question about joining

nokitttyno · #1 06-14-2004, 02:22 AM

Hi I am a junior well I will be this fall in college and I was wondering if that is to late to try and pledge? Also not being a freshman how would I get recruited? LOL sorry if I sound dumb but I'm transfering in to a new college and I would really like to be a sister, but coming from a small community college I don't know if I'll be invited.

nokitttyno · #2 06-14-2004, 02:34 AM

Also is there any books or anything at all I should buy and have ready in case I make it. I'm going to a small school about 3 hours from home and a little scared to being going there, so if I sound a little needy or weird or anything lol that is so not me its stress. I'm not the life of the party but I do like to go out once or 2wice a month. I'm friendly but most of all I'm loyal. I still have friends from pre-school. I'm a little shy when first met but with in 10 mins I'm out of my shell. I'm planning on going to law school, hopefully at Mercer or Baylor. And now I'm doing a bio lol after I just set here to ask a couple of questions. I'm sorry I hope I haven't bored everyone here. Oh I do have one more question, I have a guy who is just a friend but I made a no serious dating or massive amounts of dating rule to keep my grades up and get into law school will this be a problem? I don't have to hae a main boyfriend or date all the time. My guy friend will be my date when needed but as for the other well I had some problems in high school with I would get so caught up in the guy and I just knew I out grew that and it happened again a few months ago so I made this vow. I just hope its not a problem with the other sisters (if I get in).

ADPiShannan · #3 06-14-2004, 08:33 AM

Do you plan on transferring and being at that college for 2 years only or could it take more time?

I guess it really depends on the college and the state you are going to. In the south, it is very hard to get into some sororities cause they have like 1000 girls go through a year so its hard to get a bid. Up here though, in Ohio where I am at, we give bids to juniors all the time. Its nice to have a variety of girls. Noone wants to give a bid to someone who will only be here for a semester or something, but you shouldnt be penalized for coming late cause you transferred. A girl I came in with was either a junior or senior. She was only there for a year so Im guessing senior. I felt bad though cause she didnt get to take a diamond as she was in so fast and graduating. She did tell me not too long ago that that year was one of the best years of her life. I say if you decide to go through recruitment and pick a sorority you love, make the most of it. Get involved and do a lot cause you have 2 less years than freshman so you need to get in there and have fun.

What state are you in? As for the book, I dont think there is any book you need. I know there isnt for ADPi. They give you a packet during recruitment about all the sororities on your campus then when you decide the one you want and the girls from that one want you too, then you worry about the stuff youll need. It is definately a mutual selection. Also you dont need to be a party animal to get into any sorority. BE YOURSELF. Thats what most people want. Noone wants someone who is fake or anything so just be who you are and youll do awesome. We are all nervous when we go through but try to talk and not be too shy. Weve had some girls who are so shy we dont know if its they hate us or just shy and nervous. Any more ?'s let us know and good luck. Youll do awesome.

ASUADPi · #4 06-14-2004, 10:02 AM

nokittyno, I have to agree with Shannan, just be yourself!!!!!

What school are you transferring to? I would suggest calling the school or checking out the website to get more information on formal recruitment. The greek life advisors at the school will be able to tell you how many girls go through recruitment each year. They might also be able to tell you the percentage of girls who end up in a house (if they know the figure and are allowed to share). Another suggestion I have is possibly getting recommendations.

Good luck and just be true to yourself and I'm sure you will find your home!!!!!

ADPiAkron · #5 06-14-2004, 12:41 PM

Ditto what they said....and to add--you do not need to have a boyfriend or even a guy friend for that matter! Whenever there are events where you can take someone you can always goes with another sister or even a girl friend!!

adpi1030787 · #6 06-14-2004, 01:09 PM

If you know that you want ADPi, see if the chapter has COR/COB, continous open recuritment or bidding. It is usually more laid back and a lot less formal, which makes it easier to relax!! It usually doesn't take place until after formal rush though, which could be a problem if they have too much contact with you right now. Don't be affened if you do contact the chapter and they tell you to contact the panhellenic advisor. There are very strict rules about the girls talking to any girl planning on going through recuritment. Even if you want to go through COR, they could get in trouble for telling you to wait until then. It could be considered bid promising which is a big no no. So don't take it personal if they tell you to call someone else. They could get in major trouble for having contact with you!! Good luck!!

nokitttyno · #7 06-14-2004, 09:46 PM

its a small school called Francis Marion in South Carolina. I'm not sure if the soriety has a website because I havent found one for them yet. Theres less then 3000 students at the school. I'm going to be at the school for 2 and a half years I graduate end of Fall semster 2006. LOL I have to get my major requirements done and a minor but I have all my general reqs except science done. I just happen to have enough credits to be labled a junior in the fall.

