Blatant Indiscretion!!

[MsAnn]

Sorors, have any of you ever had a family member (cousin, niece, aunt, sister, etc.) discuss becoming a member of Alpha Kappa Alpha right in front of you as if you shouldn't even care? This is exactly what happened while I was visiting some of my family. I have a cousin who, to my surprise, is seeking membership in a graduate chapter and feels that she WILL have her letters by the end of this Spring. Now SUPPOSEDLY, she has talked to a Soror about membership, but I know for a FACT that she has not been invited to join. Anyway, we were sitting around talking when someone said something about me being an AKA. Before I knew it, she was talking and saying things like "when I get my letters, dah, dah, dah," and "after I cross, this and that." She even had the audacity to say that she needed "her letters" by a certain time before she goes on some trip or to some party or something in March . Some of my other cousins and aunts that she told have already been "buying her things" (if you know what I mean) to keep until after she "crosses."

Now I don't know about the rest of my Sorors, but before I was made, I got upset with ANYBODY who bought me anything pink and green or with AKA on it and let me know that they had it. I told them if you buy it, don't let me know it! And I would NEVER even fix my mouth to say something like "when I cross.." in front of a Soror of AKA, much less tell her that I needed my letters by a certain time ! I have aunts who are Sorors and I NEVER even mentioned AKA to them unless they asked me a question and even then, I watched what I said. Well, by this time I had gotten quiet as I sat in my seat FUMING! Once I composed myself, I had to explain that AKA does not work on YOUR time, YOU work on HER time! I remembered that my mother called me a few weeks before and told me that my aunt referred to my cousin as my "future Soror" a number of times when they talked. She even referred to her as a "future Soror" to another lady who I know is a Soror. My mother knows how dear I hold AKA to my heart and advised my aunt not to say that around me. The other thing that bothers me is I do not feel as if she is pursing membership because of what she wants to bring to the organization. It seems that she just wants some letters to wear so she can say "I'm an AKA!" Period. When all a person talks about is the people that they will surprise, the parties they will go to, the jackets and shirts and outfits they will buy, how they plan to decorate their car inside and out with AKA para and NEVER once mention a service project or desire to run for an office, I have to question their reason for joining, family or not. I am sure my Sorors will agree. I mean, do people really not understand that this IS a SERIOUS matter? AKA is not just some club that you just sign up for and walk right on in. She does not need anyone to just wear her letters. She has thousands and thousands of Sorors worldwide to do that. To sisterfriends reading this, I know it is said over and over, but PLEASE be discrete AND respectful to AKA AND my Sorors. I apologize for this long post, but I felt so disrespected after this incident I had to tell someone. Much love Sorors!

[This message has been edited by MsAnn (edited December 30, 2000).]

[This message has been edited by MsAnn (edited December 30, 2000).]

[This message has been edited by MsAnn (edited December 30, 2000).]

[This message has been edited by MsAnn (edited December 30, 2000).]

[AKA2D '91]

Originally posted by MsAnn:
It seems that she just wants some letters to wear so she can say "I'm an AKA!" Period. When all a person talks about is the people that they will surprise, the parties they will go to, the jackets and shirts and outfits they will buy, how they plan to decorate their car inside and out with AKA para and NEVER once mention a service project or desire to run for an office, I have to question their reason for joining, family or not. I am sure my Sorors will agree. I mean, do people really not understand that this IS a SERIOUS matter? AKA is not just some club that you just sign up for and walk right on in. She does not need anyone to just wear her letters. She has thousands and thousands of Sorors worldwide to do that. To sisterfriends reading this, I know it is said over and over, but PLEASE be discrete AND respectful to AKA AND my Sorors

SOROR, no apologies are necessary, TRUST ME!

I know many of the Sorors here, feel your plight!

NO, I DON'T THINK SOME FEEL THAT THIS IS A SKEERIOUS MATTER!

[Convinced]

Soror, I feel you girl! I'm sure that you all know of my man plights with my no good ex who left me for my friend's sister Well, about a year later, the girl pledged and I was at her ceremony. Well, when I saw the tears in her eyes I decided to let by gones be by gones.... She must love AKA to her heart, right? So, I hugged her and told her that I loved her. I saw her recently and asked her if she was still active. She told me no, because their chapter was on probation and she couldn't step anyway!!!!!!!! HELLO!!!!! OH, how many times would Ethel roll over! Soror, so many of these young ladies are, and aspire to be, nothing but letter wearers and tag bearers. (If I offended anyone, I meant to!)

[AKA2D '91]

Originally posted by Convinced:
(If I offended anyone, I meant to!)

HA HA HA HA....

ROTFLMAKAAO!

HIGH-FIVE, SOROR!

[MsAnn]

ROTFLMAO!!!!

CONVINCED, YOU ARE A MESS SOROR!! I FEEL YOU THOUGH!

[MsAnn]

Yes Soror, you have definately taken the cake with that one . Let me say that I feel YOUR pain. If my cousin ever decided to skeewee in my presence...LAWD!

[AKAtude]

I'm shaking my head...again.

[spankee]

Miss Ann

As a sisterfriend I was in that situation but on the other side. On Thanksgiving I got the usual "What's going on with school" question. I told my aunt how the sorority I wanted to pledge wasn't on my campus and I was researching how I could pledge elsewhere. She then asked me which one. When I told her AKA she immediately grabbed my cousin who is an AKA. Once my cousin realized what the topic was she began to look uncomfortable. She told me to find the nearest grad chapter because maybe they could help me. My aunt found this to be a bit rude and wanted her to give me more information. I could tell that she wasn't trying to be rude. I thought that she probably wasn't allowed to blab on and on about AKA nor could she promise me anything (probably what my aunt wanted to happen). I have purposely not brought it up again, although on Christmas I could barely restrain myself. Anyway, AKA is something that I would want to achieve on my own. If I were ever able to pledge such an organization, I would want to know it was because of who I am, not my family members.

