Etiquette!

[sairose]

Y'know, I continually am annoyed by the lack of etiquette in people in certain situations. For instance:

--open the door for people if they have their hands full. It only take a second.

--maybe this is cause I'm a southern gal, but...if a lady walks in the room and there's nowhere to sit (especially if it's an older woman), a man is supposed to give up his seat for her. Yeah, it may be old fashioned, but it just makes sense.

--DO NOT, DO NOT, DO NOT!!!!!, leave your ringer on if you go to a concert, play, etc. It is extremely rude to the performer(s) and distracting to the audience as well. No call in the world is worth disrupting a performance for.

--on the same line...for petes sakes, people, learn when to clap and when not to if you go to a concert/recital!!! If a piece has more than one movement, YOU DO NOT CLAP BETWEEN MOVEMENTS. Only after the entire piece is finished. No exceptions.

Discuss!

[winnieb]

My biggest annoyance is when we are at a restuarant waiting for a table, the seating (in the waiting section) is full, and there are KIDS sitting there and their parents don't tell the kids to get up so the adults standing can sit.
This bothered me the most when I was pregnant-- 9 months pg and tired of standing, I must continue to stand because lazy, mannerless parent doesn't think their spoiled brat should stand.
I always make my kid stand if there are no seats. If I know my kid is tired or something that prohibits them from standing, then they sit on my lap. If the adult does not sit, I still have my child stand-just in case the person changes their mind.

-wendi

[moe.ron]

Do not bring a 5 months old baby to a 3 hours art film.

[DeltAlum]

Originally posted by sairose
--on the same line...for petes sakes, people, learn when to clap and when not to if you go to a concert/recital!!! If a piece has more than one movement, YOU DO NOT CLAP BETWEEN MOVEMENTS. Only after the entire piece is finished. No exceptions.

That's a hard one for those of us who are musically challanged. Which is probably most of us.

It's generally not meant to be rude -- rather to be appreciative.

Originally posted by sairose


--maybe this is cause I'm a southern gal, but...if a lady walks in the room and there's nowhere to sit (especially if it's an older woman), a man is supposed to give up his seat for her. Yeah, it may be old fashioned, but it just makes sense.

I absolutely agree with this. Even guys I know that are absolute a-holes abide by this rule. I also know many guys who feel that telling certain "locker-room" stories around girls is inappropriate and at a party will wait until they leave the group to do so.

[DeltAlum]

Originally posted by sairose
--maybe this is cause I'm a southern gal, but...if a lady walks in the room and there's nowhere to sit (especially if it's an older woman), a man is supposed to give up his seat for her. Yeah, it may be old fashioned, but it just makes sense.

Going back a few years, I was taught whenever a lady entered a room -- whether their were seats or not -- a gentleman would stand. Simply out of respect.

There are a lot of other things that have gone by the wayside as well.

But it's not all our fault (speaking for the men). When you've been taken to task as being sexist for opening a door, or car door, or walking on the streetside on a sidewalk, or whatever, you tend to stop doing those things.

[Taualumna]

How about kids who run around the restaurant and their parents aren't doing a thing about it? I don't like that. I also don't like it when parents take very, very young children to restaurants and these kids obviously don't want to be there, so they throw tantrums. I understand that there are some cultures where going out is a "family" thing, but in these cultures, kids are also better behaved. If the kids don't want to be there, then don't go to that place!

[33girl]

Originally posted by DeltAlum
But it's not all our fault (speaking for the men). When you've been taken to task as being sexist for opening a door, or car door, or walking on the streetside on a sidewalk, or whatever, you tend to stop doing those things.

I would never be upset if I got on the bus and a man didn't give up his seat for me. After all, he's had a hard day too.

But if it's a pregnant woman or someone who's approximately 130 years old, SOMEONE needs to stand up.

People who leave their cell phones on or let their kids run in movies/restaurants/libraries/bookstores/concerts should be disemboweled while they are still breathing.

