Blessing in Disguise

[CrimsonTide4]

A lot of times we have things happen to us that at the time we don't understand or we question: WHY ME!?!? WHY NOW?!??!

What have been some of your BLESSINGS in DISGUISE?!!?

[FuturePhD]

Almost 2 years ago, I went through a painful divorce. At the time, I felt awful, unworthy, like I wanted to just die. But God knew that relationship wasn't what I needed at the time, and without that difficult period in my life, I wouldn't be the woman of God that I am today.

[Special1920]

Went through a bad divorce, thought I would never get over it. Looking back, it's almost funny. Definitely a Blessing, I'm doing so much better.

[Ideal08]

1) My parents' deaths. This led to a hefty bout of depression. I'm a living testimony, now. If I can accomplish the things that I've done, with that type of stress, I know I can do anything, and so can everyone else!! My blessing, I can help other people with their grief and depression, and let them know, it's nothing to be ashamed of. Each time, I get a little stronger.

2) Not being able to pledge undergrad due to no chapter being on campus. BITTER is the only word to explain what I felt. But if I hadn't pledged when I did, I would've never met some of my LS's. We needed each other. My blessing? My #15.

3) My initial break-up with my current beau. I was a WRECK!! I seriously wanted to die. I couldn't figure it out, and I felt like God was playing a cruel trick on me. I felt like, ok, you took my parents, you took my good friend, now you take my man, too? Can I get some JOY??? I tip my hat, for real, to people who can survive a divorce, because a sista was BROKE DOWN over a break up of a TWO year relationship. TWO. BROKE DOWN! My blessing? I found me, again w/ the help of my #15. I had lost me. But I got me back, now! I'm telling you, I have grown more over the past two years than I could ever realize. My blessing: My faith in God is renewed, but also a little different. I learned how to talk to Him. I realized, I could just be myself, and He would still listen. Another blessing: I realized that Ideal08 is not always right, all the time. I realized that I had to take responsibility for things going wrong. And that is some hard mess to do, but you have to do it. I realized that I, too, have to compromise. I realized that I was a little selfish. All in all, I learned some things about me that I didn't like, and that I had to change. I'm still working on it. I also realized that my dude needed space to grow, as well, and you can't grow together. It's just like these one type of plants , the male and female can't grow next to each other, b/c one will over pollenate the other, and both will die. The true blessing? I GOT MY MAN BACK!!!

[BLUTANG]

undergrad, i ran for SGA president. Mind you, i had already served on House Council, section leader in the band, class treasurer, class representative, and class president. I KNEW i was going to win so i did not campaign, i did not reach out to people outside my circle, and guess what... i did not win!

I was too through. i blamed my loss on everyone and everything but myself. I broke down and did not leave my room for days... until the girl who ran against me called to say, "It was a good race." She is one of my DEAREST friends to this day, and the Lord taught me that i can NEVER rest on what I've already accomplished. No matter how proud I am of what I've already done, i must do more and keep pushing myself instead of "smelling myself."

Another blessing that came from my loss: i decided to focus more on "me" that next year. My grades improved, I added a major, and i studied abroad (Germany). I would not have been able to do these things if i was bogged down with the work and responsibility of representing the students.

[CkretCrush8]

I had a terrible altercation at the end of last school year with my mentor, choir director, spiritual mother and professor ~ all the same person)that caused me not to be able to sing for the last few engagements for the end of the school year. At the time I was devestated because singing is a ministry to me. Two things happened within three weeks of that event. One: I had the opportunity to sing background on a project that a member of my church is doing. Second: I went to a prayer breakfast at the beginning of the summer and this guy asked me if I sang Alto and I said yes...the following Tuesday I was singing with a new group at church. I was definetely blessed. Had I not been gone through what I did, I would not be singing with the group(s) I am singing with now. God truly blessed me and increased me in the music ministry at my church

By the way the relationship has also increased tremendously

[14dst01]

I have so many blessings, this thread isn't long enough but I'll keep it short (ya'll know I get long winded).

