No sorority for me!

Amalia17 · #1 02-12-2004, 04:59 PM

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kddani · #2 02-12-2004, 05:08 PM

I'm sorry to hear things didn't work out.

You're probably just saying it because you're upset, but please do not let the fact that you didn't receive a bid induce you into transferring schools! Academics come first, and that's what's important, not whether or not you got a bid. And i'm not sure if this is what you mean, but if you transfer schools, if you're going to rush, you might end up in the same situation.

I'm sure you're going to have a period of time that you're sad (mourning, so to speak). But then you should really sit down and evaluate what's important to you and what is missing in your life that makes you feel like joining a sorority was a must, and fill that void with something else.

DGMarie · #3 02-12-2004, 05:14 PM

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PKTKKG · #4 02-12-2004, 05:32 PM

I am so sorry this happend to you. I agree with DGMarie's comments, and I can understand why you are frustrated.

Please think about the possibilities of Alumnae Initiation. There are so many organizations whose chapters need advisors and strong alumnae support and it sounds like you would be the type of person who would put the effort into it.

Keep your chin up and try not to let it get you down.

Amalia17 · #5 02-12-2004, 08:50 PM

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aephi alum · #6 02-12-2004, 08:56 PM

I'm so sorry things didn't work out.

Check the Alumni Involvement forum - there's a lot of information there on AI.

chideltjen · #7 02-12-2004, 09:10 PM

I'm sorry about things not working out.
I don't know where you go to school or what campus life is like there, but I agree with whoever said try alumnae initiation. I don't know much about that or national sororities in general, but I am sure if you check the web with a group's national site, you might find information there.
Have your tried going local? Are there local sororities on your campus. I have seen some that cater to older members. Check out the localsororities site at www.geocities.com/localsororities to see if there are any in your state/school/etc.

DGMarie · #8 02-12-2004, 09:39 PM

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Originally posted by Amalia17
I dont know anyone, I thought going greek would help and would keep me here.

It sounds to me like you are looking for a place to fit in and as my mother in law would say, a place to hang your hat. That is totally normal. If such activities do not exist at your college, what about outside of it? There are junior leagues, chuch groups, interest groups etc. Do you have an hobbies? Sports? There are many options.

33girl · #9 02-12-2004, 11:52 PM

I wasn't aware that you had gone to undergrad there as well...that probably had a lot to do with your not getting a bid. There ARE older sisters and alums around and I would guess at least some of them knew or recognized you from your first go-round...they may have questioned why you didn't go Greek then.

RioLambdaAlum · #10 02-13-2004, 12:49 AM

where do ya live Amalia? transfer to university of rio grande, i got a bunch of nut ball sisters down there that i'm sure would love ya. i miss my girls

grr to the real world and jobs and crap.

PKTKKG · #11 02-13-2004, 11:14 AM

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Originally posted by Hootie
I didn't really follow your rush story, so I'm not up to date on all the happenings. However I will say this:

I went through Rush with a bunch of girls from my high school. All of us wanted to go Chi Omega, but three of the girls ended up getting other houses. They were devistated at first because they couldn't see themselves anywhere else either. Not to mention the fact that they wanted to be in the same house as us. But you know what, they tried their sorority out, and in the end, they were MUCH happier in their respective houses than they would have been in Chi Omega (now that's not something you'll hear a gal say everyday). But it's true. Disappointment is tough and you obviously had strong feelings towards that one chapter. But in the end, things DO somethings work out for a reason.
Not that this little message is hope to change your mind...maybe you really really can't see yourself with these girls. However, as someone who has witnessed this a hundred times, I thought I'd throw this out as an example.

Good Luck in any future endevors and remember you are special because you're YOU...not because of greek letters!

Well said Hootie!!!!

James · #12 02-13-2004, 09:44 PM

I guess you could try the AI route, but why bother?

Generally AI is offered to people already intimatelyy invovled with a specific chapter for whatever reason, kind of a recognition of contribution. Or sometimes AI is offered because you are friends or close with a bunch of alums in an alumnae association and they want to make you a member, again a recognition of contribution.

Or there is initiation for purely honorary reasons, your reputation or service.

In your case thoug,h you are not likely to find the close personal relationships you seem to be seeking. Historically white GLO's are basically college focused undergrad/grad and offer very little in terms for post grads in the sense of the GLO experience: The bond made through constant social interaction and shared projects.

If you are a natural joiner then you may want to consider the advice of the others and look into other organizations.

Also, you should not jump to the conclusion that your age was the primary factor in your elimination. I have heard of many people your age or older successfully getting bids.

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Originally posted by Amalia17
I am not saying I am going to transfer and try again at another school. If I transfer I am staying away from greek life, 25 was a stretch for me, but rushing at 26, well that's just closer to 30 than 18. This school in general frusterates me! Post bacs are not permitted to join anything or do anything. It's a bunch of crap. If I can't join a club, greek or not, then I don't know why I have to continue paying the student activity fee. I went to school here as an undergrad and it just sucks because I have so many memories. It is hard going back. I dont know anyone, I thought going greek would help and would keep me here. Before I even rushed I thought about transferring, but then thought if I join a sorority, that would be reason to stay. Right now, i have no reason to stay.
But I am interested in looking into AI. Can someone tell me more about it? Thanks.

astroAPhi · #13 02-13-2004, 09:47 PM

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Originally posted by James
I guess you could try the AI route, but why bother?

Generally AI is offered to people already intimatelyy invovled with a specific chapter for whatever reason, kind of a recognition of contribution. Or sometimes AI is offered because you are friends or close with a bunch of alums in an alumnae association and they want to make you a member, again a recognition of contribution.

That may be the case with fraternities, but I don't think that is necessarily the case with some of the NPC sororities, James.

I encourage you to at least investigate your options Amalia. Good luck.

James · #14 02-13-2004, 10:00 PM

Do you advertise AI then? Like look for alum members? Do people just wake up and say they want to wear letters for no real reason other than to say they belong?

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Originally posted by astroAPhi
That may be the case with fraternities, but I don't think that is necessarily the case with some of the NPC sororities, James.

I encourage you to at least investigate your options Amalia. Good luck.

astroAPhi · #15 02-13-2004, 10:14 PM

Do we put out ads in the papers for AI? No. It's usually done by word of mouth though. Look at the alumni forum. Lots of women there have contacted chapters wanting information about AI and expressing an interest in joining because they feel that even though they're not an undergrad, a sorority would be a positive experience for them.