Help! Sig Ep Lavaliere!!!!

[SLOTheta]

Hi there All!
My boyfriend is a Sig Ep Alum, but I'm still in school. We've been contemplating the whole lavaliere idea, but he's been out of school and where he went, they really didn't hold much importance to lavaliering your girl friend. On my campus, it's a very special thing for every sorority girl.

Our question, does Sig Ep do anything special when a lavaliere is given? Ceremony? Song? Poem?

Thanks!

[AlphaGam1019]

If you are asking about what HIS chapter would do, I would say it would depend on the chapter.

[Sue_XO]

I don't know about Sig Ep but I assume all groups do something special for their brothers. My bf was an ATO alum and he lavaliered me. It meant a lot to me - candlelights are always special! But ATO did not do anything because he was an alum. So I hope your bf takes the next step!!

[moe.ron]

Check your PM.

[aephi alum]

There are two things involved here ~ what your boyfriend's fraternity does, and what your sorority does.

I don't know what Sig Ep does ~ as I've never dated a Sig Ep ~ nor have I ever been lavaliered by an active member of any fraternity. What the local Sig Ep chapter does (if applicable) is really up to them. Your boyfriend should inquire with the local collegiate chapter, or if none, with the local alum chapter. If they don't want to do anything, I would suggest your bf just buy the lavalier and present it to you.

As for your sorority ~ I can only share my story. My husband is an independent. He learned about the lavaliering ritual, but since he is not a member of a fraternity, he couldn't "lavalier" me in the traditional sense. Instead, he chose a pendant, a little gold heart, and gave that to me as a "lavalier". My sorority then held a formal candle-lighting ceremony for me, just as if I had been lavaliered by a fraternity member. (BTW, I was my chapter's ritualist at the time ~ so saying "guess what, we're lavaliering someone tonight" held a lot of weight )

[Hootie]

Congratulations!!!!!!!!!!!!! My mother has my father's Sig Ep pin (probably a big "no no"). Let us know what happens!

[Alaska_SigEp]

In my chapter, Alaska Alpha, we don't do lavaliering. If the couple is really serious we do pinning. We have a public ritual in the ritual book for it and your boyfriend presents you with his badge. This is taken very seriously. I am actually pinning my girlfriend next week and am really excited about it....

[LightBulb]

Originally posted by Alaska_SigEp
I am actually pinning my girlfriend next week and am really excited about it....

AWW!

[Jestor]

Originally posted by Alaska_SigEp
In my chapter, Alaska Alpha, we don't do lavaliering. If the couple is really serious we do pinning. We have a public ritual in the ritual book for it and your boyfriend presents you with his badge. This is taken very seriously. I am actually pinning my girlfriend next week and am really excited about it....

From this post, it sounds as if lavaliering and pinning are two separate things. I'm assuming lavaliering involves lavaliers and pinning involves the pin allowed for sweethearts, etc? Is there any other significant difference between the two?

[FSUZeta]

in my day, lavaliering was akin to "going steady", pinning was pre-engagement, and of course, an engagement ring meant a trip up the aisle.

in our candlelight circle, once around was for lavaliering, twice around was for pinning and if we made it to three times around, it was really exciting!!

[33girl]

Originally posted by Jestor
From this post, it sounds as if lavaliering and pinning are two separate things. I'm assuming lavaliering involves lavaliers and pinning involves the pin allowed for sweethearts, etc? Is there any other significant difference between the two?

Lavaliering comes before pinning. Pinning is where you give the girl your actual fraternity pin, not a sweetheart pin (whatever that is).

Pinning is way more hardcore than lavaliering.

[sylmellon]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Lavaliering comes before pinning. Pinning is where you give the girl your actual fraternity pin, not a sweetheart pin (whatever that is).

Pinning is way more hardcore than lavaliering.

From what I know, a sweetheart pin is a jewelry piece designed to be given to a designated sweetheart, much in the same way she might be given flowers or a spa gift certificate - as either a "thank you" or a "congratulations", depending on the sweetheart tradition and role of the sweetheart in the given chapter. I don't think all organizations have them, but many do... the Delta Tau Delta one, for instance, is a modified version of the brothers' membership badge, with some symbols and turned on a diagonal to differentiate it. I know KA order also has one, and many organizations also offer them in some sort of necklace form... you can check them out at http://www.hjgreek.com ... just look for your organization, and then it's usually under "sweetheart / gifts". Very different from lavaliering or pinning.

[KSigkid]

Originally posted by 33girl


Lavaliering comes before pinning. Pinning is where you give the girl your actual fraternity pin, not a sweetheart pin (whatever that is).

Pinning is way more hardcore than lavaliering.

That depends on if the chapter even does pinning; mine did not (as most of the chapter didn't even own a badge). For us, lavaliering = pinning = pre-engagement.

[Optimist Prime]

lavalier was all we had....if I had lavaliered a girl, and wanted to take to the next "level" I would have given her my pledge button (what we call pin)

[DeltAlum]

Originally posted by FSUZeta
in my day, lavaliering was akin to "going steady", pinning was pre-engagement, and of course, an engagement ring meant a trip up the aisle.

I think that's the "traditional" way it works(ed) -- at least back when I was in school.