How do you feel when people who are not in your Frat/Sor. wear your letters?

prophet · #1 07-12-2002, 04:08 PM

I hate when people not in my fraternity wear my letters, sweet hearts! I never seen males wear my letters if they are not in the fraternity but girls I have If you did not pledge my fraternity and work for them, you should not wear em'. The only reason I see chapters of any fraternity let-ing girls wear their letters, is because they use this as a way of showing off to others, that girls like them. HAHAHAHA>That's wack! Girls wear the letters, thinking their some thing special....hahaha>That's wack! People who do this, come on....you don't look like a pimp and you don't mean anything special to the fraternity as a whole. If anything, chapters should make sweaters with their chapter names on em'> That's cool...it shows that the girl is important to the chapter. I'm a bring it up to my chapter, damn I'm creative. We never had sweet hearts, because we don't believe in having people not in our fraternity wearing our letters.
-Heath
[SIZE=7]FKT[SIZE]-[SIZE=4]EPSILON THETA chapter SFSU[SIZE]

Carrie7777 · #2 07-12-2002, 05:22 PM

I don't have a problem with it at all. Dates from dances wear shirts that have our letters. My friends younger sister wears our shirts, I think it's cute. As long as they aren't doing things that would represent my sorority in a negative light, I'm all for it!

Pi Kapp 142 · #3 07-12-2002, 05:27 PM

I agree, the actual Greek Letters should be saved for members and people special to the fraternity or sorority. But I think that people could were the English letters if it is on a shirt that announces an event or philanthropy.

Tink16 · #4 07-13-2002, 12:31 AM

I remember at a party my X-boyfriend kinda flew off the roof because one of the sorority girls that was there was wearing a sweatshirt with his letters. His older brothers calmed him down though and explained to him that she was just a little cold. I was glad I had never done that

ohdollypop · #5 07-13-2002, 12:39 AM

Whoa...on my campus, letters were considered a VERY special thing, to be worn with respect.

We of course had shirts for our big dances, but in general there were no letters, just the name of the fraternity or sorority written out. There are some cases where you would see letters, maybe for formal favors (like one semester we had "surgeon's pants"), or for philanthropy shirts that listed the letters of ALL houses participating...but never across your chest, or big, or anything.

I don't know, I just don't think it's right!

aephi alum · #6 07-13-2002, 10:14 AM

My sorority doesn't allow anyone but initiated sisters to wear or display the Greek letters - whether they are stitched-on, screenprinted, lavaliers, keychains, anything. New members and non-members can wear the letters spelled out, either "Alpha Epsilon Phi" or "AEPhi".

If I saw a woman wearing letters, I'd assume she's a sister, and I'd be annoyed if I found out otherwise. If I saw a man wearing letters, I'd want to know why, and explain that they are the letters of a national sorority and only initiated members should be wearing them.

If I saw anyone (male or female) wearing the letters spelled out, I'd want to find out what their relationship to AEPhi is... if it's a woman, maybe she's a new member or a sister, or a mother of a sister... if it's a man, maybe his wife, girlfriend, daughter, etc. is an AEPhi. But I would not be annoyed. Same thing if I saw anyone (male or female) with an AEPhi keychain, car sticker, etc. even with the Greek letters... after all, you're not going to take the AEPhi sticker off your car when your husband wants to drive it

However, I would be upset if I saw anyone wearing or displaying anything associated with AEPhi while drinking, doing drugs, etc.

PM_Mama00 · #7 07-13-2002, 12:54 PM

Wow... I'm really surprised. I could see being angry if it were just any girl wearing the letters. On my campus, and other campuses that I know of, a girl getting lettered is one of the steps towards engagement, or that the girl is really really special to that brother. I have a few sisters who have gotten lettered, and one of my friends got lavaliered. I also have a sister who wears her husband's TKE letters with pride because she is proud to be married to a TKE.

The only other situation I've seen are party shirts, but they'll say "Delt Sig..." or something of the sort. Also, there's one pledge class that is really close, and they always said that the first Tau class baby was going to be lettered. She got lettered a few weeks after she was born, and it was a very special thing for everyone, and NO ONE looked down on it.

CarolinaDG · #8 07-18-2002, 12:07 AM

I have this post under another thread, but I wanted to post it here as well...

