Married to a GLO or Independant?

[ADPi Conniebama]

Just wondering how many of us married outside of the greek system so here goes?

1) Is your husband/boyfriend a member of a GLO?
2) If yes, which one? and is he active as an alumni/brother?
3) If no, does he respect your greek affiliation/involvement?
4) or if you are still active as an alumna what does he think about it?


My husband is a barber and did not get into the greek system in college.

He thinks that ADPi was just a college thing and he thinks it is a little wierd that I drive to Florence (about 1 hour away) once a month as a recruitment advisor. (wow will he freak out during formal recruitment when I am there and back every day for 2 weeks ha ha)

I have talked to him enough about ADPi to make him secure that it is a great way for women to get together to help eachother in college and in life. But, seeing as he never got into the greek system he will never understand.

This thread might not go anywhere but I was interested in how other sisters or gc'rs handle the greek/nongreek relationship . . . or if it is different for two greeks to get married to eachother and respect the others greek affiliation.

[TN-TX ADPi]

Originally posted by ADPi Conniebama
Just wondering how many of us married outside of the greek system so here goes?

1) Is your husband/boyfriend a member of a GLO?
2) If yes, which one? and is he active as an alumni/brother?
3) If no, does he respect your greek affiliation/involvement?
4) or if you are still active as an alumna what does he think about it?

1) Yes, my boyfriend (SOON TO BE FIANCE!!!! he informed me last night to start planning a wedding for sometime in the next year) is part of the Greek system.

2) He is an active brother of Alpha Gamma Rho, and will graduate in May andl take alumni status.

4)He thinks it's cool that I am still involved. I am in graduate school at a different school than I did my B.S. so he thinks it's neat that I am advising a totally new chapter.


Good idea for a thread!!!

[nauadpi]

Originally posted by ADPi Conniebama
1) Is your husband/boyfriend a member of a GLO?
2) If yes, which one? and is he active as an alumni/brother?
3) If no, does he respect your greek affiliation/involvement?
4) or if you are still active as an alumna what does he think about it?

1. My husband is not a member of a GLO...
2. n/a
3/4. Yes he respects my greek involvement... I was dating him before I even joined ADPi... He was there for me through everything and has seen over and over again what it means to me... He understands when I have been with sisters till all hours of the night just talking or helping out with recruitment or what not... He is wonderful about it all...

[adpi*violet]

Originally posted by ADPi Conniebama
1) Is your husband/boyfriend a member of a GLO?
2) If yes, which one? and is he active as an alumni/brother?
3) If no, does he respect your greek affiliation/involvement?
4) or if you are still active as an alumna what does he think about it?

1) My husband is not a member of a GLO.
2) N/A
3) I guess he respects my involvement. I don't think he truly understands what exactly ADPi means or means to me specifically.
4) I think he's in for a big shock to his system when we move wherever it is we will be moving to in November and I, A) get very active in an alumnae association, B) if there is no alumnae asociation start one, C) become an advisor for the local chapter if there is one. Here in Germany, my involvement has been just little things- hosting sisters who visit, going to dinner with a sister who lived somewhat close (but is gone now!), making my ADPi scrapbook, posting here on GC, etc. Most of what I do, is done while I'm still at home, I don't have to go anywhere. When we get back to the States, I'm really hoping I'll get the chance to GO lots of places with ADPi.

[FirstAndFinest]

Originally posted by ADPi Conniebama
1) Is your husband/boyfriend a member of a GLO?
2) If yes, which one? and is he active as an alumni/brother?
3) If no, does he respect your greek affiliation/involvement?
4) or if you are still active as an alumna what does he think about it?

