It isn't for everyone

Kymberleigh · #1 10-23-2000, 07:00 PM

I just want to say that being Greek isn't for everyone. I have close friends that would be miserable if they were Greek, and in the same turn I would be miserable if I wasn't.

I just think that this is important to realize, because I see so many posts where people write about how they hated their org. or didn't agree with it. Well, then they can leave, disaffiliate, depledge, quite their line, etc... The point I'm making is that one has plenty of time to leave before they are fully initiated. So, when one is pledging an org. they need to be thinking for themselves about what is best for them and if they would be happy in that org. forever, because being greek is forever.

My point is that being Greek isn't for everyoone. So, if you pledge or activate and then decide it isn't for you the reality of the situation is that it probably wasn't ever for you. Maybe you joined because you feel in love with the idea of letters, maybe because it seemed like the only thing to do, maybe because everyone else was doing it. I joined because I was destined to be a TriDelta. I love my house, no matter what, no matter good or bad times, that is my oath and that is my heart.

So, for those who are intent upon bashing the idea of Greek life give it up, maybe it wasn't for you. Or maybe you had a bad experience, but whatever the reason you hate it or dislike it. I love my house and Greek life more than you can ever articulate your disdain for it.

Much Love,

Kymberleigh
Delta Epsilon
Delta Delta Delta

D-Vine · #2 10-23-2000, 08:12 PM

You are absolutly correct, being GREEK is not for everyone. Some people join because they want to look cute in the letters, and you know who they are as soon as you come in contact with them.

I couldn't be a part of any thing I didn't believe in, love and respect.

Alpha Kappa Alpha
4-EVER in my heart!

#3 10-24-2000, 01:15 AM

I certainly agree that if you are unhappy with your organization that you can leave at any time, especially before you become an active member. However, sometimes it is not until you become a member that you find out what that organization is about, what it represents, etc. I for one was thrown for a loop upon learning the meaning of my organization and what we are (suppose) to be about. I also learned things about some of the other organizations (through the grapevine) and was surprised. Of course I knew there would be secrets, rituals, etc. but I had no idea of where they would all stem from. Although I am happy to be a part of my organization, I was a little disappointed.

KarenC725 · #4 10-24-2000, 09:30 AM

Another thing to consider is that as much as we may like to think so, all chapters are not the same. I loved the chapter that I pledged with, then I had to transfer schools. The girls that I attempted to affilate with were nothing like my chapter. It was not fun, I did not feel accepted and bad things happened from there (see said bad things in the "Lost Sister" reply). Greek isn't for everyone, but sometimes it truly is just a campus thing.

Kymberleigh · #5 10-25-2000, 04:40 PM

In my opinion,

If one joins an org. and then decides they no longer want to be affiliated then they should hold enough respect for themselves and what they belonged to not to tell people certain things about their org.

I understand that sometimes things happen and someone doesn't want to be involved, however what I don't understand is how someone can bash an entire org. Just as was stated earlier maybe that chapter was just not a great environment. One should not punish the entire org by spilling details of ceremonies, etc... The org. as a national might very well be terrific and that person might have had a bad experience.

Much Love,

Kymberleigh
Delta Delta Delta

KarenC725 · #6 10-25-2000, 04:46 PM

I still like the organization as a whole and most of the other sisters that I have met. I would NEVER spill the beans so to speak about what goes on though. I have respect for that. I hope you weren't insinuating that I would do something like that.

Kymberleigh · #7 10-26-2000, 08:55 PM

To clarify those things which I posted were not written with anyone specific in mind. I wrote those posts because that is how I feel.

Karen if you feel you fit the description then that's you, I didn't/haven't even read or recall reading anything you've posted.

Much Love,

Kymberleigh
Delta Delta Delta