I have four fraternities' letters: Pi Kappa Phi (their rush shirt, I was dating the president at the time), Sigma Nu (their rush shirt, my sister got it, and won't wear it so she gave it to me), Sigma Phi Epsilon (date function, Carolina Cup), and Sigma Chi (derby days). I don't wear the Sigma Nu one except to sleep in, even though I know a lot of the guys, and i'm sure they wouldn't mind... but I'd be afraid that the ones who DON'T know me would be mad about it. I don't wear the Pi Kapp one in public, either, but mainly because ALL the guys know me, and my boyfriend and I had a less-than-easy break up. I do wear the Sig Ep and Sigma Chi ones. And I think that's appropriate. Also, my sorority does order shirts for our dates. And I make a point to ask guys if I see them wearing them, but don't recognize them, who they went with. I always have known their dates, but if I were to EVER catch someone who had gotten it from a non-sister, I'd be pretty ticked. We have a little joke, "only to hot guys." The thing is, they're representing us as well, and we want to make sure that they ARE representing us well... and chances are if they were a sister's date, then they are quality. My question for y'all, though, is what letters do you think are appropriate for girls to wear, and what should be for only LAVALIERED girls to wear?

prophet · #9 07-18-2002, 12:31 AM

Look at what he wrote, I agree. Eh, DG did you every go to "LeaderShip academy?" I think that was what it was called back then.
-Heath.

CarolinaDG · #10 07-18-2002, 12:50 AM

Ok, I did actually look at Pi Kapp's response. The thing is, though, according to Pi Kapp as well as yourself, I shouldn't be wearing the Sig Ep's letters nor the Sigma Nu's (the Pi Kapp's and the Sigma Chi's are both spelled out). Now, I don't wear the Sigma Nus in public, just as I've already stated, because I would feel weird, but explain the problem with the Sig Ep's to me. They are greek letters SFE but I still don't see what the problem is. A brother bought the shirt for me and gave it to me. Many other of the guys dates have it, too. I understand not wanting for girls to wear, say, a sweatshirt with the letters on it, but when a brother gave me this t-shirt, why is it a problem?

CarolinaDG · #11 07-18-2002, 12:51 AM

Also, what are you talking about, "Leadership Academy"?

SKRae · #12 07-18-2002, 01:02 AM

OK, ao I understand that some fraternities and sororities would be upset at just anybody wearing their letters. Sigma Nu on my campus only gives their letters (all shirts etc.) to the woman they think that they are going to marry. Other fraternities give their shirts to people close to the fraternity as a good relations type thing. Some give them as a rush incintive (like if a guy sees a hot girl wear this shirt, they may be more apt to be interested in that fraternity or greek life in general). My boyfriend is in a local Indiana based fraternity and gave me a shirt because he likes seeing me in his letters. I do understand that if I saw some random guy wearing his letters, that both he and I would get offended, just as I would some random girl wearing mine. But I wouldn't jump the gun, some people like to share their love of something with the people they are with.purple

ChiOJenn78 · #13 07-18-2002, 11:46 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by SKRae
OK, ao I understand that some fraternities and sororities would be upset at just anybody wearing their letters. Sigma Nu on my campus only gives their letters (all shirts etc.) to the woman they think that they are going to marry. purple

I posted in the other thread with the exact same name-what is the difference in the threads? Why are there 2 with the exact same names? -anyhoo, my boyfriend is a Sigma Nu-and he pinned me-and none of his brothers ever had a problem with me wearing his letters occasionally-I'm also a Sweetheart for his chapter. (This post is just a basic synopsis of what I wrote in the other thread).

prophet · #14 07-18-2002, 12:50 PM

At "Leadership Academy," held by Phi Taus and Delta Gammas there were shirts, I heard from older brothers that read FKT and DG blah blah blah. So, in that case it was cool. I am going to make a wild guesse and say you are a newer sister of DG; If I'm wrong, my bad. I have been in FKT for 1 and half years and I know the newer brothers don't know about "Leadership Academy." That is a shame because that type of event should be remembered because that is when we were best with each other. When events have more then one participant, it is all good to have every ones names on the shirt.
-Heath

JMUduke · #15 07-18-2002, 01:06 PM

I'm confused, when girls and I at my school talk about wearing letters we mean the stitched letters that are by themselves on a shirt, not letters that are on a rush t-shirt, a party t-shirt or a formal shirt...the letters are really significant and no one would wear ACTUAL letters, but plenty of girls wear shirts that say KA Rosebowl on it, or something similiar...