Would You Let Your Son . . .Part 2

CrimsonTide4 · #1 12-02-2003, 09:34 PM

Watching Tracey Morgan and in light of the EBO topic (but did not want to totally hijack that thread

). . . would you let your son play the flute?!?!

What are activities, possessions that as a parent you feel are either too masculine for your daughter or too feminine for your son?!?!?

Wonderful1908 · #2 12-02-2003, 09:35 PM

Yea, I would ask him why he wanted to then I guess....

Steeltrap · #3 12-02-2003, 09:36 PM

Would I let my son play the flute? Hmm...there are a lot of good male jazz flutists out there...dunno. Let the husbandperson decide.

#1 Leading Lady · #4 12-02-2003, 11:36 PM

Heck no.....I am one of those REAL moms who would say the first thing that came to my mind (thanks to my late GREAT Grandmother) "Heck naw you ain't playing No darn flute you betta go beat a drum or something" cause ain't no boyperson child of mine playing no flute. Then I would make him watch DRUMLINE 1913 times a day until he is interested in the drum.

JinglesSpr99 · #5 12-02-2003, 11:50 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by #1 Leading Lady
"Heck naw you ain't playing No darn flute you betta go beat a drum or something" cause ain't no boyperson child of mine playing no flute. Then I would make him watch DRUMLINE 1913 times a day until he is interested in the drum. [/B]

Hey #1 leading lady!! Long time no see

First off i am laughing at watch Drumline 1913 times a day! lol
It depends on the reason. I was a band geek and I knew quite a few guys who play the sax who play the flute. I was a percussionist. And the time i started it was cute to see a girl playing the drums. But wow look at that drummer boy. lol

LADY_1908 · #6 12-03-2003, 12:12 AM

I would let my son try if he shows an interest.

If he's anything like his mom, the discipline required for practice will kill that with a quickness. (Spoken by a person who took a year of piano with a 1,000 year old nun

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Diva_01 · #7 12-03-2003, 03:28 PM

Since I'm typing today...

I don't think I would like my son playing the flute. I might be the mom saying "here baby, look at this manly drum..."
I don't think I would let my son do gymnastics, ice skating, or any of that stuff unless he is really adamant about it, or if I know for sure he's gay.
The only thing I want him to do that's uncharacteristic of men is cry and openly discuss his feelings...

Steeltrap · #8 12-03-2003, 03:31 PM

I actually could deal with a boyperson playing the drums, sax, bass clarinet or a double-reed (bassoon or contrabassoon). Now brass is a whole 'nother matter.

9dstpm · #9 12-03-2003, 03:36 PM

If he showed an interest, then I would let him. I don't see anything wrong with the flute. I heard that it was less expensive than some of the other band instruments.

Dionysus · #10 12-03-2003, 03:48 PM

I won't let my son play the flute nor any other musical instrument....he better have his azz out on the football field!

jyhad1906 · #11 12-07-2003, 06:07 PM

I wish my son only wanted to play football. but after paying 1600$ for a damn sax he better play the hell out of it. the little knuckle head had best be prepared to be the entertainment for Christmas dinner. but i spoil his ass something awful but i draw the line at playing the flute to girlly for me. hell i won't even let him stand with his hand/s on hisw hip

JYHAD
IT takes a man to raise a son into a man

acedawg00-02 · #12 12-07-2003, 10:19 PM

I see that one male has posted on this thead so far...*pulls up a chair"....so, I guess I'll slide in my piece - LOL! I'm a musician, and I've been on the sax for over 12 years, and I also play the drums for a couple of funk/jazz bands. I personally think that a young male who shows an interest in any musical instrument...hell, just an interest in the ARTS should be embraced and given mad support. We live in an age where societal perception and stereotypes begin to define us before we can even get a running start! So, I challenge you to take a true look at how you say things like, "a flute is not masculine..." or "my child will have his azz on the field playing football." LOL - do we not live up to the stereotypes everyday? I mean, we can run, jump, rap and dance...but we've lost touch with some of our roots. We have the intelligence to express ourselves through any, and all kinds of instruments...and it should be celebrated. There aren't any too many modern black musicians/jazz artists out there....and it has become a genre that is dominated by non-African Americans! We'd rather chase hip-hop dreams, or professional sports contracts...all while (sometimes) putting our education aside...not to mention, our HERITAGE! It is my wish that the position of the young black male is one day defined as, the epitome of various pursuits and accomplishments - but are we willing to accept this idea as the truth?

CrimsonTide4 · #13 12-07-2003, 10:22 PM

AceDawg, you are all right with me.

We had 2 men post on this thread. Yaaaaaaay. Keep the replies coming, especially from the male POV.

acedawg00-02 · #14 12-07-2003, 10:40 PM

I'm always down for some good conversation...*pops a Heineken*....I'll be around.....

abaici · #15 12-08-2003, 01:14 AM

I don't have children. But, when I am blessed with them, I plan to have them involved in a variety of activities. I played an instrument, and I want my children to. At the very least, they will participate in at least one form of art. Also, a sport and capoeira classes (I will have overscheduled children--to match their overscheduled mother. lol) . I want well rounded children. I don't expect them to excel or love everything, it's about exposure. My parents exposed me to different things, and allowed me to decide which ones I would pursue.

SO, I guess my answer is: If he wants to play the flute, why not. He may not even like it. If he does, that's great.