need advice on some trouble!!!

[amom]

I need some help answering a question from someone who can give me advice. My daughter is going to be going through RUSH soon at a fairly large school and is really excited to meet new girls and hopefully get in a house that she will develop lifetime connections with. Here is the question... ever since she was a little girl she wanted to be in her cousin's house ABC. Last year she met a girl who is a legacy to this house and they became friends. The friendship ended when the "friend" did some canoodling with my daughter's boyfriend of some time. She lost not one but both relationships. Her old "friend's" sister is an active at the house currently. Should she totally write off that house or hold out hope that the house is still for her? I told her to just go with the flow and not to make any assumptions about the house and see how things go. She is not hoping for just that house offering her a bid but in finding a place she feels comfortable with. Any advice?