Booty Call?

[CUGreekgirl]

Its been 2 mnths since my ex and I split. He cheated and went back to his ex. I moved home (4hrs away) and have dated a few times (but nothing serious).

I'm 99.9% sure he's now single (has been for about 3 wks).

I'm tempted to drive up to Clemson this weekend and just "surprise" him. I did mention to him last wk that I may come up and that I would drop by his job and bring him a check (I still owe him $200... don't ask ) and he mentioned that I could just bring it by the apt.

I'm not necessarily interested in anything with him other than sex right now (its been a LONG 2 mnths). Should I make this clear before we do anything or should I just do whatever and not worry about it.

Guys, How would you feel if an Ex just showed up for the weekend for sex and nothing more?

[BabyP]

NO never do it again with an ex. thats like opening up a new can of worms of drama...... you can go to a club and find a cute hotie if you need sex that bad (use protection of course)...... trust me, NEVER EVER go to an ex for booty call and i wouldnt drop by the apt. ask to meet at a public place like the mall or even taco bell and just give him the check and say SEE YA have a nice life and drive away. remember this little phrase" you can do better" and when you feel tempted remember why you broke up!

[CSUSigEp]

Yeah you can sorta get back at him if you just screw him and then leave without a word... Sorta. But I agree, just get laid by another dude...

[winneythepooh7]

don't do it. call bobbythedon

[DZTUBAGIRL]

DON'T DO IT!!! I am in a similar situation right now. I would not recommend doing anything with someone you might still have feelings for. I try to just not have feelings and have my fun but it is not that easy. I need to just stay away from him and you do too. I am all for having fun but you don't want to get your head all screwed up. Good luck making your decision.

[4RunnerStar]

well dont say that youre totally over him and youre just doing it for the sex because youre lying to us and yourself if you say that.

NEVER sleep with an ex (especially a recent one) if you still secretly or subconsciously want something to happen again because he might actually be over you or moving on and just want sex from anybody thats willing and that would hurt you when you start thinking there's still a chance.

if youre just in it for the sex...call another ex that you REALLY ARE over or like BabyP said...go to a club. hit up a club or bar or somewhere youre bound to meet a hot guy and hook up with him. then its truly meaningless because you just met him and there are no feelings other than "ohhhhhhhhh yeaaaah"

and hooking up with hot guys doesnt require knowing a last name or a first name for that matter. you only really need a first name or nickname to call him and then youre not tempted to match your first name with his last name and create a family.

i admit, girls have a hard time getting over some guys while others may not phase us. i'm not trying to be mean or rude or anything but i had to learn the hard way that sometimes the feelings for the EX arent mutual and i just wish girls would stop going back. thats a sure way to get hurt again... so sweetie, save yourself the pain in the long run.

oh um you could sleep with his roomate or best friend though since he did you wrong. if i broke up with a guy i wouldnt do this because its really wrong but if he hurt me i would. its a sweet revenge.

also, i agree that you could make him see what he gave up if you just stop in looking totally gorgeous and hand him the check and say "hmm okay well its been great but i've gotta go so...take care of yourself"

[Lindz928]

Ok, I've done the hooking up with the ex's friend, and that is definately a good way to go if you want to get back at him for hurting you. Yes, it's childish and a little bit petty, but I will say in all honesty that when I did it, it made me feel better. It also helped to hear that someone else finds you attractive- and has ever since you were with their friend. I see it as a good little self confidence booster. BUT, keep in mind that if you do that, you will most likely completely ruin ANY chance of getting back together with your ex. Even if he never found out, YOU would know and if you were back together with him, then that would probably be a tough thing to deal with hiding.

I would also go with not hooking up with the ex at this point- I also know this one from personal experience, and for me it has always ended up just hurting more.

I wm gonna say take 4runnerstar's advice, and just go there looking great and act casual.... Then LEAVE. No matter what his feelings for you have been recently, he will be intruiged and it will make him think about you. It may not make him want you back, but I think it will be a little bit of a slap in the face to make him think, "Damn....."

[starang21]

Originally posted by BabyP
NO never do it again with an ex. thats like opening up a new can of worms of drama...... you can go to a club and find a cute hotie if you need sex that bad (use protection of course)...... trust me, NEVER EVER go to an ex for booty call and i wouldnt drop by the apt. ask to meet at a public place like the mall or even taco bell and just give him the check and say SEE YA have a nice life and drive away. remember this little phrase" you can do better" and when you feel tempted remember why you broke up!

why? shoot....i figure women would be more on the lines of keeping the digits down and just getting with an ex for some loving instead of something new.

[preciousjeni]

Originally posted by starang21
why? shoot....i figure women would be more on the lines of keeping the digits down and just getting with an ex for some loving instead of something new.

As far as you men know, we ARE keeping the digits down... Ladies, I think we've told on ourselves!!!

As for advice, DON'T DO IT for the love of it all! Even if this no longer applies, I hope more people view this thread and realize that this is a BAD IDEA! Not only are you opening up the possibility for your own feelings to flood back, but you're also giving him an opportunity to play you! Obviously, we don't know how things ended, so you two could be the best of friends now. Still, don't do it.

Oh, believe that it would NOT be as great as it was when you were together! Don't con your OWN self into that fantasy!

[DGqueen17]

Just do it girl. Come on sometimes girls just need to get laid too.....

[Lindz928]

Originally posted by DGqueen17
Just do it girl. Come on sometimes girls just need to get laid too.....

I think that's why alot of us have certain guys who we can call for times like that.... Good friends where there are no feelings attached and you can just have fun.

[Rudey]

D you all have stds?

[honeychile]

Originally posted by CUGreekgirl

Guys, How would you feel if an Ex just showed up for the weekend for sex and nothing more?

I'm not a guy (obviously), but I think most guys would look at this as an act of desperation, take the no-obligation sex, and think even less of you. "I got sex AND $200!!!! Am I a stud or what?"

But it's your life, your decision on how you wish to be perceived.

[James]

Sounds great to me. I wouldn't think less of the person. No strings attached sex is like Christmas coming early.

Also, if the guy is harboring any lingering feelings, good or bad, its a great way for him to get them out. In less polite company they call it the Grudge Fuck

ITs like all his pent up feelings escape in his ejaculation.

Originally posted by CUGreekgirl

Guys, How would you feel if an Ex just showed up for the weekend for sex and nothing more?

[Munchkin03]

I wouldn't even give him the check in person. I would send it to him.

Going there, with the intent to sleep with him, smacks of desperation to me.

My experience is that clean breaks are best.