS's. So see, if I had pledged undergrad, I wouldn't have met my LS and I wouldn't have been able to help her when she needed me, and vice versa. So, while I was bitter then, I understand now. You can't see it while you're in it, though. So it's really hard to give advice, because when you are hurting, you're not trying to hear it. At all. But believe me, if it is meant for you, SF's, you will have it. God said so. So trust and believe. Keep striving.

[fine by design]

Hi. I just read your post on greekchat in which you posed the question:

I have some questions for ALL BGLO sorority members. Did YOU join your sorority through a collegiate or alumnae chapter?

For those who joined via the ALUMNAE chapter,
A. Did you apply for membership during your college years?
B. While waiting for the chance to join, what did you do in the meantime?
C. While others around you were becoming members, how did you stay focused on the mission of joining the sisterhood that you felt lead to pursue?

This post really touched my heart! I’m at my desk getting a little teary b/c JUST YESTERDAY I thought I should put my goal of pursuing membership in a Sorority on the backburner, into that “it would have been nice” list I keep in the back of my mind. As I read your message and the replies, I am encouraged to continue in my journey. Thank you ALL for posting such a timely message and allowing this forum to serve as a positive place for members of BGLO’s and interests of ALL organizations to interact and encourage each other. Stay Blessed.

[Dvus4ever]

for starting this thread. I don't know how to say that your timing is more perfect. I have been in search of the sisterhood since the age of 18 (now 27) and this year has been more to say than difficult. I came close to breaking, but never found it in my heart to give up. It is a very good understanding that God's timing is his own.
To answer your question . . . as always I am keeping my head held high, continuing my services with enthusiasm, and furthering my education of your sisterhood. I am also making sure that I keep my ears and eyes opened more than my mouth. It is a wise women that can listen.

Patiently learning
and
Learning patience

PS
Thank you again

[SoTrue1920]

I joined as an alumna. I didn't apply for membership as an undergraduate, but I had expressed an interest. However, other student activities prevented me from making a serious committment to any GLO.

There are times when I wish I had gone the undergraduate route, but more often than not I'm just happy that I became a member, regardless of the level.

The words of advice to prospectives who aren't accepted is: Don't Quit! If you're not accepted after your first attempt at membership, this might be the universe's way of telling you that it just isn't your time right now. If you carry the light and love of your selected organization in your heart, remain dilligent, and keep your eye on your ultimate goal, eventually it will come to you.

[Ideal08]

Originally posted by SoTrue1920
There are times when I wish I had gone the undergraduate route, but more often than not I'm just happy that I became a member, regardless of the level.

DITTO!!

[14dst01]

Sorors, Fellow Greeks, SF's

This is a topic dear to my heart. You see I just crossed those burning sands into Deltaland on April 22,2001. It wasn't through an undergrad chapter, it was through an almunae chapter. But this was not my first time applying. You see this was my 3rd time seeking membership into Delta Sigma Theta.

I still have the 2 rejection letters I received while an undergrad. I wasn't rejected because I didn't have the qualifications (graduated with honors and inducted in the National Honor Society). I think, no I know it was because I wasn;t humble enough in my pursuit. You couldn't tell me I wasn't going to cross in '97. But it didn't happen, then I tried again in '99 and since I knew most of the Deltas, I was overlyconfident and it showed in my interview. I thought I didn't make it because I was a senior and that I wasn't legacy (legacy had pull at my school). Whichever the case, I didn't make it and it was hard to deal with. I had classes with a lot of the Deltas and the ones who crossed in '97 I was cool with and I went to their probate but believe you me, when that clock struck 12:13pm on a Saturday afternoon and I saw 75 girls locked up marching down the campus singing Delta songs, that was the hardest thing for me witness. I felt like I should have been the tail on that line (#76). I got the chance to see them before the rest of the campus since I was coming from the football stadium and they were heading towards the dorms. Watching them march and do their show I had mixed feelings. I was happy and excited for my friends who crossed but yet sad that I wasn't able to experience it with them.

Ok, now that I've told my story I will answer the question (I think I did already but I will again).

A. Yes I applied while an undergrad (2x)

B. I never stopped doing community service (anyone doing it just to seek membership doesn't understand the true meaning when we say that Delta is a public service sorority). I also never stopped networking either. For those that are interested and are having a hard time running into Deltas, you aren't doing enough community service. We are out there and active (I can only speak on behalf of my chapter).