Thank you, Miss Ann for posting this topic. Now I can be happy I handled the situation the way I did. I just hope my aunt doesn't continue to try to pump my cousin on my behalf.

[PrincessELG]

Just my opinion...

As a sisterfriend I am hurt by anyone who does not show the same respect for Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority Inc. that I do. I to have many cousins and friends of the family who are members but I would not dare broadcast my intentions in such a manner. If I am ever so lucky to be graced with the honor of becoming a Lady of Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority Inc. then I want my family members to applaud my sence of discresion and repect for their organization. And I know that Alpha Kappa Alpha is own her own schedule and if your are fortunate enough you will be penciled in according to her time frame and her time frame only, so anyone that thinks other wise could be hurt and embarrased later on.

[PositivelyAKA]

soror i feel your pain, recently i hung out with my boyfriend, his stepmother is a soror. she is trying to "recruit" her daughter to join AKA. her daughter knows i'm an AKA and she says to me, "they are trying to get me to join a grad chapter" i was speechless, didn't know what to do, i made this face to my soror (the stepmom) and she was like what was that for. i thought "come on now, how you gon try to bring someone into the sorority who is not beating down the door, AKA may be your dream, but why spend your time trying to convince someone to join when many many young ladies have serious aspirations. i can't count the # of times folks have said things in my presence that ticked me off, as if they were doing AKA a favor but i always try to remember that many do not realize what is and is not appropriate

now this takes the cake, a soror lets her roommate (not a soror) skeewee the first time the girl did this me and another soror just looked at her. but she kept doing it whenever she saw us. so i had to take the girl aside and break it down to her, cause she was totally out of line. she apologized but didn't understand why her roommate (a soror) never asked her to stop.
now what i want to know is who made this chick

[Ideal08]

Originally posted by PositivelyAKA:
soror i feel your pain, recently i hung out with my boyfriend, his stepmother is a soror. she is trying to "recruit" her daughter to join AKA. her daughter knows i'm an AKA and she says to me, "they are trying to get me to join a grad chapter" i was speechless, didn't know what to do, i made this face to my soror (the stepmom) and she was like what was that for. i thought "come on now, how you gon try to bring someone into the sorority who is not beating down the door, AKA may be your dream, but why spend your time trying to convince someone to join when many many young ladies have serious aspirations. i can't count the # of times folks have said things in my presence that ticked me off, as if they were doing AKA a favor but i always try to remember that many do not realize what is and is not appropriate

now this takes the cake, a soror lets her roommate (not a soror) skeewee the first time the girl did this me and another soror just looked at her. but she kept doing it whenever she saw us. so i had to take the girl aside and break it down to her, cause she was totally out of line. she apologized but didn't understand why her roommate (a soror) never asked her to stop.
now what i want to know is who made this chick

Ok, this is all a hot mess. I would never try to get someone to join my sorority. Now, that is something that I just don't understand. Why would you want to give something to someone who hasn't even told you that they want it????? ARGH!!!!!! This brings bad memories.... Anyway.... NO ONE should need convincing to join any organization, let alone Alpha Kappa Alpha. I don't even know what to say about the chick letting ol' girl skeewee. All in all, Soror, I think you've rendered me speechless.

[AKA2D '91]

Originally posted by PositivelyAKA:
now what i want to know is who made this chick

Have mercy, PERCY!
A HOT MESS INDEED!

[AKA_Monet]

Whoa... This wasn't an issue back in my day... I guess I'm too old and have forgotten about what it was like before I was a soror... My Alzheimer's is kickin' in .

Anyhow, yes Soror Ms Ann it is blatant indiscretion. And the only thang I can say that is sho ain't cheap to join grad chapter... The one thing I'm happy about last Boule were summa the new rules for membership at the grad level... All I can say is you'd better have major $$$ in line... Oh well... And I guess if somebody was willin' to pay THAT much to join my organization, I'd think it would behoove them to work for it afterward... Or we just tooked their $$$...

All in all, folx can tell a T-shirt wearer when they meet one... HaHa, lines and crossing--A grad chapter does this? Oh well...

Email me so I can tell you more about grad MIP and how to really do it...

[MsAnn]

Soror AKA_Monet, I emailed you.

[jali0004]

Hello Sorors and SFs,

I brought this topic back up, because I want to stress to interestees, DISCRETION!!!!!

An incident happened to me last night. I ran into a friend of mine, and HER friend. My friend and I were talking about the step show my chapter was in, and how they liked the steps by all the NPHC members. Well, the other girl said to me, "I want to be an AKA too. You'll see me at the next rush!! Skee-Wee (as she holds up her pinky)!"

I was appalled!! I am a neo, yes, but I still know about discretion!! I would have never said or done what this young woman did, not only because it's bad luck for YOU, but it is disrespectful to the members who worked hard for the privilege to do that. This is a SERIOUS MATTER!! What made it worse is that she said she'd be at the rush, but not any of our OTHER programs and activities??? WTH????

And for my older sorors, this is not the case with all new memebrs, or interestees, but there are a growing number of young women who do not hold "what they say they want," sacred. Please practice discretion!!!

Okay, sorry for the long post, but I had to get that off my chest!!

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