Dating Greek

GirlWithPearls · #1 10-21-2003, 12:24 AM

I was wondering how people feel about dating other greeks....I am a young alumnae of Sigma Kappa and although I stay close with my chapter and sisters, I don't feel like I'll ever met the man of my dreams. I have always had this feeling that I would want to marry a man who was in a fraternity....Now that I'm meeting people in the "real world" I'm wondering if it's bad of me to use that as a dating tool. Like were they greek or not....I'm thinking we need a match.com type of thing for greeks only? So....any single fraternity men out there??.....

mullet81 · #2 10-21-2003, 12:35 AM

Fraternity men are definitely some of the finest and greatest guys I've ever met. Theyre usually very outgoing, philinthropic, good "friends" and generally great guys. But there are plenty of non-greek men out there that have all of these characteristics and more. So by limiting yourself to only greek men, youre missing out on a ton of great men, one of whom may be perfect for you!

Think of it as a bonus if you find a guy you like who is also greek!

And I totally know what youre talking about... I know i could totally see myself marrying a greek guy and 10 years down the road when we're at homecoming or alumni gaherings we can stop by his old fraternity house on the way to my old sorority house - its fun stuff, but it's not everything!

GirlWithPearls · #3 10-21-2003, 12:39 AM

I know that I wouldn't turn my cheek to someone just because they weren't in a fraternity. I guess it kind of goes back to how every girl wants a guy that's as good to her as her daddy and my daddy is a proud Kappa Sigma. Ahhh I'm just a romantic girl dreaming I guess!

MeLikey · #4 10-21-2003, 01:21 AM

Being Greek, I think it would be cool to marry someone in a fraternity. However, I have never based my dating on the criteria of them being Greek. There are plenty of great guys who just didn't go Greek, whether they were too busy with school or athletics.

breathesgelatin · #5 10-21-2003, 04:23 AM

At my school since 85% of guys are Greek it's pretty impossible NOT to date one!

ThetaPrincess24 · #6 10-21-2003, 10:10 AM

A lot of my ex's have been greek, and a guy I currently have interest with happens to be Greek. However, if I meet someone that isnt Greek, but I feel is a great guy by my standards, I certainly wont "not consider" him just because he doesnt happen to be greek, I think that would be silly, but he would need to respect my enthusiam for my sorority though.

ZTAngel · #7 10-21-2003, 10:18 AM

I never intentionally tried to date only greeks. Once you're in a sorority, the friends you make tend to be greek. I met guys when I went on socials and, of course, they were greek.

Rio_Kohitsuji · #8 10-21-2003, 11:40 AM

I dated GDI's for quite some time, but I definately prefer fraternity men. I mean, who else will be cool w/you doing your "sorority thing" and not whine about it?

Munchkin03 · #9 10-21-2003, 11:46 AM

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Originally posted by TKE209Sweethrt
I mean, who else will be cool w/you doing your "sorority thing" and not whine about it?

Um, my very GDI boyfriend of four years has been very cool about my doing sorority stuff. Not ONCE has he ever whined about the stuff I did as a collegian, or now as an alumna. He understands that Greek Life isn't for him, but it's been an excellent thing for me. He's even helped out my sisters when they need "guy" things.

So, that stuff isn't an issue of GDI v. Greek, it's just an issue of mature v. immature.

KillarneyRose · #10 10-21-2003, 11:58 AM

My college boyfriend was greek as were all of the boys I dated on the side, but my husband went to a school that doesn't even have a greek system. You just can never tell!

One thing about dating a greek, though, is that you have something in common right off the bat. It can be a great ice breaker.

HBADPi · #11 10-21-2003, 12:46 PM

My ex was greek. it worked for us when we were together since we both had chapter at the same time and our time commitments to each of our chapters was more or less the same so neither of us could really whine that being involved in greek life took time away from being together. Plus since fraternity/sorority pinnings are done publicly and the girl gets serenaded by her boyfriend's fraternity in front of her whole sorority, its your 5 minutes of fame at school and its really touching.

But on the flip side, my chapter and his chapter were very close, there was a lot of dating going on between the two and just in general a lot of close friendships. This made it hard because it was like everyone was involved in our relationship. Its like when people say when they get married they marry not just their significant other but the parents as well. It was something similar, I wasnt just dating my ex, I was dating his entire fraternity!! It was even more frustrating after we broke up because everyone and their mom had something to say about it and we just werent allowed to live it ourselves.

Sistermadly · #12 10-21-2003, 12:57 PM

I think you should use any resource available to find a mate, but don't discount someone just because he isn't a fraternity man.

Rudey · #13 10-21-2003, 01:30 PM

Sorry, I only date Italian.

-Rudey
--I'm like an Italian stalion but not really since I'm not Italian and not a horse either.

texas*princess · #14 10-21-2003, 01:41 PM

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Originally posted by GirlWithPearls
I was wondering how people feel about dating other greeks....I am a young alumnae of Sigma Kappa and although I stay close with my chapter and sisters, I don't feel like I'll ever met the man of my dreams. I have always had this feeling that I would want to marry a man who was in a fraternity....Now that I'm meeting people in the "real world" I'm wondering if it's bad of me to use that as a dating tool. Like were they greek or not....I'm thinking we need a match.com type of thing for greeks only? So....any single fraternity men out there??.....

I'm somewhat confused by your post. The first part of it sounds like you wanted to use your greek ties with your chapter and sisters as a way to meet greek men, and then towards the end it sounds like you want a match.com for greeks only.

I personally agree with others who say you shouldn't discount a guy because he never went Greek. And I also feel like it's weird to "use" your chapter as a "dating tool" to meet greek men. But I could have completely misunderstood what you were trying to say

cashmoney · #15 10-21-2003, 02:15 PM

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Originally posted by GirlWithPearls
I was wondering how people feel about dating other greeks....

I try to stay away from Greek girls now days. My first freshman year I went crazy over Greek women and stayed that way for the next 3 yrs. I have an array of exgirlfriends, most of whom were Greek. Now when I look back I realize they were too b!tchy and I was too much of a d!ck. It was a horrible combination, that would explain why I was a serial dater in a certain house. For me, the best GFs I've had ( with the exception of one ) ended up not being Greek. However, I think Greek women vary between college towns and non-college towns. In college towns a large part of them seem to be stuck up, at universities in big cities they don't seem that way at all. Not all greek girls in college towns are b!tchy in my view. You do have that 25% of them that are extremely cool to hang out with and you often find yourself asking the question "Why the hell is she in a sorority?" I know a few of these girls, emphasis on FEW. In my college town the smart girls who became greek and who were actually pretty cool ended up dropping out for the most part by the middle of their Jr. year or start of their Senoir year. I didn't really notice it until after living there for a couple of years. When I asked some of them why they dropped out after being in it for 2 yrs, most of them said it was all a bunch of B.S. that they didn't feel like dealing with anymore. And this was a big school, boasting 60,000+ on paper. The greek community is pretty big, and sorority rush is one of the most ruthless in the nation. In any case, I could careless if a girl is Greek or not. The person matters more than the affiliation these days. And outside of a college town, I rarely meet girls who are affiliated with a GLO. In fact, most people in the real world could care less what GLO you were in except for greeks themselves. Now that I look back on it all I realise that the only reason why I wanted them to be greek was so that I could show them off as if they were a prized trophy, and I think they did the same to an extent when I was around their sisters. Its all a soap opera if you ask me. But thats not to say that I still don't get turned on when I meet a cute ZTA, Alpha Gam or a DG.

I think a girl being Greek can add more flavor to the relationship, but its not required.