Abusive ex-girlfriends?

winneythepooh7 · #1 07-08-2004, 09:30 PM

My new boy told me tonite about his ex-girlfriend. He told me that up until about a month ago she was trying to get back with him. He is in no way interested in her (they broke up over a year ago), but he has told me she can act pretty psychotic at times. The reason I am posting is because he and I are attending a BBQ this weekend that she will probably be at. She doesn't know about me YET but I am concerned about how she may act when she sees us together. He has told me that she was physically abusive to him in the past and actually got drunk and punched him in his face at a wedding he invited her to that was a client of his and it obviously embarassed him and things were over then and there. He hasn't really gotten too detailed about everything as this is obviously a painful part of his life he would rather forget. All I know is she had lost her father traumatically a few years ago and her life went downhill since then, drinking, drugs, you name it. I've seen the girl out a few times (before he and I got together and didn't know she was his ex) and she was pretty drunk and sloppy (not trying to pick fights or anything though). Has anyone dealt with a similar situation?

Dionysus · #2 07-08-2004, 09:32 PM

LMAO

I can't imagine a GC guy admitting to being abused by an ex-girlfriend.

Ronso · #3 07-09-2004, 01:53 AM

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Originally posted by Dionysus
LMAO

I can't imagine a GC guy admitting to being abused by an ex-girlfriend.

We will if you mean abused in the good ways...

winneythepooh7 · #4 07-09-2004, 02:53 AM

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Originally posted by Dionysus
LMAO

I can't imagine a GC guy admitting to being abused by an ex-girlfriend.

Well I suppose not. I guess what I am trying to say in other words is outside of Greekchat and a few of my clients at work, I am not used to dealing with *drama*. I am concerned some might be around the corner when this girl realizes her ex has someone new. I hope not but you now what I am saying.............

thermobryan · #5 07-09-2004, 03:22 AM

Is it abusive when an gf demands that you pay a certain about of money on her??

winneythepooh7 · #6 07-09-2004, 08:01 AM

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Originally posted by thermobryan
Is it abusive when an gf demands that you pay a certain about of money on her??

yah. i'd ditch her. no one should "demand" anything, especially that you buy her something. she sounds very superficial.

dzsaigirl · #7 07-09-2004, 10:20 AM

In college, my now ex-husband hosted a pool party rush event at his parents house. The guys from his fraternity were there, as well as their girlfriends (and just friends that happen to be girls). Anyway, we are all having a good time and all of a sudden we hear this WHACK!. This really sweet guy had been bitch slapped by his psycho girlfriend. It was SO embarassing.

Several times after that, I saw her cursing him out in public. He would just stand there and take it. Very sad.

Even sadder is the fact that last year we got an invitation to their wedding...

cash78mere · #8 07-09-2004, 10:59 AM

no matter what happens between your boy and her at the bbq--STAY OUT OF IT. don't say anything to her or be confrontational, even if she tries to be with you. you have NOTHING to do with their situation. if she tries to start any drama, your boy should ask you to leave asap. or you should definitely ask him to leave if you feel uncomfortable. but don't get involved in their mess.

she'll probably stare you down and might even talk about you to other people. let her. just have fun with your boy. good luck!

cuaphi · #9 07-09-2004, 11:38 AM

Wait, I'm sorry but you knew about this girls drunken exploits in a city the size of New York? That's pretty extreme. You might want to think about what's up with him that he would have selected a girl like her. Not trying to be mean but honestly, think about it.

winneythepooh7 · #10 07-09-2004, 12:11 PM

hi to all of you above, you have all said some great things. i will totally leave if anything goes down tommorrow. i am not going to put myself in a situation that as pointed out has nothing to do with me. oh, cuaphi, the reason i know about her drunkenness is she always goes to his band's shows. also him and his friends all grew up together in long island and she is part of the group. he said she used to be nice but then had a bunch of stuff happen to her where she became like this. plus you know the saying "that people are on their bestest behavior in the beginning and then their real selves come out"................i am not too worried overall. i've met his family and all his friends and have gotten lotsa positive reports about how much they like me and him together

thermobryan · #11 07-09-2004, 12:33 PM

Yeah, we broke up like two years ago. I dont have a lot of abusive gf's, just a lot of psycho ex's....

winneythepooh7 · #12 07-09-2004, 12:35 PM

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Originally posted by dzsaigirl
In college, my now ex-husband hosted a pool party rush event at his parents house. The guys from his fraternity were there, as well as their girlfriends (and just friends that happen to be girls). Anyway, we are all having a good time and all of a sudden we hear this WHACK!. This really sweet guy had been bitch slapped by his psycho girlfriend. It was SO embarassing.

Several times after that, I saw her cursing him out in public. He would just stand there and take it. Very sad.

Even sadder is the fact that last year we got an invitation to their wedding...

yowsa. I hope they are in marital therapy at least.........

winneythepooh7 · #13 07-09-2004, 12:36 PM

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Originally posted by thermobryan
Yeah, we broke up like two years ago. I dont have a lot of abusive gf's, just a lot of psycho ex's....

so boys what is considered a "psycho" girly to you and who would say something if they saw a situation like the one's mentioned happening in front of them or to their friend?

thermobryan · #14 07-09-2004, 04:50 PM

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Originally posted by DZGirl
Isn't that called child support?

Haha, so funny Kara....It's called a rich spoiled girl that expects me to pay for all her shit....

thermobryan · #15 07-09-2004, 04:56 PM

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Originally posted by winneythepooh7
so boys what is considered a "psycho" girly to you and who would say something if they saw a situation like the one's mentioned happening in front of them or to their friend?

Ohhh man, what i consider psycho is an ex-gf that gets in a fight with my current (at the time) girl im dating, then goes to judicial services thru school and said that I raped her when we were dating( which was 6 months before ) and tries to get me kicked out of school 3 days before my graduation!!!

Or, my gf that just cheated on me calls me at 3AM from the guys house that she cheated on me with trying to make him jealous. She was drunk and he said that he only slept with her because she reminded him of his ex and that he was just using her. She wanted me to take an hour drive to come and pick her up...

Would you classify those as psycho???