C. I stayed focus (undergrad) particularly on my grades. Not that I shouldn't have but since I spen so much time studying Delta, I put my time and energy back into my grades, graduating and getting a job. On the grad level, I really made an effort into getting to meet women in the sorority. This is very important on the alumnae level. Stay true to yourself and all that you do.

ADVICE: Like Jay-Z said, "STAY FOCUS MAN!" No seriously, from what other sorors and fellow greeks have said, you just have to be patient. I know it's easier said then done but believe you me, timing is everything. I was on such an emotional rollar coaster having gone through this process but I knew why God had me wait. The 3rd time around I was more mature in how I dealt with people (particularly linesisters/big sisters) and going through the process. It is a very humbling experience and I think that's why God made me wait 7 years!!!!! I love the chapter that I was initiated into, I love my linesisters and I love me some Delta!!! That's what it's all about.

Good luck and God Bless

p.s. sorry for the long message

Soulful Inspiration
#14 HAC Spr. 2k1

[RENEEDST_22]

Greetings!

I came into the Sisterhood as a Undergrad, and as a Older Undergrad 28 yrs. old.

See when the time is right God will let you know.

If it is in your heart, it will not matter how many times you try, because you will have the shear determination to try again.


Keep God first and he will show you the way!

[dst3800]

Greetings Sorors and SFs,

I joined through an undergrad chapter...and like Soror 14dst01, I too was rejected twice. Anyway, it was very hard to accept the fact that I was rejected, but I didn't let those disappointments keep me from my goal of eventually becoming a member of DST. Actually, two of my best friends made line in 99 and I had to face them everyday, but I learned how to put a smile on my face and keep going with everything else that was going on in my life. I continued to support the chapter, by attending events and doing my community service w/ them, not because I wanted to get in good, but because I truly believed in the programs of the chapter. And even though it didn't seem like it at the time, I think my rejections were in my best interests because each time, things came up in my life that would have been impossible to deal with had I been on-line. And whew, when I finally did make it....OH What A Day! It was the time of my life and I wouldn't trade my LSs for the world!

Okay, to all ladies that were not chosen for membership, please remember not to give up on your dreams. Membership in a sorority is NOT promised to everyone, and you have to just continue with your life and submit the next time. I am a testimony that even if you are rejected once (and twice!) doesn't mean that you won't be a great asset when you are finally accepted. Also, if you didn't make it, please don't "HATE" on the ladies that did. They had nothing to do with the selection process, and THEY will be the ones to review your packet if/when you do decide to submit again! To those who will be submitting in the spring, GOOD LUCK!

[AppearanceOfGod]

Good afternoon everyone. First I want to say thank you for starting this topic! And I also want to say thank you to those who have posted replies to the topic. I love how the board members share certain experiences with others. You are an inspiration I must say.
Take care everyone.

[AlacrityZK]

Currently at this time, I am keeping God first at all times!!!!!I am still doing my volunteer work and working so hard to keep my grades up. Honestly, ladies, this has been the hardest year for me and my grades slipped right from under my nose. By the grace of God, I will have average credentials to submit next semester. However, I don't want the ladies of Delta Sigma Theta to see me as an average person, I want them to see me as above average. However, I am participating in programs and supporting them 100% but I have decided to wait submit through a grad chapter

[CrucialCrimson]

I joined through a collegiate chapter (first time), but the initiating chapter was the local alumnae chapter. I thought the comment that was made that someone didn't understand "overly confident" was interesting. Before I attempted to join a sorority, I might have said the same thing, but having pledged a few lines, I have my definition of over confidence. It is confidence that goes beyond confidence in oneself and jumps into arrogance that someone knows they are exactly what someone else is looking for in a member. Or sometimes it's that woman who has all the outward manifestations of high esteem, but it is usually masking insecurity. It is a lack of balance between grace and confidence; and it is oh-so-unattractive in a candidate. A soror and I were having a conversation recently about how many times someone should be able to apply for membership - on the one hand, you want to commend perserverence, but on the other hand I have seen too many times that women get rejected two or three times and finally get in, but they remain salty and bitter about the experience "they didn't have" and they don't do the sisterhood any good. I know sorors that keep their rejection letters - that may not apply to all in the situation, but it happens.