Any advice....

amanda6035 · #1 09-21-2007, 03:59 PM

....for the bride with 15 days to go?

I feel like a mess. I've been engaged since December 2005...now that it's finally happening, I'm realizing all the crap I dont have done, and wether or not I'm going to be able to get it done is the question....

I think I've kept Bridezilla in check for the most part...but lord, I'm just waiting for something to happen. Eesh. I go tomorrow for my final dress fitting and makeup trial. Yay!

Who here has gotten married recently? come brag - show pics....give advice you wish you would have known before hand.

I cant wait to go on my honeymoon with my honey (haha). Cancun, here I come!

AKA_Monet · #2 09-21-2007, 06:10 PM

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Originally Posted by amanda6035

....for the bride with 15 days to go?

I feel like a mess. I've been engaged since December 2005...now that it's finally happening, I'm realizing all the crap I dont have done, and wether or not I'm going to be able to get it done is the question....

I think I've kept Bridezilla in check for the most part...but lord, I'm just waiting for something to happen. Eesh. I go tomorrow for my final dress fitting and makeup trial. Yay!

Who here has gotten married recently? come brag - show pics....give advice you wish you would have known before hand.

I cant wait to go on my honeymoon with my honey (haha). Cancun, here I come!

Breathe!!! Take a bubble bath!!!

REE1993 · #3 09-21-2007, 06:25 PM

Next month, it will be 10 years for me. Here is my advice for the next month:

1. Get enough sleep. It will make you feel better, look better, and think clearly.

2. Designate, designate, designate. Chances are, your friends/family will jump at the chance to "do something" for the wedding or beforehand.

3. Take some time each day to ground yourself. Do the same for your fiance. Even just a five minute phone call can do the job.

4. Remember that the reception is really for your guests. Don't stress about every little detail, because people aren't going to remember what they ate or if you had a trinket to give to them at the end of the night.

5. Let mom/dad/whomever wants to take control of things, take control. Less stress for you!!!

At the end of the day, all that matters is you and your husband (to be). You are going to be your own family. Two become one. A unified front.

Good luck and may your day be everything you hope it will be.

LeslieAGD · #4 09-23-2007, 10:17 AM

My advice is to let people help you. When I was planning my wedding, I wanted everything done a certain way so I would just do it myself. I was so tired and in the last few weeks I just had to start turning stuff over to my bridal party and family.

SydneyK · #5 09-23-2007, 12:57 PM

Just remember that the wedding isn't as important as the marriage. And, in fact, if something goes wrong (and it probably will), you'll have something to look back on and laugh about.

Oh, and have someone who knows what they're doing freeze the cake for your one year anniversary. Hubby and I had just a bite of some seriously freezer-burned, and therefore not too tasty, wedding cake.

KSUViolet06 · #6 09-24-2007, 01:23 PM

*If you are having bridesmaids, treat them with respect and kindness. They are your friends, and have most likely shelled out money because they love (or at least like) you enough to want to be a part of this event. They are not slaves. Don't be a bitch to them and end up losing/straining friendships.

*Don't forget about future hubby! Sometimes, he just wants to spend time with you WITHOUT hearing "blah blah we need to do this for the wedding." Unless he's really into planning and decorations, he probably could care less about alot of the little details (except food and cake).

amanda6035 · #7 09-24-2007, 02:41 PM

Hahah, he's all about the cake! In true "southern fashion" I'm having his grooms cake for the rehearsal dinner be shaped like a NASCAR, decorated #20 Tony Stewart. He's gonna flip out when he sees it.

I think the bridesmaids are more butting heads with each other. One doesnt like the plans for the bachelorette party, and doesnt feel like her ideas are being considered. I have no idea what's going on, other than I'm being picked up at 4:30 on saturday.

I'm so nervous, but so excited too....

MellySK · #8 09-25-2007, 09:26 PM

As others have said, let people help you. But when people DO help, be sure to be gracious (my soror big sister, do i have to specificy greek here, i'm so used to doing it for non greeks

just got married and my boyfriend helped a TON, since he wan't in the wedding party he was able to run a lot of errands - however he was VERY hurt that he was not thanked at the rehearsal dinner, but he loved that the mother of the bride hugged him about 100 times telling him how indispensable he was)

take time to enjoy yourself, things will go wrong, but if you stress too much, you'll never enjoy any of it.

If it rains, or looks like it will rain, forego any outside pics

(this may seem obvious, when above mentioned sister got married she was insistent on outside pics at a park and got caught in a rainstorm)

when something like that does happen, let your bridesmaids put your hair back together and go out there smiling

Hmm, don't make the rehearsal dinner longer than it has to be - no one in your bridal party is an idiot, and they can probably figure out how to walk down the aisle in less than 10 practices (yes, this has happened to me) This is especially true if the building has no air.

From the twice maid of honor perspective, I think that's it.

have a gorgeous wedding day!

MellySK · #9 09-25-2007, 09:27 PM

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Originally Posted by amanda6035

Hahah, he's all about the cake! In true "southern fashion" I'm having his grooms cake for the rehearsal dinner be shaped like a NASCAR, decorated #20 Tony Stewart. He's gonna flip out when he sees it.

I think the bridesmaids are more butting heads with each other. One doesnt like the plans for the bachelorette party, and doesnt feel like her ideas are being considered. I have no idea what's going on, other than I'm being picked up at 4:30 on saturday.

I'm so nervous, but so excited too....

let them butt heads - and hopefully you have at least one bridesmaid/maid of honor that can act as a shield for you. they should realize that ultimately, it's all about you!

amanda6035 · #10 10-03-2007, 03:29 PM

Welp, 3 more days to go. Today's my last day at work, and tomorrow is spa day with Mom! I *think* everything is about as good as it's gonna get. My co-workers even gave me a card and all chipped in and gave us some spending money for the honeymoon. Heck yeah!

Speaking of honeymoon - we're going to Cancun. Has anybody been? Any tips on definite places to check out? We're saying at the Aventura Spa Palace Resort, and we get several tours with our package. I think we're going to go see Chichen-itza for sure, but havent decided on any of the other tour packages...

Yay *excited*

skylark · #11 10-03-2007, 04:40 PM

Congrats Amanda! I hope you have lots of fun!

SWTXBelle · #12 10-03-2007, 07:36 PM

Wishing you and your husband to be a wonderful lifetime together! Enjoy your honeymoon (don't forget the sunblock!)

Infamous12 · #13 10-04-2007, 08:37 AM

Congratulations! I went to Cancun yearsssssssss ago (on a junior high choir trip. Yeah I know, CRAZY

.) Chichen-itza was definitely a highlight that we still reminisce on. Climb the ruins/pyramids and take a great "newlywed" photo. I believe we walked through the Mayan ruins as well. There was this cultural dance show we went to...I'll ask around for the name.

Take lots of pictures of the wedding and honeymoon!!! Isn't love grand?

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