Name Change

[AKAtude]

After I got engaged, I decided I would hyphenate my last names. My fiancee has always known about my decision, and said it's my choice but he rather I not do it.

Ladies who are married:
What did you do?

Everyone else:
What would you do, or how do you feel about it?

[Wonderful1908]

I am definately going to hyphenate my name I have been me to long and when I get married I will still be me!!!! I don't believe in taking a mans last name in the theory that we are one and I am his wife. There is nothing wrong with it though and most women prefer to change their entire last name. Its what ever floats your boat. As long as love is the main focus who cares what's in a name!

[loviest95]

i hypenated for work-- but everything else I just have my hubby's last name

I really don't think he cares either way

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IVY in my HAND-- AKA in my HEART

[jali0004]

Belated Congratulations, Soror AKAtude!!

My mother and my aunts, all hyphenated their names, when they got married, but I see three new trends emerging:

1. Not using the hyphen, and just adding it on. For example, Mary Smith Jones.

2. Being "romantic" and just taking his name.

3. HIM adding YOUR last name!! Example, John Smith Jones.

I am not engaged yet, however, I'm starting to like the tradition of taking his last name. When I was younger,I couldn't see myself not having my last name when I got married.

My last name has a lot of history and culture behind it (it's haitian), and I don't want my kids not knowing where they came from. So, my boyfriend and I agreed that our childrens' middle name would be my last name. That works great, because I'll ALWAYS have my last name (in the philosophical sense). Even when I'm married, I'll still be me....

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"I am not yet the author of my life; I am still it's unenlightened protagonist"
---Unknown

[This message has been edited by jali0004 (edited May 08, 2001).]

[pebbles_6]

I'm going to hyphenate my name because my brother is the ONLY male left in our family to carry on our name and if he only has girls or doen't have children at all, our name will die out. I only wish my sister had chosen the same because she now has two beautiful sons who have only her husband's name to carry on. Another take on it, is it's two families coming together in the bond of marriage. Not just his. I think it's great that more women are carrying on their family names.

[sphinxpoet1]

I would not mind her not changing of hyphnating her name

In fact my future wife will have a name like Mrs. M. Great-Poet.
and I will be Mr. Sphinx Great-Poet

[LadyAKA]

Trying not to be too deep I will say I am giving up my last name. In keeping with the light mood can you image some children walking around with long names and having to fill out those test sheets in grade school. They could be there for hours ;-)
LOL

[AKAtude]

Originally posted by LadyAKA:
In keeping with the light mood can you image some children walking around with long names and having to fill out those test sheets in grade school. They could be there for hours ;-)
LOL

Fortunately, my last name and his last name only contain four letters each. If we had really long last names, I wouldn't consider it.

[LadyAKA]

Originally posted by AKAtude:
Fortunately, my last name and his last name only contain four letters each. If we had really long last names, I wouldn't consider it.

Really? So if your names were longer, real long ...you would just do the one name, taking his I suppose?

I was about to tell yall my last name means a lot to me, but I would be lying. I can't wait to join as one and take my man's last name. Obviously this is a SERIOUS MATTER and thus I am in no rush, see I believe in lasting relationships or shall I say MARRIAGE to be exact. I am one for having both our names put on the plot when one of us passes away ... I mentioned this before in the APA forum. This thought, this idea is a long way off but it is the type of long, lasting, loving relationship I want!!

[AKA4MJ]

I am definitely hyphenanting (SP?)...
Only because my last name without it my maiden, would not sound right!!!!!

[AKA2D '91]

Girl, since I am "everyone else"
I am going to hyphenate my name, why not?

I don't care what he thinks, that's the way it's going to be! LOL

[Discogoddess]

Discogoddess MaidenName HisName: for most "legal and formal" things

Discogoddess HisName: for everything else




[This message has been edited by Discogoddess (edited May 09, 2001).]

[LadyAKA]

Originally posted by AKA2D '91:
Girl, since I am "everyone else"
I am going to hyphenate my name, why not?

I don't care what he thinks, that's the way it's going to be! LOL

I am there with you on the "EVERYONE ELSE".

[AKAtude]

Originally posted by AKA2D '91:
Girl, since I am "everyone else"

Now, you know these days you have to direct questions to the appropriate group of people or else all heck breaks loose! LOL

[AKA2D '91]

aight, we are friends again!

you better watch it though, some of us are sensitive about their statuses (is that a word?) LOL @ME!