Formal Apology

[KDShannon]

I would like to make a formal apology (thought I can't be real specific) to those of you who know what happened a few YEARS ago.

It has come to my attention that some of you have lost trust in me because of the situation that I am talking about. If this is the case, I am sincerely sorry. It was out of curiosity that I continued asking questions and it is curiosity that killed the cat, or at least lost your trust in me.

I have had to deal with the consequences of said action since. It was because this action that I was accepted back into the fold so to speak, and to this day haven't been accepted back.

I made a formal apology to HQ about it. I made an apology to the moderators of "the fold."

This is all I can do. I can't take back my actions, I can't take back what happened. All I can do is apologize. It doesn't make it better, it doesn't fix things... however, it is an honest attempt to try to regain some of the trust lost.

There are some that feel that I am no longer worthy to wear my letters. If this is the case and there are more like this one in particular, then I will formally resign and leave KD even though I am an Alum.

It sickens me to know that this has caused this much grief... but there is nothing more I can do.

I just ask that you accept my sincerest apologies and that you will understand that what happened did not happen because I wanted it to happen.

It has been a few years now and I wish that time would heal... but apparently it doesn't.

Thanks for listening.

[KDAngel]

Well I have no idea what happened myself, but I know Kappa Delta was founded on Christian principles. And part of being a Christian is forgiving others. Perhaps if you were still in undergrad it would have been something people could not look over, but for an adult to stand up and apologize and admit that they messed up shows a lot of class to me.

And it is said that "to err is human, to forgive divine" and I know it's hard for people to get over a lot of things, but fact is- no matter who you are, you mess up sometimes. I know I personally have messed up so many times I can't even count them. And some were before my time in Kappa Delta, others not. But one of the best things about KD is the love shared in AOT and the open arms my sisters have always held out to me after a problem. Some less enthusiastically than others, but nonetheless they've always been there, and that's always been something I've thought was wonderful about our sorority.

So while it may not mean much coming from someone who wasn't involved, the fact that you're risking rejection and criticism to formally apologize speaks volumes to me, and I would hate to see you leave our circle even as an alum. Just remember to never stop growing and know that even though your past may have its darker days that you can keep striving to that which is honorable, beautiful, and highest and make us all proud. And despite your past, I'm happy to call you a sister now and I hope you don't chose to leave no matter what, because clearly you've grown up and time heals all wounds... or at least it makes them less intense...

In KD love and AOT

[KDAngel]

Call me young and naive but I just don't understand why no one else has even recognized this thread. No, I don't know the situation like some of you do and no, I'm not affected by the whole ordeal whatever it may have been, but one of your SISTERS just put herself out there to you and some 90 people have viewed this and no one's even said anything to her. And I could be wrong, some people may have PMed her, but for those who haven't and are involved, consider the fact that sisterhood is for life, through the good AND the bad. Even if you can't forgive her yet, acknowledgement would be nice I'd imagine.

And again, sorry if I make anyone mad for saying this, I just know if I was in that position I'd want someone to at least say SOMETHING to me...

AOT

[kddani]

#1, there's not a whole lot of KDs on GC. Surely you've noticed
#2, a lot of people don't feel comfortable talking about something they don't know much about
#3 a lot of those views are from non KDs
#4 the people involved either don't visit GC very often or have other things in life that they're dealing with right now (yes, I am "involved" enough to know what happened and know who was involved)

You don' t know that people haven't PMed her or talked to her via other mediums. Many people feel "airing dirty laundry" in public isn't appropriate and hence why they'd use PM.

In any event, chastizing people isn't the way to go here........

[KDAngel]

And thus ends my time on GC. At least on the KD boards. If you read all of my post I say I may be wrong and people may have pmed her, in which case I take back what I say. I knew there was that possibility and that's why I threw it out there... anyway, I've got love for all the alumni out there, but these boards aren't what I thought they'd be, so take care everyone- I'm out.

AOT.

[KDShannon]

To clear up some things....

Thank you KDAngel for your kindness.
Thank you Danielle for your assistance via PM

As to answer some of the things--

To being with, no one has IMed me, PMed me or even emailed me about this situation.... save for the decline notification I received.

Secondly, Danielle, while all those involved may not be involved on GC there are some. Not only that, but I couldn't make a formal apology to those involved if I wanted because of the DECLINE notification I recieved. I did however email the moderator the apology and asked her to forward it on... whether she did or not, I do not know.

Now, onto my last thought/statement-- I also CC the moderator a request that I sent to HQ asking how an Alumni member would go about resigning. Why would I do this? Because as my Decline notification stated, those involved no longer trust me and that it is nearly impossible to regain their trust. As an alumni, I would love to have some other Alumni to connect with. I work nights and am not able to make the AA meetings here at home. Since I am "no longer trusted" and can't seem to do anything to fix the situation-- the best thing for me to do is resign from KD. Sisterhood is pointless if none of your sisters will accept an apology or trust you.

Shannon

[kddani]

Locking this thread, as you have made your point Shannon, and anyone wishing to contact you can.