Over weight?

[Buttonz]

Who has it worse when it comes to being over weight, girls or guys?

[ZTAngel]

girls

[kafromTN]

girls

[valkyrie]

Girls, definitely.

[decadence]

guys of course

[valkyrie]

Originally posted by decadence
guys of course

Why do you say that?

[The1calledTKE]

I would say girls. But you do see alot of guys with overweight girls and not vice versa so maybe its near equal?

[PhiPsiRuss]

In the early 90s, when I was a new alumnus still in Tallahassee, one of the actives put on like 30 pounds over the summer. Everyone started saying, "Chad, you're fat." We would just smile and say, "you're fat," like it was a greeting. And soon, it was. All of that semester, the whole chapter would say "you're fat" to each other, like we were saying "aloha" or "shalom."

Guys will celebrate their beer bellys, and laugh about being fat. Telling a girl that she's fat will bring her to tears.

[Cluey]

Originally posted by PhiPsiRuss
Guys will celebrate their beer bellys, and laugh about being fat. Telling a girl that she's fat will bring her to tears.

Attention all males: Please re-read Russ' astute observation.

[MrsMcCartney]

I can't believe this is even a question, no offense. A guy can be a good 30 lbs overweight and still thinks of himself as attractive, and girls still find him that way. A girl gets even 10 lbs overweight and she has a "big ass," or a "roll" or whatever.

My husband and I think it's time to go on a joint diet.....lately, whenever my daughter (she's 5) sees him naked it's "Big belly, big belly!!!!" and when she sees me naked it's "Big butt, big butt!" Skinny little bitch....... NO JUST KIDDING!!!!!!! I love her, and she is probably right, but still.....that hurts!!!! Damn!!!!!

[decadence]

Originally posted by Valkryie:
Why do you say that?

Because I hold it to be true. Though media body images usually lean toward toned for both sexes, there are rarely deviations in magazines using male models from six pack/washboard stomach, toned arms etc; often however there will be examples of many degrees of waif v. curvaceous depictions of women. Despite Russ' comment about banter between heterosexual guys toward each other and between one another; guys have it worse when it comes to being overweight.
A girl can carry some extra weight around just fine and there is little question if she went out and about at night and she could pull/hookup etc. As for longer term relationships, the same equally applies - she will be found attractive as a woman irrespective of her waist to hips ratio. Thus, on the basis physical attraction being obviously a core element of people being attracted to one another, and she will continue to be found attractive it follows there is not a marked effect on her ability to attract a mate.
The same is not true of guys. There is a much greater degree of stigma in non-platonic interaction where a guy is overweight. Without that competitive advantage so to speak he will not have the admiring glances thrown at him nor be the subject of whispered conversations he is not privy to. Without the fairly lean toned physique (excepting that some women like skinny non-muscular men) there would definitely not be the same lack of variation in his likelihood of attracting a mate as in the case of girls.
In long term marriages and the like where there is a bond that allows one to overlook such issues or for people to look at their partner and see them as more attractive than they are it is not the same issue, at all. Additionally, were that relationship to end and the male re-enter the arena so to speak he would experience the above.

Definitely girls have it harder!

I mean even with graying hair. I don't know i dont have any but when i do and i forsee it coming i am in my hair dressers salon faster then anything. Even guys when they gray their considered distinguished.


We have it hard on both hair and wt.

[Lady Pi Phi]

Girls definitly have it worse.

I have to disagree with decadence. At least on the magazine issue. Only in the last few years have you seen women who are not stick thin in magazines. With all the talk about body image, self-esteem and eating disorders, magazines (especially women's fashion magazines) are trying to appeal to the "larger" female portion of society. Every now and then Cosmo, Vogue et al. will throw in a few articles, about plus sized models, actress and fashion. These magazines don't do this because they are concerned with the distorted body images that women have to die or the ever increasing eating disorders, etc, etc. They do this to sell magazines. They know that a larger woman will pick up this magazine if the see something that appeals to them. They sell more magazines this way. But the next issue will be right back to the rail thin models. deviating from the standard image in magazines is a temporary way to increase sales.

Granted, more and more men are developing eating disorders but it hasn't affected the male population like it has the female population.

[bruinaphi]

What Lady Pi Phi said about eating disorders is true. While a good friend who is a dietician tells me that she is seeing more and more men develop eating disorders their problems rarely if ever become not eating.

A good family friend of ours is in the UCLA eating disorders program. She is 15, 5'7" and had gotten down to 77 pounds before being admitted full time again. During the 6 months she was living there and I was going to see her about once or twice a week I never saw a male patient who was there for eating disorders. It may have been the sadest place I have ever been. Watching these young girls destroy their bodies was heart wrenching.

[MrsMcCartney]

In this month's Playboy Advisor, they give a rather definitive answer to this question.....a woman wrote in who said she was hoping her subscription would encourage her to lose weight, but apparently it was not working. She wanted to know if there were any men out there who would be happy with a woman who had a pretty face but a size 16 body. Playboy's answer? "Most men are not attracted to overweight women, so they'll never know if they could be happy with a woman who has a size-16 body." Then, in an attempt to drive home the point that women are just as superficial as men, they ask "Are you attracted to strangers with pot-bellies and double chins, or men who are trim and fit?" I see plenty of beautiful women with guys who have pot-bellies and double chins but I can't remember ever seeing a really hot guy with a chiseled body walking around with a chubby girl.

Now let me add that I do not always agree with the Playboy Advisor......I think that there is a particular image that they try to evoke and their answers always fit that image, even if it makes them look stupid. They spend too much time trying to be glib and not enough trying to be reasonable.