Things you wish you'd done...or didn't do.

[damasa]

A few things for all those ppl that were once, or are currently in love with a special someone, and you wish things went differently.
This is a forward I recently got from an ex-girlfriend...I think maybe she is trying to tell me someone..considering I was the only forward address! Well, here it is.

Have you ever noticed that the worst way to miss someone is when they are right beside you and yet you can never have them.
When the moment you can't feel them under your fingertips you miss them?
Have you ever wondered which hurts the most:
saying something and wishing you had not, or
saying nothing and wishing you had?
I guess the most important things are the hardest things today....They are the things you get ashamed of because words diminish them; words shrink things that seemed timeless when they were in your head....to no more than living size when they are
brought out.
Don't be afraid to tell someone you love them.
If you do, they might break your heart, but if you don't, you might break theirs.
Have you ever decided not to become a couple
because you were so afraid of losing what you already had with that person?
Your heart decides who it likes and who it doesn't.
You can't tell your heart what to
do.
It does it on its own when you least suspect it, or even when you don't want it to.
Have you ever wanted to love someone with
everything you had, but that other person was too afraid to let you?
Too many of us stay closed up because we
are too afraid to care too much....for fear that the other person does not care as much, or at all.
Have you ever loved someone and they had
absolutely no idea whatsoever?
Or fell for your best-friend in the entire
world, and then sat around and watched them fall for someone else?
Have you ever denied your feelings for
someone because your fear of rejection was too hard to handle?
We tell lies when we are afraid....afraid of what we don't know, afraid of what others will think, afraid of what will be found out about us.
But everytime we tell a lie....the thing we fear grows stronger.
Life is all about risks and it requires you
to jump.
Don't be a person who has to look back
and wonder what they would have, or could have had.
No one waits forever.
Just a few things to ponder on, trust me i did, then i remembered some things about my past, and almost cried (note, yes i'm male and i cry, it doesn't mean i'm gay, just emotional, so for all you buff unemotional guys that want to bash this, go ahead DAH!

damasa

[Hootie]

Originally posted by damasa:
Have you ever loved someone and they had
absolutely no idea whatsoever?
Or fell for your best-friend in the entire
world, and then sat around and watched them fall for someone else?
Have you ever denied your feelings for
someone because your fear of rejection was too hard to handle?
damasa

Yes
Yes
and
Yes!

I'm just NOW getting over a relationship that ended almost 7 months ago. I was so deeply in love with my ex and we were planning on getting married. Somewhere along the way I lost him. He changed and became someone I didn't relate to anymore. He didn't bother to tell me how much he loved me or needed me anymore and I felt like things were over. He didn't cry, he didn't try to stop me or change my mind about the decision...
It's funny. I've always been the one dumped. But then I do the dumping and feel worse than ever.
Love sure is a funny thing. The only thing I regret is loaning him money!
NEVER LOAN PEOPLE MONEY YOU DON'T ANTICIPATE GETTING BACK
Had I not loaned him money the closure process would be much easier...but now I'm regretting it and NEEDING that money back badly.
So, I don't know what the purpose of any of this is...but that's my take on things and my single piece of advice!

Amy

PS. Glad to know guys cry and do have emotions. I was beginning to think they were cold hearted you know whats!

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What do you get when you cross and Alpha Omicron Pi and a Sigma Phi Epsilon? A beautiful Chi Omega!!!

[Miami1839]

Hootie,


Yeah, we do but we're brought up not to. Its the way we're socialized. I admit I'm a softy and was always kidded by my brothers for not throwing all lines at bars and not having a steady. But it just wasnt meant to be during college and probably timing. Timing seems to be the big issue with Women and me. Theres always a reason and I always happen to be the "nice guy, good friend" type. I'm going through a similar situation above. I definitely wont go into any details. But, Women really drive me up the wall sometimes but I guess Men do that to Women too. For you actives out there dont despair you got a lot of time. Coming from an old guy of course *L*

Kevin

[hillarypbf1723]

Have you ever noticed that the worst way to miss someone is when they are right beside you and yet you can never have them.
Have you ever decided not to become a couple
because you were so afraid of losing what you already had with that person?

