Do you excuse yourself when....

[Dionysus]

you pass someone in narrow spaces?

I was taught to always say "excuse me" whenever I needed to pass someone in a doorway, aisle, etc. I was also taught to get offended whenever someone else doesn't say "excuse me" when they pass me.

I noticed lately that people rarely say "excuse me" whenever they pass me. I used to get really offended, but now I question if this is becoming the norm. When I was at a picnic and a party sunday night, there was little room, NO ONE excused themselves when they passed me. A few even pushed me gently to get me out of their way. Of course, I didn't move for them until they said something, but I didn't get defensive.

[navane]

Yes. Even when the brush up is neither person's fault (due to lack of space, etc), I still say "excuse me" or "pardon me".

I don't notice a complete lack of manners or anything....people still offer an "excuse me" often enough for me to still have some faith in the world.

I don't get offended when people don't say something unless they really knock into me or push past.

.....Kelly

[KillarneyRose]

I always say "excuse me" when passing someone in a narrow space. And, for the record, I always thank someone when they hold a door for me. It's always good to be polite (I know I sound like a priss, but I just got my kids to bed so I'm still in mommy mode)

By the way, Dionysus: The answer to your signature question is "no" Also, is Missourah the right pronunciation or is it Missouree? Or is that one of those questions that divides families???

[Nikki_DZ]

Yes, ALWAYS!

People not saying excuse me when they pass (especially in grocery stores, etc.) is one of my biggest pet peeves.

[mu_agd]

always.

although i've noticed many people don't. i've also gotten many dirty looks even though i do say it.

[AlphaFrog]

Originally posted by Dionysus
I was also taught to get offended whenever someone else doesn't say "excuse me" when they pass me.

How are you "taught to get offended"????

Yes, it's polite to say excuse me, and I try to do it...but to be "taught to be offended"???

Not all people have manners, and not all people have the same manners, why expect more out of people then you know you're going to get? I would rather be pleasently surprised when people do say "excuse me" then pissed off if they don't

[tinydancer]

I do say"excuse me" and I try my darndest to teach the kids at my school to say it, too, expecially when they are all trying to get to one area of the library shelves. I'm just glad if I can get them not to just say "MOVE!!" when they need to get by.

[Dionysus]

Originally posted by AlphaFrog
How are you "taught to get offended"????

Yes, it's polite to say excuse me, and I try to do it...but to be "taught to be offended"???

Not all people have manners, and not all people have the same manners, why expect more out of people then you know you're going to get? I would rather be pleasently surprised when people do say "excuse me" then pissed off if they don't

You're right. You shouldn't get offended or annoyed at all whenever you feel disrespected.

[AlphaFrog]

Originally posted by Dionysus
You're right. You shouldn't get offended or annoyed at all whenever you feel disrespected.

Being annoyed and offended is no way to spend your entire life, and you can find something disrepectful all over if you're LOOKING for it. I'm just saying that maybe you should go around LOOKING to be disrespected. I mean, how do you even drive without going off the deep-end if you just go around looking for people being disrespectful?

[Dionysus]

Originally posted by KillarneyRose


By the way, Dionysus: The answer to your signature question is "no" Also, is Missourah the right pronunciation or is it Missouree? Or is that one of those questions that divides families???

It's one of those questions that divides families. Younger people from St. Louis and Kansas City tend to say MissourEE. Older people from rural areas tend to say MissourAH. There are exceptions, of course.

[Dionysus]

Originally posted by AlphaFrog
Being annoyed and offended is no way to spend your entire life, and you can find something disrepectful all over if you're LOOKING for it. I'm just saying that maybe you should go around LOOKING to be disrespected. I mean, how do you even drive without going off the deep-end if you just go around looking for people being disrespectful?

Having a specific pet peeve doesn't make you an annoyed and offended person in general. Please don't get those two confused.

[Kevin]

Not a big deal, but I say it. Doesn't bother me a bit if someone else didn't say it.

[winnieb]

Originally posted by AlphaFrog
How are you "taught to get offended"????

I was also taught to be offended. If you hear how rude it is (or not nice in little kid speak) not to say "excuse me" you learn to get offended--someone is being mean to you, therefore it is offensive. At least that is how my family is.

I always say excuse me if passing someone. If I pass someone in an aisle and I walk in front of what they are looking at, I also say "excuse me". If I am with another person, I always say "excuse us"

And for the missourEE and missourAH thing-- I would agree with Dionysus. I say EE, my mom says AH--- my argument to my mom regarding the pronunciation-- my name is WendI --pronounced WendEE not WendAH!!! She doesn't buy my argument!!

[kappaloo]

Yes I do.
But I also say sorry or excuse me (apologetic not accusatory) when someone pushes me.
It's a Canadian thing, partially.

[DeltAlum]

I say excuse me. I like to be polite. But it seems to surprize a lot of people.