I went to a NABJ convention in Seattle back in '99. I just graduated from college and was looking for a job. At the airport I met a woman (a Delta) who was living and working in one of the states I was interviewing with. Needless to say, she gave me her card and told me if I got the job at the company to give her a call. After a few interviews, I did land the job and headed East leaving my friends and family back in the Midwest. But before I moved out there, I wasn't having any luck finding an apartment. I called the woman I met at the airport and she gave me the name of a retired couple that lets young people live with them (for a small fee). When I moved there, I found out after the lady opened her door that she was a member of the sorority I longed to be a member of, even after getting rejected twice in college (Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, Inc.) So one by one I was introduced to women in her chapter and eventually got to know them.

This was very helpful for me because I was moving to a new state where I had no friends or family. After living with the couple for a few months I moved out but kept in touch with them and they have been like family to me. At one point I wasn't sure if I would get a job, then I got the job and wasn't sure if I would have a place to live, then I found a place to live along with a loving and caring family that helped me with my transition and then after all of that, I was inducted into the greatest sorority ever......................DELTA SIGMA THETA SORORITY, INC!!!!!!!!! Those 2 women were excellent examples of how sisterhood is suppose to be. They opened their hearts, homes and sorority to a complete stranger. God truly works things out for you if you just let Him enter your heart.

That's my testimony!!! Take care and God Bless.

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[Diva_01]

My blessing in disguise was actually a couple of months ago. I was driving myself into the ground, trying to work 40 hours a week, with two jobs, as well as juggle friends, and take on programs for Delta. Needless to say, I was very busy. I had only one day to myself, which was usually devoted to work or friends, or running errands. I was getting extremely crabby and moody, and to my despair, I was fired from one of my jobs because of my partner's mistake. I was devastated because I loved my job and the people I worked with. It turned out to be a blessing in disguise because now my grades are back up, my stress is down, and my friends and family can stand to be around me. I was also with my partner at work, and our being fired (not for what you think it is! mm, mm, mm ) led me to find out about what he had been covering my eyes to, and find out why he is not for me. It was also to my mom's relief.

[BLUTANG]

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i needed to see this today.

[Angel11E01]

The first 2 Blessings in Disguise below are related.

Sorry in advance for the length... I'm feeling some kind of way today.

1. Blessing in Disguise #1.

Losing my first 'big girl' job right out of undergrad. I really gave my all at this job, and I went through a serious depression when I was booted.

But - I learned a ton of stuff, and actually this position helped to mold me into the IT babe I am today.

2. Blessing in Disguise #2.

My FI and I had been together for about 6 months, when he surprised me with a 7 day cruise to the caribbean. I was so pumped! The weather was awful, and my spirits were generally really down due to personal stuff and (actually BID #1) . Two weeks before we were set to sail, I was working on a data conversion at my job..working crazy hours (8-11 hour days). One evening I left out of the back door of my job, and slipped and fell on black ice.

My keys, purse, and cell phone scattered everywhere. I tried to get up to at least retreive my keys and phone but the sharp pain in my leg prevented that. It was 11pm, dark, cold, and I was the only person in the lot. I was seriously afraid. A guy from my team happened to drive by, and of course, I was sprawled out on the concrete, I couldn't yell loud enough, and he drove by me. At this point, I think I'm going to freeze to death, and start crying. Finally, my Angel in disguise drives by (another guy on my team), picks up my keys, purse, cellphone, starts my car, wipes all the snow off my car, and makes me get in his car to warm up. I was shaking like a leaf. I thank God for him. Well, I get to the emergency room only to find out that I fractured my tibia, which required surgery, downtime, and pain.

I go to the doctor's office the next day...after my xrays are taken, the doc says, yes, you may want to postpone [the trip]. Long story short, I was off work recouperating from surgery for 3 months, and was applying for jobs like it WAS my job.

I found this wonderful job and applied. I actually ended up obtaining the position. Funny thing is...it's the same type of job as my first (see BID #1).

If I hadn't had the opportunity to gain the skills at the first job, I wouldn't have been able to take the second job.

Had I not broken my leg and been off for three months (even though I had to cancel the cruise), I wouldn't have found THE job.

And... I'm still going on that cruise. My recently engaged future SIL is getting married on a cruise. And I'm getting married in the Caribbean.

Talk about full circle.

