Need some help

[SH80]

Hey girls! Curiosity is killing me. I am sick of having all guy friends, they're cool, but I need some girl ones. Unfortunately when I do make a female one, I only keep them at arms length. I want to get to the bottom of this immediately. I know you girls hold the answer. Well, some of you.

1. What kind of girls/behavior attract you?
2. What kind of girls/behavior repels you?
(I observed from GC that girls don't like conflict, warped humor, or debate!)
3. What would make you terminate a friendship with a girlfriend, especially if you give her no reason why you kicked her to the curb?
4. How would you reject a girl? Reasons.
5. How do you accept a girl?
6. Are you intimidated or freaked out by certain girls/behavior.
7. Does apperance matter, even a little bit?
Please tell the truth!
8. What stops you from becoming more intimate with certaing girlfriends or associates?
9. Vice versa!
10.What similarities what would you like to have with a girlfriend. Religion? SES? Greek or not? Race or ethnicity? Sexual orientation? Same taste in music, guys, etc? Age?
11.Why do a lot of you outgoing girls avoid or disrespect shy or quiet girls?
12.Are you into mixing different girlfriends? Would you introduce each other or leave it up to them?
13.What do you girls like to talk about? Really!

I am serious. If you want to dis me please do not reply. If you are uncomfortable answering any of the above questions on GC, email me.

[This message has been edited by SH80 (edited June 18, 2001).]

[gammazetagrl]

I have a ton of girl friends mostly from PSE and also from my dorm,and recently I made a bunch of new ones (like Tati!!) as well

1. I dunno, well if a girl is funny, talkative and has a sense of humor and seems "sensible" (like the stuff she says isn't all BS) then that would make me wanna talk to her.

2. If she seems too ditzy or talks BS, or like at work, if she seems to busy flirting w/ our male coworkers instead of working then that would make me wanna hate her.

3. I've never terminated a friendship w/ a girl for no reason. I'm a fan of talking things out...even if I hear nasty rumors or whatever I still would go straight to the source and get my facts straight.

4. Hmm...I never "rejected" a girl--if I dont wanna be friends w/ one usually they dont really pursue it or anything so i guess they feel the same about me too! lol.

5. I'm intimidated by girls who are...okay i dont wanna start a flamer here but the type who are like, "yeah i live with my boyfriend who's in mid 30's and although im just 21..and i love his kids"...although if the girl in question is a good person at heart...but ofc ourse, first impressions tend to freak me out....also, if they're sluts.
verbal anti greeks also intimidate me. =P
7. No, appearance doesn't matter at all!! cross my heart.
8. when it seems that they spread your private secrets around, or doesnt seem to be there when you need them, or seems to put a guy first (like they ignore u after acquiring a bf)then i stop becoming intimate w/ them.
9. opposite of that!!
10. religion,sexual orientation,race dont matter to me, but i prefer that the girl has the same taste in stuff i like, even though of course it helps if u guys debate about some things. but of course, it will be awesome if she shares the same addiction for shopping that i do!she doesnt have to be greek, but if she isn't then she shouldn't be one of the "haters"

11.maybe because sometimes they know the quiet ones get the guy...i dunno~
12. sometimes i introduce them to each other, but it happened one time that my ex best friend (we still talk but not as close anymore)actually got stuck like glue to my other friend that i introduced her to--they hang out without me! like theyre the ones who are best friends now. so now i try to keep it separate--high school friends, friends from work, greek friends, non-greek friends.
13. the usual makeup,clothes,boys, relationships, problems, grades,family...the list goes on and on.


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"To supress our feelings only makes them stronger"--from Crouching Tiger, Hidden Dragon

[LeslieAGD]

I'm going to group some of these questions:

Attracts/Repels:
I like girls that are fun to be around, who doesn't mind being goofy, but is not an airhead who can't carry on a serious convo. I like girls that are honest...i mean, I can be tempermental and rude sometimes but at least I admit I have flaws.

Reject/Accept:
It's easy to accept girls with similar interests or girls that are easy to talk to. I'd have to be pretty serious to get me to stop talking to someone indefinately, but if a girl stole my bf or publically badmouthed my sisters who didn't deserve to be badmouthed then that would probably do it.

Intimadation/Appearance:
I guess I am a little intimidated by girls that look like beauty queens and a little turned off by girls that dress like hoochie mamas at the bar. These are probably not girls that I would approach, per say. I think appearance/presentation matters A LITTLE BIT...like, I wouldn't wanna hang out with someone who had really bad B.O.

Characteristics:
I don't care what religion, ethnicity, or race my friends are. I'm hispanic but most of my friends are "white"...it doesn't really matter to me. Loudmouthed girls are cool when you go out because they're usually shocking or over the top, but shy girls are great too back they really want to get to know you and it's fun to help them meet people.

Other:
I like having my friends mix but it usually becomes uncomfortable because sometimes conversation runs out. Girls do like to talk about guy and other girls and dumb stuff sometimes, but that's just human nature. And no greek-haters because I can't spend every moment trying to defend the Greek community.

[CRMSNTiDEGRL717]

Attracts/Repels:
I like outgoing girls, but once you get to know someone and you like them for who they are, i dont care if they're out going or not. I have one very shy friend, and she's great. she knows she doesnt always have to be "on", to have people like her.

Reject/Accept:
I hate mean people. i know everyone has their bad days, and most girls have their "bitch" side, but i don't like it when people are outright mean to someone, unless they deserve it. i dont like it when girls dis other girls just b/c they're opposites. ex: the really popular pretty girl talks bad about the hardcore rocker girl, just out of plain ignorance. The least you can do is respect them, you dont even have to be their friend.

Intimadation/Appearance:
appearance doesnt matter at all to me. it might hurt my self esteem to be around the girl who "always" gets the guys or whatever.

Characteristics:
Religion and ethnincicity(SP) do not matter to me. outgoing girls are fun to be around b/c it's not usually boring and they can help you meet people. but it doesnt really matter as long as your a good person at heart. basic similar interests do help spark a friendship though.



[This message has been edited by CRMSNTiDEGRL717 (edited June 18, 2001).]