I can relate with both of those statements...I met my best guy friend down here at school, and I was so attracted to him from the start, unfortunately he had a girlfriend back home. And I know what it's like to sit right next to him, want him so badly and couldn't have him. And a few months into school we realized our attraction to eachother and did some things that crossed that line between friendship and more, however he was still with his girlfriend. He wanted to be more with me but he said that he was afraid of what would happen if we were to break up, if our friendship would stay the same. And now, he is separated from his girlfriend, but he is still in love with her. They have been together for 2 years so it is understandable that it would be hard to just completely let go of her. But we are very close to eachother right now, eventhough we aren't labled as boyfriend girlfriend both of us tell eachother that next year we will be together. And I can't wait till next year because he will be seven doors away from me!
I'm just in a good mood because of him lately, and it's spring and so I wanted to share it with ya all!




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Hillary
Pi Phi love and mine

[ahhkbah]

I am not knocking your hustle at all damasa. I have experienced those scenarios. I fell so hard for one of my best friends that I couldn't be next to her without going crazy. I will forever regret breaking my second loves heart. And yes, the thought of prolonged absence from my current girlfriend has left me in tears before. It doesn't make you less of a man to cry...it makes you less of a man to constantly mask your feelings.

[damasa]

woot!
yea, there is this girl right now, one of my really really good friends, we've known eachother for quite sometime, and we know we both have feelings for eachother. We've done many things that cross the line of "just friends" and at the time, we both had a significant other. I broke up with mine, she stayed with hers, it drove me crazy, because I wanted her so bad, then she broke up with him and we have done a few things since then, but she goes to school in another state, and she says she cares for me and wants to be with me, but who really knows, nevertheless it still makes me go insane.
Then I look back at the few girls that I've blown off while hoping to get back with this girl...ERRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR, the craziness, I need to stop waiting on a miracle and go with what feels right to me, and I need to jump at the chance when a girl beside this friends shows interest. Then again, when they find out that your a greek...and they aren't DAH!!! that's a whole different story, and this is chit chat so...i'll end it here.

ahhkbah...glad to see i'm not the only man that cries


damasa

[amycat412]

Originally posted by damasa:
woot!
yea, there is this girl right now, one of my really really good friends, we've known eachother for quite sometime, and we know we both have feelings for eachother. We've done many things that cross the line of "just friends" and at the time, we both had a significant other. I broke up with mine, she stayed with hers, it drove me crazy, because I wanted her so bad, then she broke up with him and we have done a few things since then, but she goes to school in another state, and she says she cares for me and wants to be with me, but who really knows, nevertheless it still makes me go insane.
Then I look back at the few girls that I've blown off while hoping to get back with this girl...ERRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR, the craziness, I need to stop waiting on a miracle and go with what feels right to me, and I need to jump at the chance when a girl beside this friends shows interest. Then again, when they find out that your a greek...and they aren't DAH!!! that's a whole different story, and this is chit chat so...i'll end it here.

ahhkbah...glad to see i'm not the only man that cries


damasa

Damasa-
Wow--check out my "Say Goodbye" story in the DMB thread--its pretty similar.
Amy

[Billy Optimist]

sometimes i wonder what my life would be like, if i had gotten on that train

[sigmagrrl]

I am trying not to live with regrets, but as the time to apply to grad school gets closer, I regret not taking my college studies more seriously. I never expected to need or want to go to grad school! Grades didn't seem to matter to me then, and now, when they do, I have a sucky GPA! So, LISTEN TO ME, GET THE BEST GPA POSSIBLE BECAUSE YOU NEVER KNOW WHAT THE FUTURE HOLDS!

I also regret not buying stock in Krispy Kreme! I may hate them, but I know they are making BUCKS!!!

[Hootie]

Damasa~
All I have to say is My Best Friend's Wedding
That story is gonna end up being me someday when my best guy friend ends up getting engaged.

[damasa]

HAHAHA...i can relate..one of my better friends that is a woman is getting married..i've always had feelings for her, and she has for me...and she's marrying a real jerk, and i wish she wouldn't and it's making me go NUTSO!!

damasa

[damasa]

and the crowd shouts, "KRISPY KREME, KRISPY KREME, HOORAY FOR KRISPY KREME!!!"
So yea, i'm at work and i'm bored...LOL
and i've turned into a greek chat junkie, almost overnight!

damasa
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