JUST WONDERING

[Whispers *02]

I am interested in pledging and I know a few ladies in the sorority that I want to pledge into. The ladies and I are only aquaintances, when we see each other we say hello and that's about all. These ladies do not know that I am interested in their sorority. I was wondering if anyone has any suggestions on how I should bring up the subject or talk with them more than I do at the present time to please let me know your ideas. Thank You!!

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Whispers *02

[AKAtude]

Hhhhmmm. I think it all depends on how approachable you think they are. When I was in school, I didn't mind young ladies coming up to me and letting me know about their interest in AKA. Hopefully, they feel the same way.

[Whispers *02]

Thank you for answering both of my questions AKAtude!

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[AKAtude]

You are welcome.

[r l johnson]

Well when I was interested in pledging Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority,Inc. I went to all of the informationals and functions. Therefore I let members of the sorority know that way. My father is an Alpha and my mother is an AKA so I knew some people, but it was hard to know who to talk to about it in undergrad. If you feel comfortable enough with some friends of yours in that sorority, talk to them. Be sure you let them know you are doing so in a private manner. They shouldn't mind one bit. I never mind when someone asks me but be mindful that everyone isn't always like that.

[r l johnson]

I also forgot to say just let your acquaintances start talking about their pledge days and different stories and slip some info in there. I know I love the good old days of pledging and I never mind sharing a story. Have a nice day and good luck on entering the sorority of your choice!

[pink bunny]

i would attend the functions of course and
try to have a deeper conversation then just
hello. if they are in the same class or major talk about that or whatever you have in
common. express your interest in the organization in a friendly respectful manner and continue to support their projects. if they are decent then they will respect you.

[ivy envy]

It is important that you attend any and all programs etc. that are hosted by the chapter on your campus. Remember, as Alpha Kappa Alpha Women, we practice discretion so be careful of what you say and who you say it to. If they are your friends, gradually work your way up to a conversation that consists of more than hello. It is important to be humble too so dont over do it. Personally, I would attend programs...that is a good way to meet other members,as well as "conversate" with your friends.

GOOD LUCK..and let me know if I can do anything else!

[CJUS]

I was a freshman in college working workstudy with a member of Alpha KAppa Alpha Sorority, INC. This other sisterfriend and I was discussing about pledging. The member of Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority came up to me and asked me what sorority did I want to pledge. I told her Alpha Kappa Alpha, she rolled her eyes and had this look like I wasn't worthy of getting into her sorority. But if she knew what I was thinking, girl, I tell you. Maybe that was her demeanor. I was still respectful and used humility because I knew that I would have to see her again.

[sunnydays96]

I think the best way to show interest as was stated earlier is to attend infomationals, functions, programs, etc.. Depending on the members themselves, some may be open to interested women asking them questions and some may not. People approach me all the time and I don't mind, but some of my sorors do. Sometimes it may seem as if interested girls are trying to be our friends because we have what they want.

If you go to all of the programs/functions, try to make small talk there. Let them know who you are and get your name out there. One can show interest without actually comming out and saying, "I want to be in your sorority, how can I be down".

As was said earlier be careful of what you talk about and who you talk to. You never know what someone will not/will say to someone else. You never know who may be around and listening. You may think you are having an innocent and private conversation and someone takes it, tells someone, who tells another and another and another.... remember the telephone game. I have seen this hurt people, so it may be in one's best interest to keep things to themselves.

[poise-n-ivy]

Remember that although you want to express genuwine interest, discretion is key!