So called Friends

BabyP · #1 07-20-2006, 04:31 AM

when christmas times rolls around, one buckles down and thinks about who to give, then realize wait a minute most of the people you list is way way way less than the friends you have. Why is that some friends are more like social (hi whats up, maybe someone u would invite to a party or event) but some are really tight, you speak with them practically everyday. I have noticed there is something that I call "Few months friends" you act like twins really tight with them then all of sudden the chemistry fades away and you two dont get along or cant even imagine why u are friends then its back to avoiding the other person. The reason why this came up was I was talking to one of my close friend and she was complaining about the same thing. I am so glad I still have friends for over 10 years but it saddens me to see the others kind of fade away from the pictures. I dont know if any of you have been in this situation.

Off subject but this is why i prefer a small wedding with close friends than a huge one to invite people i am no longer close or was never close with.

ShaedyKD · #2 07-20-2006, 07:43 AM

Welcome back, Baby P!

I know exactly how you feel. I moved from my college town about 7 months ago, and I didn't even say goodbye to some people who were my closest friends in college. In the few months before I moved, we never really talked, and when I called to try to meet up with them before I left, they never called me back. We didn't get into a fight, and I have no idea why they wouldn't want to talk to me. It's just like we drifted apart. I think it's just best to focus on the friends you have, and try to make those relationships even stronger!

Lady Pi Phi · #3 07-20-2006, 11:32 AM

Some people you drift apart from. It's not because you hate them or there's a fight, it's because people change, and sometimes you're just not compatible with them anymore.

BobbyTheDon · #4 07-20-2006, 11:39 AM

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Originally Posted by Lady Pi Phi

Some people you drift apart from. It's not because you hate them or there's a fight, it's because people change, and sometimes you're just not compatible with them anymore.

Yeah, or cause you don't call them after sex

fullertongreek · #5 07-20-2006, 12:01 PM

I've been struggling with the same thing lately as well. A chapter sister of mine got married 2 yrs ago and I was in her wedding, we had always been super close. After her wedding a group of us went on a trip together, and things were great. After the trip she started acting weird....started getting jealous that the single people that had been on the trip had been hanging out a lot more together and without her and her husband. She felt that it was my fault and we got into it once. She later apologized but things have not been the same. The only time I hear from her is if she needs something and its really starting to tick me off...I made an effort to get things back to normal after our blow up but the same effort wasnt reciprocated. I'm at that point where I almost want to confront her then cut my losses and move on but I keep coming back to the fact that we use to be so close and heck I was in her wedding! She talked about making me a godmother to her future kids! Just a bit hard to face the reality of the situation I guess...

Lady Pi Phi · #6 07-20-2006, 12:27 PM

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Originally Posted by BobbyTheDon

Yeah, or cause you don't call them after sex

Yes, well that's always a problem too. But you know, if it was good, I might have called them back.

BabyP · #7 08-04-2006, 07:25 PM

Yeah, sometimes I think it was what i said or did but then again I didnt do anything, yeah i have noticed that if someone got a new job or boyfriend/girlfriend or whatever, they tend to hang out w their co workers or their partner's friends, whatever. BUT, ........ I have a feeling that the haters who are jealous of me or being petty for some reason is kind of recruiting those people not to talk to me because I realized they are all kind of friends or know the same people who dont like me.. I am not the kind of person that says, dont talk to that b*** or A** cuz blah blah oh i heard she talked about u blah blah....which of course are lies... oh well, yeah I agree cut my losses and keep in tight contact with my good friends of over 10 years!

I love them alot, I am so glad I have them as one of my closests friends......

damasa · #8 08-04-2006, 08:03 PM

Friends are punks and you should care about nobody but yourself..

For reals.

_Opi_ · #9 08-04-2006, 08:45 PM

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Originally Posted by damasa

Friends are punks and you should care about nobody but yourself..

For reals.

lol

I reserve the term "close friends" for people I can trust, depend on and have my back. Lately, not too much of those around. But as Lady Pi Phi pointed out, people change (either one party, or both) and you kind of just drift apart. I also think that if you really care about your friendship, you would work it on and make an effort to be part of each other's lives.

Everyone else I interact with and like I consider either friends or acquaintances.

jadis96 · #10 08-05-2006, 12:52 AM

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Originally Posted by _Opi_

lol

I reserve the term "close friends" for people I can trust, depend on and have my back. Lately, not too much of those around. But as Lady Pi Phi pointed out, people change (either one party, or both) and you kind of just drift apart. I also think that if you really care about your friendship, you would work it on and make an effort to be part of each other's lives.

Everyone else I interact with and like I consider either friends or acquaintances.

I feel the same way. It's amazing how when you need them the close friends are the only ones who are really there to support you. I am lucky I have 3 close friends and I would not trade them for anything. Friends and acquiantances are people I hang out with, close friends are people who held my hand at my grandparents funreal.

Tom Earp · #11 08-05-2006, 04:07 PM

Close friends are counted on less fingures than one hand.

People You may know are a ton! But how close are they really?