1) No, he left college and joined the Army.
3) "Respect"? Hmmm... tolerates is a better word. Refers to ADPi as "gamma gamma lamb" (interesting, since he doesn't realize my chapter of initiation is gamma lambda.) EG: "Are you going to gamma gamma lamb tonight?" "No, I didn't touch your gamma lamb stuff!"
4)I'm president of my alumnae assn and serve as finance and standards advisor to a collegiate chapter, so I am *definitely* active! I was involved in both when I met my husband, so it was just something that made me, me. The weekend after returning from our honeymoon, I went to DLC! He would rather had me not go, but it wasn't even a discussion; I'd told him when we made the wedding plans that I'd be going to Balto when we got back. Bottom line: he sees how much I love it and how much I get out of all I put into it. Oh, that and I won't tell him about what goes on with either the collegians or alumnae - IF he won't tell me all about the Yankees and every game they play!

[honeychile]

VERY good idea for a thread!!

1) Is your husband/boyfriend a member of a GLO?
a) My ex was not, but he told our friends that he was (without my knowing!). He had gone through some of my college year books & scrapbooks, and figured out enough to be a poser.
b) No, my fiance went to a school without GLOs.

2) If yes, which one? and is he active as an alumni/brother?
a) He pretended that he was a Pika, as I had more about them. (gee, wonder why?).
b) n/a.

3) If no, does he respect your greek affiliation/involvement?
a) Yes, in public, but not in private. He didn't mind me going to meetings, etc, but when I was making something at home for our philanthropy, he hit the roof.
b) It's hard to say. Deep down inside, I don't think he understands it, not having known any other greeks well. He thinks it's all Animal House and Susie Sorority. We've talked quite a bit about it, but I think it's going to take him actually seeing me interact with a bunch of sisters for him to realize how deep the bond is - which is why I'm insisting that he goes to a sister's wedding with me this summer! He was impressed by the various philanthropies and grants to help each other, though.

4) or if you are still active as an alumna what does he think about it?
a) Same answer as above.
b) He see my involvement the same way that he would see me as a member of, oh, say the Junior League, a Ladies Auxilary or such - again, he doesn't see the bond. Yet.


Good thread topic!!

Edited to add: there were no GLOs at my fiance's college.

[CougADPi]

Originally posted by ADPi Conniebama

1) Is your husband/boyfriend a member of a GLO?
2) If yes, which one? and is he active as an alumni/brother?
3) If no, does he respect your greek affiliation/involvement?
4) or if you are still active as an alumna what does he think about it?

1) Yep.
2) My husband is a proud member of Kappa Kappa Psi as well as an honorary member of Tau Beta Sigma. He wasn't too active as an alum but went active again while in grad school. He is very active right now.
4) Mixed feelings. I left my chapter a little early due to some personal issues and he worries that I may revert to those issues. Long story. I'll gladly give you the full version if you would like to PM me.

[lonestaradpi]

Originally posted by ADPi Conniebama

1) Is your husband/boyfriend a member of a GLO?
2) If yes, which one? and is he active as an alumni/brother?
3) If no, does he respect your greek affiliation/involvement?
4) or if you are still active as an alumna what does he think about it?

1. Mr. Lonestar isn't a member of a GLO
3 & 4. He totally respects my greek involvement. His dad was in a GLO, and understands some of the stuff we do. He doesn't object at all when I go out of town to adpi recruitments, conventions, etc. I have just begun to serve on a house corp board and he knows that that means that he will have work to do also but he has no problems with me volunteering him for anything. He is a wonderful man and puts up with everything I throw his way, greek or not!

[scho5148]

[QUOTE]Originally posted by ADPi Conniebama


1) Is your husband/boyfriend a member of a GLO?
2) If yes, which one? and is he active as an alumni/brother?
3) If no, does he respect your greek affiliation/involvement?
4) or if you are still active as an alumna what does he think about it?


1) My husband is not a member of a GLO.
2) However, he did pledge Kappa Alpha when we were in college, but eventually decided he didn't want to pursue that. He ran Cross Country and Track and they had their own little group so to speak.
3) He definitely respects my greek involvement. We met just before I went through recruitment my freshman year and started dating later that same year.
4) He supported me in my involvement during college and now as an active Alumna. Actually, he thinks of himself as an "honorary ADPi" since he's been through so much with me (with ADPI). He even went to the 150th Anniversary with me in Atlanta. (Which he placed 3rd in the RMH Road Race and turned out to be the 'camera guy' at the Cannonball House.)