ADPiShannan · #8 06-14-2004, 10:55 PM

Alpha Delta Pi, Kappa Delta, and Zeta Tau Alpha are the three NPC sororities on Francis Marions campus. I can get info if you would like on the three. I have several friends as well as family who are either attending college there now or have. Most of my family is from the NC/SC areas and several from Hartsville, SC so a lot go to Francis Marion. Its a awesome campus. I have gone to visit people there a lot and always have fun there.

Have you contacted them to find out when recruitment is? This is the only site address I have for them. I can call my friends and see what kind of info I can get if you want me to.
http://alpha1.fmarion.edu/~activities/greekpc.htm

nokitttyno · #9 06-15-2004, 12:03 AM

Alpha Delta Pi and Kappa Delta are the only ones I am really intrested in. I looked at the site and it mainly takes you to the main sites for Alpha Delta Pi and Kappa Delta. Any info you can get would be so helpfull. Thank you so much. Most of my family is from the Grand Strand area of SC

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texas*princess · #10 06-15-2004, 12:29 AM

If you do decide to go through recruitment, best of luck!

Like you I transferred schools, and was a little freaked out at first because it was a BIG move for me (8.5 driving hours from home

) I was scared, and even felt silly for feeling that way, but I went to COR events for ADPi

I joined my chapter as a junior as well!

Whatever you decide to do, I wish you the best!

.. and don't worry about the date thing for functions! Dating or not, you could always take a friend of yours, and if your good friend is busy you can always ask your sisters to help you find one! (Some women in my chapter did that for formal, and it worked out great... honeychile's story comes to mind... "Quick! I need a date named Joe!!" hehehe

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polarpi · #11 06-15-2004, 12:41 AM

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Originally posted by texas*princess
Dating or not, you could always take a friend of yours, and if your good friend is busy you can always ask your sisters to help you find one! (Some women in my chapter did that for formal, and it worked out great... honeychile's story comes to mind... "Quick! I need a date named Joe!!" hehehe )

Thanks, t*p....I needed a good laugh (I will always crack up when I hear that line mentioned

)

Seriously, nokittyno, best of luck if you do decide to go through recruitment. Each of the organizations you mentioned (ADPi, KD, and ZTA) are all wonderful, and have great representatives of their organization right here on GC! Just relax and be yourself...as others have said, it's sometimes more difficult to be extended a bid as an *older* prospective member, but it's not necessarily *impossible*. I joined ADPi as a sophomore at my university, and never looked back.

In regards to the dating thing....I never had a boyfriend while in college, so whenever a *date* function came around (i.e. formals) I always brought my best guy friend as my *date*, and he had just as much fun as I had, if not more sometimes

Good luck with your studies, and if you do decide to go through recruitment, please let us know, so we can root for you!

ADPiShannan · #12 06-15-2004, 07:48 AM

Ill call my one friend today and see what info I can round up. So you say your family is from Grand Strand area. My fave place in the whole world I might add

Im definately biased. I call that place my second home. We own about 6 houses on the ocean there so I grew up spending my whole summer there relaxing by the ocean. My family is there now and Im stuck up here in Ohio

Only bad thing about being married lol. All the houses we own are in Cherry Grove on Ocean Drive. I love Cherry Grove. I got married there last summer right on 45th Ave right in front one of our houses on the ocean. It was one of the best days of my life. lol Sorry for getting off track but Grand Strand definately is my fave place to go. Ive gone there every summer since I was 4 so for 20 years now lol.... Where abouts are you at there? I could talk for hours about that place lol.......

ADPiShannan · #13 06-15-2004, 09:13 AM

Alright I contacted a friend who works in Student Life office and she gave me the info that Recruitment starts on Sept 6th there. I gave her my email address and she is gonna hand that over the the Panhellenic President who will email me and I will get all the info I can for you. The President isnt in school over the summer but she would have to take calls on recruitment so hopefully shell get back to me this week or next week and I can let you know more info then. They really need someone in that office as a greek advisor or something. The one secretary my friend says, knows nothing really.

ADPiShannan · #14 06-23-2004, 02:51 PM

Please pm when you get this so I can message you the info I have received. I talked with the President of ADPi at Francis Marion today and she gave me some info Id like to pass on to you so you know whats going on there.

honeychile · #15 06-23-2004, 10:44 PM

nokittyno, another avenue you might want to explore is to ask if your school has "free juniors and seniors". That means that being a junior or senior won't count in quota, and makes you MUCH more likely to be bid.

And don't limit yourself! I was a legacy to another sorority, but fell in love with Alpha Delta Pi the first day of Recruitment! You just never know who or what you'll find. You might want to read up on some of the Rush Threads in the Rush Forum, just to see what happens - and don't forget, what works at College A may be completely gauche at College B!!

If you want to post a Rush Thread on that forum, you'll find that you'll have a lot of "cheerleaders" - sorority women who will cheer you as you go through the different parties. Just don't feel pressured to do so.

Good luck, and may you get the bid of your choice!