Just because your mom thinks you're cute...

AXOLiz · #1 10-10-2002, 04:36 PM

...doesn't mean you are.

That's going to be the title of my book.

I don't get it. So there's this guy I sort of like. I get to hear him go on and on about the latest girl he went out with that, "Just wants to be friends." He keeps going out with these skinny, big-boobed "hot" girls, except they don't actually go out unless it's in a group. Basically, he gets crushes on these girls and is then shocked when they don't like him.

HELLO YOU'RE A HUGE DORK!!!

See, I think I can say that because I realize he's kind of nerdy and I still like him. I just want to smack him and tell him that he's not as cute as he thinks he is, that he's pretty damn dorky, and if he would go for this girls that actually like him instead of shooting for these super-hot ones that are way out of his league, maybe he'd actually be dating someone. Just because a girl's not stick thin with a huge chest and blond hair (no offense if that's you, if you've got it, by all means flaunt it) doesn't mean she's not worth your time.

Does anyone else know what I'm feeling here? It's so frustrating listening to someone whine about how the hot girl of the week doesn't like them when you have a pretty good guess why they don't AND you like the boy for that very reason. I'd rather take kind of dorky in a funny way than kind of an asshole any day. Not that I'm not whining now, but still.

OHHH, and then I got to hear him talk about how he was in good shape. Guy totally has a FUPA. Please.

sororitygirl2 · #2 10-10-2002, 05:04 PM

You know... I have had guy friends and dated guys like that before (yes, I am blonde). I always tell my super-picky friends (guys and girls) that I hope they fall in love with the exact opposite of what they think they want, just so they'll learn a lesson and quit being so bratty.

I told one of my girl friends that I hope she ends up with a short, overweight, balding blonde guy who has a hairy chest, wears FUBU and JNCO, drives a teal Geo Metro (with a huge spoiler, of course) and works at Wal-Mart... some of her biggest pet peeves.

FuzzieAlum · #3 10-10-2002, 05:24 PM

Lol, I have a friend at Case who always falls for those chicks (he has a thing for preppie athletic types in particular) and gets these huge crushes, and they're like, "OK, no!" We all like him, he's an OK guy, but he can't seem to fall for anyone who likes him back.

Of course half our friends are convinced he's secretly gay ... his apartment is coordinated, he owns Star Trek Barbie & Ken, and he loves to shop ... so maybe that's what's scaring the chicks off!

sororitygirl2 · #4 10-10-2002, 05:34 PM

Coordinated apartment and shopping... usually okay.

Star Trek Barbie and Ken.. WTF? I would be out the door without stopping to say bye!

AXOLiz · #5 10-10-2002, 06:04 PM

Sad thing is you know you went to Case for too long when you go, "What, Star Trek Barbie and Ken? That's it?"

All the Case guys were like that too - they were uber-nerds in high school and then were the semi-attractive ones all of a sudden in college. Then they'd think they were god's gift to women and think they could get anything with boobs. Please. They were getting the women who were the uber-nerds in their high schools and became the slutty ones when they went to Case and could get some. The vast majority of those of us who were semi-normal and/or not willing to stroke egos a little TOO much were the ones left shaking our heads in confusion.

And now I work with a bunch of state school guys who aren't cute at all and think they're god's gift to women anyway. PLEASE again. Maybe if you shaved your damn neck/back region and shut your damn mouth and weren't so rude to everyone because you think you're super-cool, I'd think you were semi-ok looking.

I don't want to seem horribly shallow. They're really not THAT awful in the looks area. It's just that guys who think they're hot because they are hot are still attractive. You'd probably think twice before dating them, but they're still attractive. Guys who aren't hot who think they are and act like they are only look worse. That "I'm better than you" attitude kills good looks everytime (unless you're Heath Ledger, then you can think you're hot all you want and I'll still like you

).

I'm just frustrated since I've been nothing but nice (not pushover, but friendly and normal) to all these guys I work with, and half of them seem to think they're way too damn good to talk to me. The rest are super nice, it's just that I happen to like one that's an ass. Go figure. That and the super-hot boy (who is EXTREMELY nice) has a girlfriend.

Oh well.

damasa · #6 10-10-2002, 06:09 PM

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Originally posted by AXOLiz
Sad thing is you know you went to Case for too long when you go, "What, Star Trek Barbie and Ken? That's it?"

All the Case guys were like that too - they were uber-nerds in high school and then were the semi-attractive ones all of a sudden in college. Then they'd think they were god's gift to women and think they could get anything with boobs. Please. They were getting the women who were the uber-nerds in their high schools and became the slutty ones when they went to Case and could get some. The vast majority of those of us who were semi-normal and/or not willing to stroke egos a little TOO much were the ones left shaking our heads in confusion.

And now I work with a bunch of state school guys who aren't cute at all and think they're god's gift to women anyway. PLEASE again. Maybe if you shaved your damn neck/back region and shut your damn mouth and weren't so rude to everyone because you think you're super-cool, I'd think you were semi-ok looking.