[emleepc]

1) Is your husband/boyfriend a member of a GLO?
2) If yes, which one? and is he active as an alumni/brother?

---My boyfriend is a member of the Lambda-Omicron chapter of Kappa Sigma, and an active member of the Lambda-Omicron Alumni Association in Florence, AL.

3) If no, does he respect your greek affiliation/involvement?
4) or if you are still active as an alumna what does he think about it?

---He is very supportive of what I do with ADPi. It's a little different though, because he still is in grad school at UNA, and I am 2 1/2 hours away in Birmingham. We do things with Kappa Sigma and ADPi both, and love every minute of it!!!

[ADPiAkron]

Originally posted by ADPi Conniebama
[B]1) Is your husband/boyfriend a member of a GLO?
2) If yes, which one? and is he active as an alumni/brother?
3) If no, does he respect your greek affiliation/involvement?
4) or if you are still active as an alumna what does he think about it?

1. My boyfriend is not a member of a GLO.
2. NA
3. He respects my greek affiliation.
4. He thinks that sororities are for college girls and that I graduated 5 years ago...so for me to get over it. It is really difficult for me since I am an officer on an alumnae board and an advisor. Sometimes he can be accepting of it and understand that this is my "hobby," but most of the time he criticizes it...especially for taking time away from him on our days off together.

[texas*princess]

1) Is your husband/boyfriend a member of a GLO?
Yes (boyfriend)


2) If yes, which one? and is he active as an alumni/brother?
Lambda Chi Alpha - not an active alumni, but he is still close with a lot of his brothers and we all go out together just about every weekend

3) If no, does he respect your greek affiliation/involvement?
N/A

4) or if you are still active as an alumna what does he think about it?
I think he is pretty indifferent. He thinks it's neat I'm trying to help out as an alumna but it's not a real big deal to him I guess since it doesn't directly affect him

[skerbow]

Originally posted by ADPi Conniebama
1) Is your husband/boyfriend a member of a GLO?
2) If yes, which one? and is he active as an alumni/brother?
3) If no, does he respect your greek affiliation/involvement?
4) or if you are still active as an alumna what does he think about it?

1) Not officially. He pledge Delta Tau Delta, but wasn't initiated because he didn't return to Southeastern the following semester.
2) see above
3) Yes, very much. But I think that is only because he is involved in his own associations that take up as much time and mean as much to him.
4) He loves that I have something to be apart of. In fact, he hopes that I will get an AA started here in Utah.

[Tggrsluv2bnce]

1) Yes.
2) Kappa Alpha Order. He will play golf with brothers occasionally, and we usually tailgate togther at football games, but that's about it.
3) Yes.
4) I am not very active as an alumna right now. If I was, I think he would support me in whatever I wanted to do.

[kateshort]

Originally posted by ADPi Conniebama
Just wondering how many of us married outside of the greek system so here goes?

1) Is your husband/boyfriend a member of a GLO?
2) If yes, which one? and is he active as an alumni/brother?
3) If no, does he respect your greek affiliation/involvement?
4) or if you are still active as an alumna what does he think about it?

1) My husband is a Sinfonian! (Phi Mu Alpha Sinfornia Men's Music Fraternity)
2) He's not active in the sense of paying for the newsletter or going to any alumni activities ('cause there aren't really any going on, which is a shame). However, he does keep up a chapter mailing list and a chapter alumni web page. His sister's husband is also a Sinfonian, though from another chapter, and they *always* sneak in the handshake when arriving and leaving. It cracks me up every time, since it's like they're trying to be subtle about it, and I can always tell when they're doing it (though I have no idea what the handshake actually is...).
3) NA
4) He generally respects it. I'm only a little active now, since the chapter I alumna-initiated in closed, so I no longer drive down in January for recruitment. He begrudgingly will take off all of the pop tabs on his Sprite cans. -grin- I only end up at 2-3 Alum Assoc activities per year, due to various things, and I'm too far away to host one at home, so he's pretty much fine with it.