How much do YOUR parents know?

CUGreekgirl · #1 07-20-2004, 04:17 AM

How much do your parents know about the people you date and your sex life.

My mom was one of those "wait til your married" parents. However, she is one of my best friend and I tell her almost everything. I lasted 4 days before I told her I lost my virginity. Suprisingly she wasn't pissed as I thought she'd be.
She also figured out when I was sleeping w/ my last bf before I even told her.

Of course I don't get into the specifics of it, as that would just be weird. But she does know about every guy I've dated and slept with.

She also knows I plan to go hook up w/ the ex-bf this coming up weekend. Considering my mom is 65years old (i'm only 20) and she waited until she was married and has only had sex w/ 1 person in her entire life, she is suprisingly cool about my sex life.

So how much do you tell your parents?

BabyP · #2 07-20-2004, 04:48 AM

my mom knows very very little. I barely bring guys home only if they are "marriage potential". but I always end up dumping them. oh well. I believe parents shouldnt have to know much as long as its legal of course. I am sure my mom knows I am not a virgin but its not said or talked about. My mom is the same way as yours - sex after marriage.

CUGreekgirl · #3 07-20-2004, 05:10 AM

My mom has only met one guy that I've dated (actually it was only 1 date). The rest of the guys I've dated were while I was living away from home. But she knows all about them from me talking to her on the phone and such.

_Lisa_ · #4 07-20-2004, 07:49 AM

I haven't told my parents anything but they've got to know by now. I have my boyfriends & boy friends over while they are away & I often stay the night w/ my boyfriends/ boy friends.

I think my parents put themselves in denial. Its just much easier for them this way.

AlphaFrog · #5 07-20-2004, 08:42 AM

I don't think my mom ever expected for me to wait for marriage. She's a licenced councilor and she's worked with so many teenage/college clients that she knows better. (It's a little harder to live in denial when you hear about pre-marital/teenage sex every day). In fact, when I was with my ex, SHE tried to talk to ME about it. She said when I thought I was ready to have sex with him, I should come talk to her about it (YEAH right, plus she was a little late with that).

Now, this Thursday (after some drama with his parents about moving back to Mexico) my fiance is coming down from IL to live with my parents and I until we close on our house. My parents (well, my mom...my dad doesn't get much say) were debating on putting us in seperate rooms. My mom was talking to a friend about it and she said "HELLO, she's pregnant, what difference does it make if they're in the same room...she can't get MORE pregnant!"

And it wouldn't be pre-marital if we had gotten married when we were planning...but my mom wanted me to wait and focus on the pregnancy without the stress of planning a wedding...and consitering we're living with them and they're helping finance our house, we'll play along with them for now...

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DGqueen17 · #6 07-20-2004, 09:04 AM

My mom knows what I do. If my dad knew he'd have a heart attack......after he got out his shotgun.

Diamond Delta · #7 07-20-2004, 09:59 AM

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Originally posted by BobbyTheDon
well,

in HS I think my mommy was in denial. girls would come by and she thought it was to "study"...or atleast that is what she told herself.

Hey, she never asked...I never told.

then one day she found a box of condoms in my room, and she said in her fobby accent..." YOOOOOU HAAAAAVUH SECK!? YOU HAAAVE SECK?!"

then college rolls by, and as I move back into the house after getting kicked out of an apartment, a few more girls come by. deja vu (and i dont mean the strip club), she was in denial that I was sexually active. Until she walked in on me. Yikes...imagine having your naked ass on top of a girl and your mommy screaming..." AIYA!!!! "...for christ sakes I thought she was playing tennis!

Ahhhhh good times. God I love my mom.

I would have to hang myself. If I were married and pregnant I would still deny it all to my mother. She's my mother ewwww! Oh, she'd like me to talk about it and she'd like for us to be all close like friends. FORGET IT!

swissmiss04 · #8 07-20-2004, 10:10 AM

My parents know nothing but probably assume a lot.

#9 07-20-2004, 10:15 AM

I'm sure my mom is in denial. What she doesn't ask she doesn't have to know. It is something I would much rather not talk about with her. Besides, being in college away from her, she doesn't know about my doctor appointments...or what kind of doctor I see. I keep up with my yearly junk all on my own.

jharb · #10 07-20-2004, 10:19 AM

My mom knows a lot since she pushes for information each time she calls me when I'm up at school. I figure I'll tell her and keep it in the open and if there's a problem she'll stop asking about it. This goes for anything, not just relationships.

That is also how I got the bit of wisdom from her, "It's ok to date as many people at once as possible, you're not married so it's not cheating."

IowaStatePhiPsi · #11 07-20-2004, 10:50 AM

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Originally posted by CUGreekgirl
How much do your parents know about the people you date and your sex life.

So how much do you tell your parents?

I think the last time they knew I was dating someone was either my senior year of HS or the end of my freshman year of college.

Either way- they dont know jack about my love life. And I like it that way. If I ever get someone special and important to me then they'll know about it. I failed that test twice though- 2 different times, 2 different guys- I should have taken them home and I didn't. Needless to say that put a nail in the coffin of the relationship.

As for sex life: hell- my sisters know everytime I go on a date and almost everything about my life and not even they know anything regarding my sex life.

_Opi_ · #12 07-20-2004, 10:50 AM

My mommy doesn't know very much about my exes. I usually tell her after the fact. Culturally, I don't think she can handle it. But you can never hide anything from mothers, they know too much!

GeekyPenguin · #13 07-20-2004, 11:35 AM

Too much, I think, but my mom did give me sage advice on how the guys at this school sucked 30 years ago and they still suck today.

ZTAMich · #14 07-20-2004, 12:07 PM

I'm from a 'wait till you're married' house. I'm sure they assume what really is going on but secretly hope it's not happening. Denial has always been a favorite location for them. I started telling my mom about a make out session I had with a fella the other evening and she was like "Ok that's enough talking about him" and it was just KISSING.

I know they are still carrying on the same idea with my younger sisters, teaching them nothing about safe sex, so I like to make sure they know they can talk to thier big sis about everything and anything.

sairose · #15 07-20-2004, 12:33 PM

I actually AM one of the "not before your married" types (not judging anyone else; it's just my own decision

) But even if I was haivng sex, HELL NO my mom wouldn't know.

I don't even tell her about guys I date, or guys that I like. Of the guys I've dated (there's been about 6 or 7), she's only known of two of them.