Taking away Foundation

[winterlillies]

Hi Everyone!

I am just wondering if anyone has experienced the following. I am the primary founder of my sorority and basically created the foundation. During rush week I confided some private information about the sorority to my vice president (who happens to be a close friend and sort of a co-founder) and she went off and told everyone what I had said and I caught her talking about me. Basically I haven't gone to any of the meetings for the last 8 weeks nor have I been contacted about what is going on. The advisor knows what is up and is working with me. I’ve attempted to get in touch with members to send me minutes and ask when we could meet for a discussion with the advisor and no one gets back to me. I’ve talked to the Greek Life Office and they aren’t helping and I know our advisor is doing as much as she can.

No one is talking to me and people that shouldn't be involved are and even the pledges won't speak to me. What would you do? I want to take foundation away and let them start from scratch-basically to teach them a lesson and to show them how hard I worked. Any insight would be helpful.

Thank you.

[Rio_Kohitsuji]

1. Show up to your meetings.
-If you don't show committment to them, then they don't have to show it to you.

2. Girls are raggedy...get a non-involved 3rd party to sit in on discussion between you and the VP.

3. You can't "punish" anyone when they've already started with what you began. It's growing, with or without you. So suck it up and show up to see what's going on.

I hate to say it hon, but you're not taking the "high road" on this by wanting to "punish" them. True, what your co-founder did was wrong, but then again, if you said was detrimental to the sorority and she believed it needed to be said than she did what she thought was right.

PS. Include some more info, sounds too one-sided so far.
PSS. I take it you're "DeLuna"?
Zeta Psi Pi
Hmm..sounded good here...

[vanillabze]

Hi Winterlillies,

I think that you should consider the purpose and vision you had for your organization. You are not always going to agree with each other and there will definitely be internal struggles but your group's mission should be the driving force for you to stay and bite your tongue. You co-founded your sorority because you felt it would benefit others like you and benefit your campus.

As members, you will all go through some dissapointments yet, it is your bond as sisters that will allow each of you to forgive and do what is right for the development of your organization. Remember that you were all members first and co-founders last. Although the situation with the pledges is humiliating keep in mine that you are a co-founder and they will learn from every action you make, set the right example that they can learn from and emulate for coming years. Present yourself gracefully, attend meetings and continue to give your 100%.

Don't punish the group for the actions of one or a few people, it may seem like an easy option to mend the wounds of rejection but is it not. Don't let rejection prevent you from fulfilling your dreams. Simply try another approach and be strong!!


--Vanillabze
Zeta Chi Phi