Do any locals get any respect from other GLO's?

Logistix3_7 · #1 03-19-2004, 02:58 AM

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Rio_Kohitsuji · #2 03-20-2004, 11:43 PM

If you're having trouble with getting repect from the other GLO's, investigate why. Are some of your members being rude to the other organizations? Also, kill 'em w/kindness no matter what, PNM's will see that and react to it. Good luck hon

veemers · #3 03-23-2004, 06:45 PM

It really depends on what your campus is like. My organization gets respect from some people and gets no love from others, but that's the way all of our greek houses have it - local and national alike. Here, you'll find that nationals take pride in their national status and that there are places and people who make assumptions about locals. I'm sure all of your members are wonderful women, so all you really can do is just keep being wonderful and rise above everything that you might face. Then people will see your organization for its ideals and respect its members for upholding those ideals.

Stay strong, that's my motto!

SigPhiSunshine · #4 04-08-2004, 05:35 AM

we get a lot of respect from most of the fraternities, but the sororities are another story, they dont like us. i over heard a delta zeta at greek week say that we didnt know how to do anything right and that we should be kicked off campus. it doesnt bother us really, if they want to be negative, let them. meanwhile, we are building on up and climbing that ladder to the top.

Zetagymnast · #5 04-14-2004, 07:33 PM

On my campus we get respect from all other GLOs. We are liked by everyone. The frats love us and the sororities chill with us all the time. We even much respect from the national GLOs even though we are a local cause we rep so well as a local.

AlethiaSi · #6 04-16-2004, 07:05 AM

we're the only local sorority on campus and we almost died out (i'm sure a lot of you read my early posts) and when we started building back up and getting rid of the stigma associated with us- most of the sororities were supportive- 3 of them were really- but one of them is causing a lot of problems with us- and its pretty difficult... they say stuff about us at rush- talk trash about us- and spread terrible rumours... we knowt hat they are jealous and threatened by us- and they are in danger of losing their charter b/c of money problems.... i would never wish that upon them... but i definately wish they could cut the crap and just let us be....

the fraternities and sports teams are awesome to us... at first it was like pulling teeth trying to get them to mix with us (the national fraternities) but now we have to beat them off with sticks ( lol) we stay loyal to the ones that were there for us in the beginning (the other small locals) and we don't run off and become obsessed with the hot fraternities... its all about moderation....

its still a struggle getting rid of our stereotype... and its a hell of a lot of work getting girls and "competing" with the national sorortities... but when i see my girls and know waht we're about... its worth it...

XiDelt_Kathleen · #7 04-19-2004, 11:18 AM

Hey there.. I'm sure Greek life is different up here in Ottawa, Canada.. But on the three campuses here in Ottawa, there are several local sororities (at least three), and a national fraternity and a local fraternity. I'm a member of Xi Delta Theta, local at Carleton University. We are granted a lot of respect within the Greek Community. But I think regardless of if your international, national or local, you're always going to get some measure of grief or strife from everyone that isn't the same.. Internationals might think we're not a "real" sorority, might not see why we joiend locals.. But we look at it this way-- we make up our own rules, we decide what is important to us -- that sort of thing. I like being in a local sorority -- although there are advantages and disadvantages.

Good luck with the rest of your year

Kathy

AGDee · #8 04-26-2004, 07:10 PM

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Originally posted by SigPhiSunshine
we get a lot of respect from most of the fraternities, but the sororities are another story, they dont like us. i over heard a delta zeta at greek week say that we didnt know how to do anything right and that we should be kicked off campus. it doesnt bother us really, if they want to be negative, let them. meanwhile, we are building on up and climbing that ladder to the top.

I need to tell you a little secret! I am an AGD from Eastern (1984) and an international volunteer too. I met with the Exec Council officers from Eastern's chapter just a few weeks ago and asked how your chapter was doing and heard nothing but what a great group of women you are! So, the AGDs at EMU definitely respect you! I respect you too. For as long as I can remember, your chapter has had it's ups and downs. I've seen your chapter struggle with 5 members and I've seen it pull itself up by the boot straps and get up to 25 or 30 members too! I have to say, it is the most determined chapter I've ever seen! 107 years is a very long time for a local to keep going! You have a lot to be proud of!

Dee

DZRaider · #9 08-18-2004, 04:24 PM

Sorry to crash, but I wanted to put my two cents in....even if this is an old post.

You have to give respect to get respect. And, if you give respect, but don't get respect, you're the bigger person. So, either way, you win.

Just my two cents...good luck in all that you do!!!!

KSUViolet06 · #10 08-18-2004, 05:28 PM

Well my campus had a local (Phi Gamma Pi). They were about 15 or so years old when they closed this past spring. They were at their peak around the early 90's, they had about 40-50 sisters,a house and everything. It's my understanding that there were some disagreements and personal issues amongst the sisters, and many of them dropped. Their numbers went down and they lost their house around 1999 -2000. Their numbers steadily declined and more sisters left. By the time I came to Kent in 2002, they were down to about 5 sisters. They participated in formal rush that fall and got 0 new members (quota was about 25).

