Sperm Thief

The Original Ape · #1 01-31-2001, 06:57 PM

A woman is secure in her career. She is single, with no man in her life(by choice). She wants a baby, and she wants it now. she doesn't want to get married, and she doesn't want a romantic, serious relationship. She just wants a baby. She has some idea of what she wants her baby to look like. One day while clubing, She encounters a brutha that potentially could give her a baby that looks like what she wants. She seduces him, and despite using contraception, she conceives. Is this wrong?

EspeRHO · #2 01-31-2001, 07:09 PM

My answer to that question is yes, that is wrong. Who is she to deny a brother a child that he has. Is it right for him to live a life maybe never knowing that the lady he had that one night stand with conceived his child, no it is not right. Even if he didn't want the baby, he has a right to know what happens. You just do not do that sort of thing. If she wanted a baby that bad, she should have went to a sperm bank, and reviewed all the files that they keep on the men, telling their information, and picked from that. That's what sperm banks are for, at least those men know that even though they donated their sperm, the may never have anything to do with a child that is conceived by it. This is just my opinion, to your hypothetical question.

prettypoodle6 · #3 01-31-2001, 07:12 PM

Interesting....

If they used contraception "correctly" but she conceived cause it failed, then I dont think thats wrong. Cause whether or not her wishful thinking was to have a child, they did the responsible thing but hey, isht happens....

But if she knowingly lied or tampered with contraception then thats a whole 'nuther story! I would definately say shes in the wrong. Only problem is no one can really call her on it cause its hard to prove.

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MIDWESTDIVA · #4 01-31-2001, 07:39 PM

Is what wrong? Is it wrong that she had sex with a man she just met? I think so, but I don't think that's what you meant.

Is it wrong that she conceived a child with this man and has no interest in including him in her child's life? Yeah, that's wrong too. Realistically, a lot of men probably don't care that they have some kids out here that they don't know about. Nobody's hitting them up for child support, so it's all good. All I can say is brothas need to use their heads. I mean the head with 2 eyes.

Chi_ZETABBW · #5 02-01-2001, 01:20 AM

I guess the issue of right and wrong would depend on who's shoes you are in. The 2 individuals in this story, as well as many other factors. I'm not going to talk on the morality issue, because society has gone to pot when it comes to morality.
As a divorced woman, who has never had a child, who happens to be in mid-life, making good money, definitely enough to support myself and a child comfortable, I would inform my one-night stand of the circumstances, and after that I would raise my child, best I know how, using the men in my family as the male role model.
This country and people are so selfish, me included at times. It would be a very selfish act for that woman to do, but I can understand why she would.

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mccoyred · #6 02-01-2001, 09:11 AM

Greetings, Ladies of SGRho!

I am sad to say that I have a cousin who could have been the female in the abovementioned story. She purposely shopped around until she found a babydaddy.

The brother did not know her intentions but has accepted full responsibility to the point where his non-court-mandated child support pays about 60% of ALL her monthly bills. The sad thing is he has had to threaten to sue for custody because she wanted to move back home, 6 hours away. Since he pays the bills, she had to stay. Another sad thing is that instead of calling him daddy or pop or dad, the child calls him Father. Mind you the babydaddy spends as much time as the mother allows with his son.

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Lady_Tenor · #7 02-01-2001, 04:54 PM

What is this world coming to? I know a girl whose significant other wanted a child. Supposedly he poked a hole in the condom and got pregnant. I say supposedly because I certainly was not an eyewitness! :-)

Anywho, she got pregnant and had an abortion. I know this thread is from the woman's point of view, but come on! A baby is a baby, not a material possession! What is this world coming to?!

p.s. Chi_ZetaBBW, I tried to follow your link in your signature, but I always get an error message. You might want to look into that...let me know when it's fixed so I can visit your site.

God bless everyone.

blu_theatrics · #8 02-02-2001, 01:17 AM

The bottom line is no matter what your circumstances my be to purposely deny a child of a father or a father of his child is wrong

PrettySqueaky · #9 02-07-2001, 12:42 AM

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Originally posted by mccoyred:
Greetings, Ladies of SGRho!

I Mind you the babydaddy spends as much time as the mother allows with his son.

What's wrong with being called Father? My little man says dah-dah (he's only 16 months) and now he's working on dah-dah dane. His daddy name is Dwayne and he's the only prominent male figure around my child...except family members. And he says Dah-Dah Dane like he's his step-dad or something.

But about this situation. What can I say they are some trifling ass people in this world. That's why you have to be careful who you sleep with.