I don't want to seem horribly shallow. They're really not THAT awful in the looks area. It's just that guys who think they're hot because they are hot are still attractive. You'd probably think twice before dating them, but they're still attractive. Guys who aren't hot who think they are and act like they are only look worse. That "I'm better than you" attitude kills good looks everytime (unless you're Heath Ledger, then you can think you're hot all you want and I'll still like you ).

I'm just frustrated since I've been nothing but nice (not pushover, but friendly and normal) to all these guys I work with, and half of them seem to think they're way too damn good to talk to me. The rest are super nice, it's just that I happen to like one that's an ass. Go figure. That and the super-hot boy (who is EXTREMELY nice) has a girlfriend.

Oh well.

damn, you are all about some guys being cute huh? You are gonna fall in love with some snapperhead now! You jinxed it.....there is no hope for you!

hahahaah

AchtungBaby80 · #7 10-10-2002, 06:10 PM

Well, but at least he isn't one of those guys that's constantly whining about not being cute enough. It's such a turnoff when men dwell on stuff like that...they sound like girls!

justamom · #8 10-10-2002, 07:20 PM

HA!!! AXOLiz- I think this is sooooooo funny! I know what you mean-it's like that comercial where the big bellied guy sucks it in when the "hot" girls walk by! LOL! It's a world of Seinfeld's George across the nation!

I LOVE the title! Hey though, girls can be JUST as guilty...

ANYway, sooner or later they figure it out. Hot is as Hot does!

Too mny of those "cover girls" can't carry on a decent conversation past make-up and clothes. Like Hubby always said-"Thirty years from now, I want to wake up, look across the breakfast table and carry on a conversation." Looks fade, but the beauty inside and the brains are forever! Plus, it helps if you have a strong libido!

librasoul22 · #9 10-10-2002, 07:59 PM

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Originally posted by damasa

damn, you are all about some guys being cute huh? You are gonna fall in love with some snapperhead now! You jinxed it.....there is no hope for you!

hahahaah

HA! Snapperhead! Can I use it, damasa??

Steeltrap · #10 10-10-2002, 08:29 PM

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Originally posted by justamom
Too mny of those "cover girls" can't carry on a decent conversation past make-up and clothes. Like Hubby always said-"Thirty years from now, I want to wake up, look across the breakfast table and carry on a conversation." Looks fade, but the beauty inside and the brains are forever! Plus, it helps if you have a strong libido!

Justamom, that take is 'bout it, 'bout it.

People, this analogy works w/men too -- I don't want some "cover man" (I'm way too old for boys) who is shallow and lacking in basic intelligence, class and values.

damasa · #11 10-10-2002, 09:31 PM

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Originally posted by librasoul22

HA! Snapperhead! Can I use it, damasa??

librasoul22, you can use it all you want

RubberSoul · #12 10-10-2002, 10:42 PM

I think I was kind of "that girl" too. I always made the mistake of believing that these guys wanted to be friends with me, and so I would hang with them and let them call me and such. In the meantime, I would be completely hot for one of their fraternity brothers or something and would be all shocked when they asked me out or came on to me. There was one SAE in particular who was REALLY sweet, and I think a lot of girls would have found him very attractive. He was a little too short for me, but he was cute. Not my type though.....blond hair, blue eyes, kind of preppy-hippie type. SO nice though.....we went to a movie together once in the afternoon on the spur of the moment, and we just kind of hung out together. He gave me an SAE hat to put in the back ledge of my car.....I guess that should have been a warning sign. Anyway he asked me to date party, just casually, as friends, or so I thought. Well in the meantime I started hanging out with this brother of his who was completely evil and demonic, but he was exactly my cup of tea and I had been interested in him for awhile. Well, he asked me to date party too, and since I considered him my boyfriend, naturally I wanted to go with him. So when I told "John" (names have been changed to protect the innocent!) he pretended to understand and everything but I found out he was really upset!!!!!! He ended up going to the party with one of my sisters and it was really awkward, he kind of watched us all night and drank a lot, and it was just all-around bad vibes.

Something I learned is that you cannot beat these guys over the head and make them wake up. Even if he knows that he isn't in those girls' "league" if that is what he is attracted to he is going to continue to chase them. My advice would be to find a "hottie" of your own, be happy, and watch your friend keep falling on his face going after the plastic chicks.

DigitalAngel126 · #13 10-10-2002, 11:31 PM

pardon me for not being up on the dorky guy describing lingo, but what exactly is FUPA????

ThetaLove · #14 10-10-2002, 11:36 PM

I feel soo out of the loop, but I was just wondering the same thing about a FUPA. I read it on another thread as well and I couldn't figure it out.

Dionysus · #15 10-11-2002, 12:34 AM

FUPA=Fat upper PUSSY area.

Well, you all asked!