They didn't get a whole lot of respect on campus and were pretty much invisible which was kinda sad. If you mentioned Phi Gam to another greek, they'd pretty much be like, "what?".

I actually knew one of the sisters, she tried really hard to get their #'s up and get their respect, but it just didn't happen.

I do think it's possible for locals to be respected, though. If they respect other greeks, show up to events and participate in things. My school just isn't a good place for locals, I guess.

ihearttrisigma · #11 08-18-2004, 06:43 PM

Hi

I found this thread interesting but in our case it is exactly the opposite. We are the only national sorority on a campus entirely of locals. When we were in the process of getting approval to be recognized and installed it was extremely difficult for locals to accept us. We received hate mail, messages, and were made to feel like what we were doing was almost sacriligious

. We are still considered the outsiders in many cases though it has gotten better with each incoming class.
I just wanted to add that to the conversation and I agree if you give respect you get respect. We always tell potential members that we would rather have them be somewhere that they fit and are happy..even if it isn't with us.

Jessica

#12 08-18-2004, 07:03 PM

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Originally posted by ihearttrisigma
Hi

I found this thread interesting but in our case it is exactly the opposite. We are the only national sorority on a campus entirely of locals. When we were in the process of getting approval to be recognized and installed it was extremely difficult for locals to accept us. We received hate mail, messages, and were made to feel like what we were doing was almost sacriligious . We are still considered the outsiders in many cases though it has gotten better with each incoming class.
I just wanted to add that to the conversation and I agree if you give respect you get respect. We always tell potential members that we would rather have them be somewhere that they fit and are happy..even if it isn't with us.

Jessica

My collegiate chapter is in the same boat you're in, I think.

AGD colonized at UH in 1992, but many of the sororities and fraternities were already on campus since UH was founded in the early 1900s. The locals there have a tight knit bond, and we were clearly the outsiders when we came onto campus the first time.

Thankfully we don't get hate mail or bad things like that, but it's tough to maintain a good relationship with them when they openly promote the Greek system in a negative way (hazing their pledges, etc).

We want to keep things friendly, but it's hard to do so without compromising our own ideals. We don't believe in hazing and ridiculing our NMs, nor do we believe in getting piss drunk at parties to be "cool" with the other Greeks.

When they invited us to meet with them in an attempt to revive the Inter-Greek System, they met at a bar over beers, a bar owned by a brother, so needless to say, no business got done and it was just an excuse to get shatfaced.

I have a lot of respect for the locals on my campus and if it's at all possible, it would be great to display a more unified front to the community and hopefully watch each GLO grow with more quality members.

Animosity between GLOs does not help anyone and can spell the downfall for the entire system.

But how can you remain "friends" with a group and at the same time fear that their reputation can ruin yours too?

SigPhiSunshine · #13 08-23-2004, 07:37 PM

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Originally posted by AGDee
I need to tell you a little secret! I am an AGD from Eastern (1984) and an international volunteer too. I met with the Exec Council officers from Eastern's chapter just a few weeks ago and asked how your chapter was doing and heard nothing but what a great group of women you are! So, the AGDs at EMU definitely respect you! I respect you too. For as long as I can remember, your chapter has had it's ups and downs. I've seen your chapter struggle with 5 members and I've seen it pull itself up by the boot straps and get up to 25 or 30 members too! I have to say, it is the most determined chapter I've ever seen! 107 years is a very long time for a local to keep going! You have a lot to be proud of!

Dee

Thanks you so much. that really means a lot. things have been looking up for us, but there are some sororities on campus that still dont think we belong there. but we have had some sororities say nice things about us. were getting bigger and i think that is helping get the respect we deserve.

AGDee · #14 08-23-2004, 07:43 PM

Well good luck with recruitment this year! When I was more directly involved at EMU, sometimes Sig Nu's went through formal recruitment and sometimes they didn't. Are you doing formal this year?

Then again, when I was at EMU there were only 5 sororities total, plus Lambda Chi Crescents and TKE Lil Sisters and 7 fraternities (6 after Phi Sigma Kappa and Phi Sigma Epsilon merged nationally).. the Greek system has grown a lot there!

Back in the day (1984-87)
Sigma Kappa
Alpha Gamma Delta
Sigma Sigma Sigma
Sigma Nu Phi
Alpha Xi Delta

Lambda Chi Alpha
Theta Chi
Phi Sigma Kappa
Phi Sigma Epsilon
Delta Sigma Phi
Tau Kappa Epsilon
Arm of Honor

Dee

SigPhiSunshine · #15 08-23-2004, 08:35 PM

wow yea i guess the greek system has grown. no unfortunately were not doing structured rush. we just dont have the numbers right now to do it. it would be very weird to have our 12 girls in a room when you have 30 girls coming in to see the sorority and what not. were doing it next fall i think.

p.s. its so wierd to hear us refered to as Sig Nu's. now that Sigme Nu ( the fraternity) is on campus, their nick name is Sig Nu so we had to change to Sig Phi. How crappy is that? lol