Complicated Transfer Question

[midnightrain13]

I attended one university for a year and a half, at the beginning of the second year I rushed for sorority and ended up initiated into one. However, even before, during, and after the initiation I experienced massive health problems and family issues and was not able to do many activities with the sorority and barely remember anything about initiation, etc. NOW, I have transferred to another university that doesn't even HAVE the sorority I joined. WHAT DO I DO?! I don't have enough experience to be part of an alumni org for that sorority and though I love the sisters of that sorority I can't visit all the time and feel as if joining (ONLY because of the above circumstances) was essentially pointless(other than meeting some great girls). I deeply miss the feeling it brings and almost regret joining because of the things that have happened. I know it's a standard rule where you can't join another after you've initiated in one, but is there ANY exception? I just want to feel apart of something great again.

[Drolefille]

Originally Posted by midnightrain13

I attended one university for a year and a half, at the beginning of the second year I rushed for sorority and ended up initiated into one. However, even before, during, and after the initiation I experienced massive health problems and family issues and was not able to do many activities with the sorority and barely remember anything about initiation, etc. NOW, I have transferred to another university that doesn't even HAVE the sorority I joined. WHAT DO I DO?! I don't have enough experience to be part of an alumni org for that sorority and though I love the sisters of that sorority I can't visit all the time and feel as if joining (ONLY because of the above circumstances) was essentially pointless(other than meeting some great girls). I deeply miss the feeling it brings and almost regret joining because of the things that have happened. I know it's a standard rule where you can't join another after you've initiated in one, but is there ANY exception? I just want to feel apart of something great again.

Assuming you joined an NPC sorority, you cannot join another NPC or NPHC sorority, there are no exceptions.

You might look into a service sorority or co-ed fraternity but if you do, know that it's not a replacement for what you lost but something different that can also be really good. If there are local or other non-NPC/NPHC sororities on your campus it would depend on their rules whether you could seek membership with one of them.

[agzg]

Originally Posted by midnightrain13

I know it's a standard rule where you can't join another after you've initiated in one, but is there ANY exception? I just want to feel apart of something great again.

You know the answer to your question. You're not going to get a different one.

If you are a member of a National Panhellenic Conference (NPC) sorority, you may not join another NPC. No exceptions.

ETA: I C U, Drolefille. Stealing my answers.

[Drolefille]

Originally Posted by agzg

You know the answer to your question. You're not going to get a different one.

If you are a member of a National Panhellenic Conference (NPC) sorority, you may not join another NPC. No exceptions.

ETA: I C U, Drolefille. Stealing my answers.

And I did it first!

[KSUViolet06]

I am sorry to hear of your health problems.

No, there are no exceptions.

No, there are no loopholes.

No, there's no one at a higher level that will tell you any different.

Just making sure I cover all my bases of things you may be wondering.

[33girl]

If you lost your virginity and don't remember it, you're still not a virgin.

Same with this. If you were having that serious of health problems and family issues before you initiated, you should have spoken to your pledge mom (or whatever your group called it) and asked if you could be held over. Heck, if things were THAT serious, you should have probably withdrawn from school immediately.

Oh, and you don't need "experience" to be in an alumnae chapter. One of our past national councillors was only active for 2 years in school before transfering and then, I think, took a long hiatus from sorority involvement at all. If she can do that, you can certainly participate in an alumnae chapter, especially if you belong to one of the NPC groups that has separate chapters for younger alums. If there is an alum chapter near the school you transferred to, contact them and explain your situation.

Plus you have Facebook. Stay a member of your chapter's group and keep in touch with them. The distance between friends is much smaller than it used to be.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Oh, and you don't need "experience" to be in an alumnae chapter. One of our past national councillors was only active for 2 years in school before transfering and then, I think, took a long hiatus from sorority involvement at all. If she can do that, you can certainly participate in an alumnae chapter, especially if you belong to one of the NPC groups that has separate chapters for younger alums. If there is an alum chapter near the school you transferred to, contact them and explain your situation.

Co-sign this.

I work with a sister in my volunteer position who transfered after a year to a school with no chapter and became an alumna. She didn't even get involved again until she graduated and moved to a new city an decided to check out an alumna chapter event.

I know you probably want the COLLEGIATE sorority member experience, but unfortunately, that's not something you're going to be able to have as a transfer to a school with no chapter.

[aephi alum]

That's some analogy, 33girl!

As everyone else has said, if you were initiated into an NPC sorority, you may never join another. You automatically became an alum when you transferred to your new school, since there's no chapter of your sorority there. So you can get involved on the alumna level. You can also look into service orgs and local sororities (if there are any at your new school). But if you've been initiated into one NPC sorority, joining another is not allowed - and if you do try to rush anyway, you will be found out.

[tld221]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

I am sorry to hear of your health problems.

No, there are no exceptions.

No, there are no loopholes.

No, there's no one at a higher level that will tell you any different.

Just making sure I cover all my bases of things you may be wondering.

siggy in 3...2...

Originally Posted by 33girl

If you lost your virginity and don't remember it, you're still not a virgin.

Wow, how about that.

ETA: once i saw the thread title, i knew this wouldnt be complicated at all. and while i dont know the circumstances of transferring, this is your third school. the only thing you should want to be feel a "part of something great" is your graduating class. the ceremony's real nice i hear: you all get matching gowns, and there's a certificate at the end!

[sigmadiva]

Originally Posted by tld221

ETA: once i saw the thread title, i knew this wouldnt be complicated at all. and while i dont know the circumstances of transferring, this is your third school. the only thing you should want to be feel a "part of something great" is your graduating class. the ceremony's real nice i hear: you all get matching gowns, and there's a certificate at the end!

Yes, this is true, but in the end (graduation) you don't get pinned!!!!!

[Titchou]

You've already got your pin. Don't need another one. Join the alum group and get to know folks. You'll be surprised how much fun it can be.

[midnightrain13]

my problem here (experience wise) is I have almost no experience, this was the first year my chapter had formal recruitment so everyone was fairly new to everything and because I kept having issues I only attended a couple philanthropy events, a mixer, and less than a dozen chapter meetings I'd say. Please double correct me if I'm wrong but other than my older sister and our family, I barely got to know anything about the girls or the workings of the sorority in general how is that enough for alumnae organizations or am I misunderstanding them?

[RaggedyAnn]

Your alumnae sisters will fill you in on anything you need to know to participate. You can also attend national events, such as conventions, to supplement your alumnae career. When I go to events, I hang out with sisters from so many chapters other than my own. Yes, you won't have a traditional collegiate experience, but you can have an awesome alumna experience if you want it. You just have to be open to experiencing it. Good luck. I hope you take the opportunity to stay involved.

[sigmadiva]

Originally Posted by Titchou

You've already got your pin. Don't need another one. Join the alum group and get to know folks. You'll be surprised how much fun it can be.

umm....I think you may have missed my joke.....

[Titchou]

Hmmmm....yes, I got it...chose to ignore it....