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My_Legacy · #1 03-12-2004, 02:31 PM

Hello All...

I'm more of a lurker than a poster and I often come across many of the same threads (which is why i either don't reply or post). I have a question for the all members Zeta Phi Beta Sorority (and any other sorority member also) as well as any other females like myself continuing her quest for this wonderful sisterhood:

Are there any "Sisterfriend Forums" on the web where non-members (but aspiring) can talk, share stories as they do here and other sites? I've visited a forum on Delphiforums.com, and i as wondering if there were any others like this one.

I ask this because I have recently came across some issues, stories, etc. and wonder if any other non-members could relate.

I guess what I'm really trying to say is, I don't want to flood the board with the same ol'.....i know ya'll have "heard it all before" lol.

any response would be thankful.

nikki1920 · #2 03-12-2004, 04:12 PM

Put it here! We were all sisterfriends at one point too. don't be shy..

My_Legacy · #3 03-12-2004, 04:44 PM

Thanks Hon... (feelin like a lil school girl...lol)

Here is my issue (whatever you wanna call it)......

I have been on my quest for Zeta Phi Beta for 3 years now. Through my extensive research I've found that no other organization is constantly in touch with the times, catering to realistic goals as does Zeta. Anywayz.....fast forward to the present. a group of girls at my school were very interested with this organization (or so i thought), being very esatic about potentially being able to accomplish my dream and theirs, we contacted the proper officials and sent the wheels in motion.

Here is the issue...

Whenever these girls speak of sororities, it is always about PLEDGING or HAZING. There have been comments stated that, " I won't take ****" or "since she's my girl, I'll take hits for her". This disgusted me because HAZING is FORBIDDEN. It doesn't take an interest to know that (but then again i do my research)!

Also, before a interest meeting, these girls were paranoid about members asking them "questions" like, Founders, Dates, etc... They had no clue about what the meeting was for, and even more disturbing, the HISTORY of the Organization they are wishing to gain membership to! I am in no way authorized to "school" anyone, but sometimes i would through names or a principles out there and confusion would cloud their faces! I mean, Damn! it isn't that hard! When attending a meeting/function hosted by this organization i make it my BUSINESS to be 5-10 minutes early. HELL! I'm 5-10 minutes early whenver i have business to attend to. This ladies.........held me up, and then said "we'll all be late 2gether" (mind u i was there 20minutes early)

All of this saddens me and i truly keep my distance and only speak when needed to. I have tried to encourage these girls and help them search for thier true intentions, however I am not a therapist, or God so who am I to judge?

What burns me up, is that all they want is to be Greek..i can see it, I'm sure members who have spoken to them have seen it, as well as other members from other organizations (the Greek community is a small small world).

I want this everso badly, but how can i pursue this dream with anchors who will hold me down? Or in the worst case become members of a organization and not know its true treasures?

I'm hurting right now because i don't know what to do. This is sickening.

Sorry ladies for the long post, but i had to vent. this has been killing me. Any advice, words, you can PM me also.

Stay Blessed.

Senusret I · #4 03-13-2004, 09:33 AM

This might be helpful:

http://forums.greekchat.com/gcforums...threadid=41763