Blessing (not really in Disguise) #3:

My SANDS. I love them dearly. We've been through rough times, and I think God for them. They've had my back - always. I love you Sands! I can't believe we'll be 5 years old tomorrow! It's been a wild ride!

[mccoyred]

1) Last year, I moved to a staff job in my current organization. The work would have been great (its what I like to do) but for my B*&(h of a boss (and I DON'T use that word lightly). I went through so much emotional turmoil with this woman. I was moved to another staff job to support this organization and have met some of the best coworkers and bosses that I have ever had! I also acquired a whole new set of skills that have put me one step closer to owning my own business. I am also emotionally stronger and more confident in my abilities having gone through that horrible experience.

2) When I first graduated from college I had NO job. Due to a long list of factors, I ended up back at home and working at a job for which I was vastly overqualified. I was somewhat depressed and very cynical about life. It was during this period that I met my wonderful husband of almost 13 years; we married two years later. If I had gotten a job out of town, I would never have met him and my life would be very different.

[StarFish106]

I was working at a high profile lobby law firm in 02-03 and got let go in my first 3 months. I was a nervous wreck because I never saw it coming and didn't understand why. So I searched for jobs for months not coming up with anything. Mind you I just got engaged and was putting $ aside for the wedding so that had to stop. I have had major problems with fibroids and needed to have surgery. I finally got some health insurance but still was looking for a job. I finally had to break down and decide to have the surgery because it seemed like the song God was trying to tell me something, I will not give you a job until you have the surgery. So I had my surgery in sept 03 and by the end of Oct I had a temp job working for the city in the pensions dept.

I got a permanent job at a computer company in May of 04 right as my time with the city ended but the place I really wanted to work called me about a job in their HR dept. On my first day at the new computer gig i find out that they are moving waaay out of my commute range (and was never told that they were moving). I got home, called the lady that called me about my dream place and told her I'm in. A month later I got the job and have been here ever since.

The kicker is had I not taken that temp job with the city pension dept, I would not have had the experience to get the job I have now! So i have learned sometimes not to ask "Why me Lord but to ask "Why not me?"

[UrbanizdSkillz]

I've had soo soo many blessings in disguise but one I can remember right off the top of my head is not getting into my top choice college. Now I look back and say "God you really were ochestrating the whole thing" because if I had been accepted there, I would have been in unimaginable debt as well as not be able to fully operate Urbanizd Skillz Design Suite. God truly has a plan and a purpose for us all, even when we can't see it.

[Afrochic]

Thursday, June 26, 2003 9:56 am.

I got a phone call that changed my life. Your father has taken a turn for the worse, can you come to the hospital? I knew immediately I no longer had my father. My father was always a strong man. He never missed work unless absolutely necessary. I depended on him, we depended on him. I wondered how would we make it, but you know what? I'm still here and believe it or not his death has made me stronger. I'll admit I was selfish and I didn't want him to leave this earth, but I truly believe I became an adult on that day. My mother never worked because my father believed he should take care of the household because that was his job. I take care of my mother's household now and it feels good. I don't have to worry about money and the blessings continue to flow.

I met my boyfriend three months before my father died. He never got a chance to me him. We were together one night and he asked could he attend my father's funeral and I said yes, sure. I didn't think he would want to come so I didn't ask. He also asked could he bring his father and I said yes. His father is a minister. His father spoke at my father's funeral and he had never met my father. I knew the day of the funeral my boyfriend would be my husband.

And you know what? He became my husband and I became his wife May 21, 2005.

[DSTGIRL_32]

My BID came 3 months after my father passed. After a failed relationship, I was ready and preparing to live the rest of my life alone at the ripe of age of 29. To make a long story short... I went on a prearranged date with a person that I have known all of my life and we were talking about fathers and I broke all the way down and had a long and hard cry right on his shoulder. He just held me and let me cry all over his shoulder. I didn't feel bad about crying and I wasn't embarrassed at all. He apologized about bringing up the subject but I told him that was OK. I understand you wanting to talk about your father because like me you have a good father also. The funny part is that both of our fathers worked together. So anyway...we dated and dated from 08/15/93 and got engaged on 12/19/94 and got married on 10/07/95.