meeting someone I never expected to see again.

anaballerina · #1 09-14-2005, 08:49 AM

About two years ago, I met this really awesome guy. We went out, but soon decided it wasn't the right time. We'd pretty much lost touch until very recently. He found my old contact info and got in touch. We've been talking for the past couple weeks and ended up going to a concert with some of his friends. Things went so much better than they did the first time, partly because the pressure was off and we could just enjoy the night.

I'm really happy with how things turned out, but I'm trying to fight the emotional side right now (the reason I'm writing). I'm really trying to not dwell on how much I like him (I'm really picky, so often I'm ambivalent about the guys I date..not this one though). I'm also trying not to think about the "will he call me" or "what happens next." I'm not sure if he is thinking friendship only, so it's hard to know if the 48 hr. rule applies (he'll call in 2 days if he's interested) and letting him make the next move is something I should follow (I probably will follow the latter in any case).

The good thing is I have so many great things going on with my life (the new sisters, school, work, ballet) that if it doesn't work out, I'll be totally distracted so I won't dwell, but I'm not sure I'd 100% forget and move on (I moved on this past two years, but he's always been in the back of my mind).

If anything, I just can't believe how much I like this guy. I'm beyond happy that we were able to re-connect [(we knew each other in one city, then each of us subsequently moved (without each other knowing) and ended up in the same new city]. My rational side says coincidence, but I can't believe how we've been given a second chance to cross paths.

Ultimately, I want it to be his decision whether we go out again. I know I like him, but I would like it to be mutual (friendship or otherwise). At this point, I guess I just need to think positive (if it was meant to be it will work). I also really need to write my history homework so I can't dwell any longer, but if you do have any thoughts I'd love to read them!

cashmoney · #2 09-14-2005, 09:16 AM

Ivana-

What sorority did you join?

anaballerina · #3 09-14-2005, 09:28 AM

cash....

see your PM box

cashmoney · #4 09-14-2005, 09:34 AM

done...

Now check yours.

James · #5 09-14-2005, 04:06 PM

If its his decision how can it be mutual at all?

Also, he has already made the first move ( a huge one), why not contact him to show that you are definitely interested beyond friendship? Thats just logical because its what you want and he isn't a mind reader.

Men can be just as emotionally insecure as women when they like someone.

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Originally posted by anaballerina

Ultimately, I want it to be his decision whether we go out again. I know I like him, but I would like it to be mutual (friendship or otherwise). At this point, I guess I just need to think positive (if it was meant to be it will work). I also really need to write my history homework so I can't dwell any longer, but if you do have any thoughts I'd love to read them!

cashmoney · #6 09-14-2005, 04:49 PM

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Originally posted by James
Men can be just as emotionally insecure as women when they like someone.

Hi! How are you? Did you ever know Cashmoney when he was 20?

-Its amazing what older women, dumb bitches and sorority girls can do to a man in 5 1/2 years.

anaballerina · #7 09-14-2005, 09:54 PM

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Originally posted by James
If its his decision how can it be mutual at all?

Also, he has already made the first move (a huge one), why not contact him to show that you are definitely interested beyond friendship? Thats just logical because its what you want and he isn't a mind reader.

Men can be just as emotionally insecure as women when they like someone.

Hey James...

So I'm going to call him tommorow. (I've always found day after to be a little soon). He is not the easiest guy to figure out, but he gave some signals that makes it seem that we should definitely keep chatting.

Thanks for your input...normally I can figure this stuff out on my own, but I like this guy so much it's insane!

BobbyTheDon · #8 09-14-2005, 10:39 PM

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Originally posted by anaballerina
but I like this guy so much it's insane!

awwwww.... how kewwwwwwt

cashmoney · #9 09-15-2005, 07:18 AM

Funny; Bobby, James and myself are the only ones to respond in this thread.

anaballerina · #10 09-15-2005, 08:13 AM

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Originally posted by BobbyTheDon
awwwww.... how kewwwwwwt

so Cash...James seems legit, but what's up with Bobby.....

cashmoney · #11 09-15-2005, 08:39 AM

Bobby's cool. He's a Pike, and a California Pike at that. I just think ShadeyKD is in love with him.

ShaedyKD · #12 09-15-2005, 08:10 PM

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Originally posted by cashmoney
I just think ShadeyKD is in love with him.

Don't be jealous!

anaballerina · #13 09-16-2005, 08:09 AM

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Originally posted by BobbyTheDon
whats up with Bobby......????????

Who are you! 30 post and you're already calling out a legend!?

I knew I would get a reaction after that post. I've only read like 3 of your posts so I don't know about "the legend."

BTW....I'm a South Florida Phi Sig...

cashmoney · #14 09-16-2005, 09:12 AM

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Originally posted by ShaedyKD
Don't be jealous!

I got my hands full with a XO and an ADPi right now.

anaballerina · #15 09-16-2005, 10:41 AM

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Originally posted by anaballerina
BTW....I'm a South Florida Phi Sig...

Your turn.....Cash says you're a Cali Pike...where in Cali are you from?