parents trouble

[DGqueen17]

Ok I know this isnt about a romantic relationship but I'd rather post it here becuz I'm likely to get more mature responses.....


I had a desk in my room at home and my dad asked me if it would be ok if he sold it. I said sure becuz I have another one and I dont really need a desk when I visit and then I forgot he even asked. Well apparently he sold it and was cleaning all my junk out of it and found a bag of weed. Ok I know it sounds cliche but it seriously wasnt my weed.

So he called my mom and told her about it while we having dinner last night. As soon as she got off the phone she made me get up and leave the restaurant and then proceeded to rip me a new one in the car. She also decided to bring up a bunch of other things I've done and basically made me out to be a drunken pothead slut.

As if that wasnt bad enough then THIS happens. My mom has been in town staying with me for a few days so last night she decided to take my car to go get some milk. Well SOMEONE decided to leave a note on my car saying what a f*cking slut I was. Which of course just added to the fire.

So now I don't know what to do to make things right in my parents eyes. They think I'm too immature to be on my own and that I should move home. I've always been honest with them about the things I've done in the past so why would I lie now? I don't think I'm too immature to be on my own. I work and go to school and pay my rent and bills every month. I just feel really horrible. I hate it when my parents feel disappointed in me.....

I am sorry that your mom is acting like this towards you. I know we have all probably been there before. We have all been at the point when it's time for parents to "let go" so-to-speak and the parents just can't let go for some reason. I think maybe you should sit down and talk to your parents and find out what the problem is. Usually, as it is with my parents, there were some communication wires that got crossed or they felt like dreaming something up or someone told them something and didn't get all of the information or got incorrect information.

I think the final solution should just be talking with them and get things straight in their heads. To me, you seem to be a responsible adult paying her own bills, making her own decisions, etc.

[XOMichelle]

I'm sorry! It doesn't sound like a very good situation. I wouldn't move home if you can help it.

How old are you? Age has a lot to do with this. My parents didn't really let go until I was 21, and only know that I am out of school and working do they recognize my decisions as my own. Even though they still have and voice their opinions, they know in the end, I am shaping my life the way I want it to be and I have the final say. Of course, they mostly agree with my choices, so it isn't too hard. I think the hardest thing for them was my decision to not move back to the Midwest, but to say in California.

I would use this opportunity to show how adult you are to your parents and listen to what they are saying. Try and calmly talk about their viewpoints, and realize that they want you to be happy, healthy and successful. That more than anything will show them that you are mature and can make solid decisions.

[aephi alum]

You have to do what's right for you, not your parents. You are out of the house, self-supporting, in the workforce, in school - you are an adult. You don't need your parents' permission or approval for anything you do. If you spend your life trying to win your parents' approval, you will succeed only in making yourself miserable. So they're disappointed in you - so what? Are you disappointed in you? That's what is important. It's your life, not theirs.

About the weed. I will take you at your word that it's not your weed. But your parents won't. Put yourself in their shoes: Would you believe you? It's up to you whether to try to convince them.

Take care.

[Optimist Prime]

tell your mom she's a bitch, tell your dad to fuck off and tell them that if they ever try to contact you again, you will go to the police and get a restraining order

but then again, that might be too extreme

I'm in an up phase, don't listen to me

[DGqueen17]

Originally posted by Optimist Prime
tell your mom she's a bitch, tell your dad to fuck off and tell them that if they ever try to contact you again, you will go to the police and get a restraining order

but then again, that might be too extreme

I'm in an up phase, don't listen to me

Haha that was pretty funny