Little Sister Adoptions

dzturtlelambsig · #1 02-16-2006, 08:27 PM

I was just wondering if any of you experienced little sister adoptions in your chapters. One of the girls that is supposed to be one of my BEST friends is going to adopt my little sister. My little is the only little that I have left in the chapter to carry on my family tree which goes back to the founders of the chapter. It's really affecting me in a bad way. It has totally ruined my friendship, I'm not speaking to my little sister, and I feel very alienated from the chapter. Is this right? Should they be able to do this?
Any input would be helpful!
Thanks!
DZ Love and Mine!

AchtungBaby80 · #2 02-16-2006, 08:37 PM

I posted in the thread you started in the other forum. Basically, I never heard of any little getting adopted unless her big happened to quit or something like that. It wasn't a very common thing. I'm wondering why your friend is trying to steal your little? It doesn't sound very friend-like.

Were you and your little close? Sadly enough, I never knew my little very well (or my big, for that matter) so if she had wanted another big sis I probably would have understood, but if we were closer then I would've been crushed.

dzturtlelambsig · #3 02-16-2006, 08:41 PM

I thought we were close........ apparently not close enough.... I tried to show her and tell her how much I loved that she was my little sister. Unfortunately the girls in the chapter what knew what kind of big sister I was (I loved to spoil my family tree rotten!) think the situation sucks. However the girls that don't know me are taking their sides..... I don't want to divide anyone on the situation, but it's almost like losing a child........ It's really hurt me.

dvs-dz · #4 02-16-2006, 10:16 PM

"Adoptions" were always informal in my chapter. My big sister transferred after my freshman year, so a year or so later I asked another sister to be my adopted big. I had three little sisters, so when I graduated, some of them asked other girls to be their adopted big. Really, it was no big deal - just a way of having a closer relationship.

I think you're taking this far too seriously. It would seem like your little sister needs a sister who is there on campus to be her mentor. You are graduated. And away from campus. That is the reality you have to accept.

Try to accept her choices and mend your relationship with her. For the sake of your chapter, let it slide. Focus on where you are now (starting a career?) and where you want to be. College is over.

Good luck!

33girl · #5 02-17-2006, 10:30 AM

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Originally posted by dvs-dz
"Adoptions" were always informal in my chapter. My big sister transferred after my freshman year, so a year or so later I asked another sister to be my adopted big. I had three little sisters, so when I graduated, some of them asked other girls to be their adopted big. Really, it was no big deal - just a way of having a closer relationship.

I think this is the problem here. It doesn't sound "informal" at all, it sounds like this will change the family lines and such.

dvs-dz · #6 02-17-2006, 05:30 PM

From the perspective of someone who will be attending her 25th college reunion this fall -

I do remember being newly graduated and still quite interested in what was going on in the chapter. In the 25 years since graduation, 5 of my pledge sisters and I have had an annual reunion 24 of those years. "Family trees", who was who's big or little, or whatever other titles you have just don't matter. What does matter is keeping in touch and keeping good relationships with your sisters.

As I said earlier, work on your relationship with your little sister, try not to worry about big/little titles or family trees. After 25 years, it will be the relationship that will be important.