Getting over the ex you know is bad for you

[sugar and spice]

OK ladies, I know this has been a common topic with at least a few of you lately so help me out here.

You were dating a guy and things were pretty serious. He thought he wanted to marry you. You counted on him for everything until he was the only person you really trusted (no, not healthy). You spent almost all your free time together. Then somewhere along the line things went bad. Maybe physical/emotional abuse, maybe cheating or some other kind of major betrayal, maybe nothing quite that bad but just your run-of-the-mill bad breakup where neither of you can really deal with things being 100 percent over and a lot of things that shouldn't happen end up happening. Your self-esteem is shot, your trust is shot, and you're basically a wreck.


How do you make yourself stay away from someone you know is only going to make your life worse even though it hurts to be cut off from them?

Let's pretend you have already:

1) stopped talking to the boy and blocked his IM name
2) started up your hardcore workout routine for constructive stress relief
3) surrounded yourself with sisters, friends and family who are positive influences and distracting
4) made yourself hotter than ever and gone out a lot and flirted with boys (but not gotten involved with any of them!)
5) made the requisite "Boys Suck and I'm Better Off Without Them" mix CD to blast while in the car or running
6) had more therapy than you know what to do with (haha)


What next?