[PhiPsiRuss]

Originally posted by 33girl
People who leave their cell phones on or let their kids run in movies/restaurants/libraries/bookstores/concerts should be disemboweled while they are still breathing.

How can they breathe if they are being properly strangled?

[EEKappa]

When I was a collegian, we were told to stand whenever an alumna entered the room as a show of respect. This wasn't a hundred years ago, but it was in the 80's and it was in Atlanta.

How about people who charge into an elevator before letting those who are inside out?

Though it doesn't really qualify as etiquette, I hate, hate, hate when shoppers leave their grocery carts scattered around the store's parking lot. There's a cart corral that will ensure that they don't blow into and damage others' cars (like the Toureg I saw broadsided). It also lets others actually park in empty spots.

Don't even get me started on co-workers who monopolize the network printer, and don't replace the paper.

/rant

I just got Kate Spade's Manners book for Christmas. I'm sure I'll have more to add later.

Originally posted by alphagam-alum

This bothered me the most when I was pregnant-- 9 months pg and tired of standing, I must continue to stand because lazy, mannerless parent doesn't think their spoiled brat should stand.
I always make my kid stand if there are no seats. If I know my kid is tired or something that prohibits them from standing, then they sit on my lap. If the adult does not sit, I still have my child stand-just in case the person changes their mind.

I don't know how the bus system works in your city, but in our buses, the first few seats behind the driver are flagged as courtesy seats, and if an elderly person or a disabled person on a wheelchair (we had those hydraulic lifts on the door) boards the bus, we're encouraged to find other seats and give them up.

I can't stand it when young punks don't give up their seats when the courtesy seats are full. It pisses me off to see the elderly searching for an empty seat when the bus is full.

Show some respect, geez!

[lauralaylin]

Originally posted by sairose


--open the door for people if they have their hands full. It only take a second.

--

This is the one that bugs me the most. I work in a receiving room that has the time clock. I will be carrying a 40 lb box, yet men and women young and old will push past me or make me wait for them to walk by so they can punch in or out. As if letting me walk by quickly will cost them more than 3 cents!

[sugar and spice]

Originally posted by 33girl
I would never be upset if I got on the bus and a man didn't give up his seat for me. After all, he's had a hard day too.

But if it's a pregnant woman or someone who's approximately 130 years old, SOMEONE needs to stand up.

People who leave their cell phones on or let their kids run in movies/restaurants/libraries/bookstores/concerts should be disemboweled while they are still breathing.

Exactly. I don't see the point of a guy giving up his seat for a girl just because she's a girl. Or holding open a door for someone just because they're female. You hold the door open for people because it's a polite thing to do. And that goes for women or men.

Ettiquette should not just be for one gender.

[WVU alpha phi]

Originally posted by Taualumna
How about kids who run around the restaurant and their parents aren't doing a thing about it? I don't like that. I also don't like it when parents take very, very young children to restaurants and these kids obviously don't want to be there, so they throw tantrums. I understand that there are some cultures where going out is a "family" thing, but in these cultures, kids are also better behaved. If the kids don't want to be there, then don't go to that place!

Yesssss that is one of my biggest pet peeves! Loud/misbehaving kids in restaurants drive me insane.

I also don't like when there is a crying baby in church. I understand that of course babies cry, and this is why my church has a SOUNDPROOF crying room in the back! Don't just stand there and try to hush your baby!

[ADPi~Ally]

Originally posted by OohTeenyWahine
I don't know how the bus system works in your city, but in our buses, the first few seats behind the driver are flagged as courtesy seats, and if an elderly person or a disabled person on a wheelchair (we had those hydraulic lifts on the door) boards the bus, we're encouraged to find other seats and give them up.

I can't stand it when young punks don't give up their seats when the courtesy seats are full. It pisses me off to see the elderly searching for an empty seat when the bus is full.

Show some respect, geez!

co-sign

If i see that happen, i give the elderly person my seat.