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Old 12-11-2007, 09:43 PM
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Question Moving into the House?

Hi ladies!
I'm new here. I just had a question, and pardon me if this is in the wrong location:
I'm a new member of my sorority. I'll be moving into the house next semester. Yay! However, I'm kind of worried about the atmosphere in the house. After all, I'm moving in with a bunch of girls that I hardly know. I've barely gotten to know the girls in my NM class (I'm pretty quiet) and I don't know any of the sisters well at all, including my big.
Is it common to get to know the girls in the sorority better once one moves in and such? Or, am I up a creek without a paddle? Or, am I just freaking out over nothing? Has anyone else been in a kind of similar situation?
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Old 12-11-2007, 09:49 PM
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You will be just fine, as long as you do the same thing as you normally would with any roommate you don't know very well! Be courteous, don't talk badly about other sisters to them, and compromise on any issues that come up and you will probably become much closer to them. Good luck!
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Old 12-11-2007, 10:31 PM
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This will be the perfect way to get to know your new sisters. You will be there for all the spur of the moment activities. My daughter was feeling a little lost at her new house. She went over to watch television and was caught in a tornado warning. Sitting in the hallway with all the sisters bonded her for good. Relax and enjoy the experience, it goes WAY too fast.
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Old 12-11-2007, 10:33 PM
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Hi ladies!
I'm new here. I just had a question, and pardon me if this is in the wrong location:
I'm a new member of my sorority. I'll be moving into the house next semester. Yay! However, I'm kind of worried about the atmosphere in the house. After all, I'm moving in with a bunch of girls that I hardly know. I've barely gotten to know the girls in my NM class (I'm pretty quiet) and I don't know any of the sisters well at all, including my big.
Is it common to get to know the girls in the sorority better once one moves in and such? Or, am I up a creek without a paddle? Or, am I just freaking out over nothing? Has anyone else been in a kind of similar situation?
Thanks for any advice you can offer!
I felt the same way before I moved into my chapter house. I felt like the outcast of my NM class. I didn't know with whom I was living until the day of room draw. Fortunately, things worked out really well. My roommate and I got along great. I loved living in the house so much that I lived there for 3 whole years. It gets you close with sisters with whom you might not be close otherwise.
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Old 12-11-2007, 10:42 PM
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Girls who move in as newer initiates often find themselves in the same situation as you, not really knowing anyone very well.

My best advice would be to treat it like any other move-in experience with a roomie you have yet to meet. Be couteous and iron out any ground rules early on and just respect each other's privacy.

Also, there are little ways to get to know people:

* If you see sisters watching a movie you like in the TV room, sit down and watch! If you're going to watch a movie, peek your head into a random sister's door and ask if she wants to watch with you.

*Don't always eat in your room or on campus. I got to know plenty of girls just by eating in the kitchen with everyone else.

*Sometimes, just saying hi to a sister passing by or asking how her day is going is a great way to get to know people.
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Old 12-11-2007, 10:57 PM
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You'll be as happy as you decide to be. I positively thrived in our suite - my grades improved, I loved the company, etc. I think it's a wonderful experience, for at least a year or two, but don't be shocked if you decide against it by your senior year.

And I'll agree with KSUViolets' advice - get to know your sisters, and join in on things. If someone sends you a Finals Package or other goodies, share them. If you're making popcorn, ask if anyone else wants to have some. It's the old "you make a friend by being a friend" standard.
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Old 12-11-2007, 11:27 PM
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Thanks for all the words of wisdom offered! My nerves were definitely on edge; I was kind of thinking that the house was one big clique and that I'd be left on the outside...
Anyway, I'll definitely heed your advice! I'm getting excited now!
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Old 12-11-2007, 11:56 PM
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I moved in the semester after I initiated. I was a sophomore and all my roommates were upperclassmen, mostly seniors. I really enjoyed it - I got to know the "older" members of our chapter better and I probably wouldn't have if I didn't live in. I also got out of the crappy res. halls - sharing a bathroom always sucks, but it's a lot more fun to share with your sisters than it is with whatever randoms you got stuck living with!
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Old 12-12-2007, 01:58 AM
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I'm actually in almost the same situation. I'm not that close with most of the girls in our house either, and only a few other girls from my pledge class, who i'm also not that close with, are moving in. I was pretty nervous at first, but then I realized how close everyone in the house is and I'm sure it wasn't that way when they first moved in. & Now I'm really excited to move in!
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Old 12-12-2007, 08:45 AM
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Read Pledged. No, just kidding. Everytime we signed up for room assignments I became closer friends with the girls I knew the least. It was a great opportunity!
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Old 12-12-2007, 09:04 AM
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I loved living in the house! I couldn't imagine having to have a roommate though. I'm a bit of a packrat, and all of my stuff barely fit in my room - I don't know what would have happened if we had to put two people's things in there.
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Old 12-12-2007, 09:46 AM
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here's another sorority house fan-i loved it!

really, it is no different than living in the dorm, with the exception being that you are now living with sorority sisters. if you managed to get along with your dorm mates, then you shouldn't worry about getting along with your sisters.

it will be what you make of it. as others have said, join in. share care packages with your sisters. invite your "neighbors" in to watch a dvd.

cherish this time. it is the only time you will probably ever get to live in a sorority house-unless you become a house mother in your old age!
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Old 12-12-2007, 09:53 AM
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I moved into our house second semester my soph year because one of the girls transferred and we had to fill the spot or get fined. Plus, I wasn't to crazy with my current living arrangement at the time.

Intitially I was worried that everyone was already close and that I wouldn't fit in with them being "the new house girl", but that was never the case. On day 1 I was accepted and included in everything -- meals, shopping, going out, etc.. By far this was one of the best living experiences!
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Old 12-12-2007, 12:05 PM
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I really resisted moving in and waited until I was a senior to do it. Once I was in the house I absolutely loved it and wished I had done it sooner.
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Old 12-12-2007, 12:45 PM
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I really resisted moving in and waited until I was a senior to do it. Once I was in the house I absolutely loved it and wished I had done it sooner.
You were the same as me! I didn't really want to move in, just because I had always lived in a single dorm with a private bathroom. I didn't want to give that up! The sorority house was my first experience with roomates in college and I was worried that I would hate it.

Surprise! I ended up LOVING it (and even crying when it was time for me to graduate and move out).
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