a sister question

AlethiaSi · #1 01-05-2004, 08:32 PM

hey i have a question.... "hypothetically" what if something you did something to cause some damage to one of your sister's or brother's uh major possessions.... and you felt really awful- but you are so completely broke and just borrowed money for overdue bills from your mom and can't ask for more.... and you aren't working... so you have no way to pay this person back until break when you work... and they got the damage fixed but their parents paid for it- and now they need the money... would you get the sorority/fraternity involved by calling someone on your alumni board (we're local- so thats like our nationals) (whom you "hypothetically" don't get along with... at all... for other reasons) to call your house and talk to your parents?? do you think this is this a sorority issue?

KerriMarie · #2 01-05-2004, 09:24 PM

Work over the winter break (little late for that now...) or get a job during the spring semester. Somehow find a way to make the money. Then, write a big fat check to sister's parents - as they're the ones who paid for the damage in the first place, they are they ones you are in debt to - not the sister.

PsychTau · #3 01-05-2004, 10:08 PM

I'm not real sure how or why the sorority would get involved, unless they think you're trying to dodge the debt, and the sorority is another way to put pressure on you.

Call the girl's parents and work out a payment plan or something...I don't know that I would go through the girl. Sure, she's your sister (hypothetically) but money does bad things to people sometimes and KerriMarie is right....if her parents paid for the damage, etc. you owe the PARENTS, not her, so just deal directly with them (also shows maturity...a bonus). Besides, who knows if she gets into some money trouble this semester and doesn't want her parents to know...if you give her the money she could claim to her parents that you didn't pay her back and cause even more problems.

I'd also fess up to your parents and let them know you've worked out a plan with the other parents to pay them back....hiding stuff like this usually comes back to bite you in the rear....

Hypothetically speaking, of course.....

PsychTau

33girl · #4 01-05-2004, 10:25 PM

I don't know why you'd think this WAS a sorority issue, unless the damage was to sorority property.

Call the sister's parents and work things out - no one else needs to get involved, not the sorority, not your parents, perhaps not even the other sister.

AlethiaSi · #5 01-05-2004, 11:47 PM

yea- i agree that it isn't a sorority issue but b/c her parents deliberately called one of our alumni who is on the board to call my mom- that makes it a sorority issue.... its uncalled for... and my mom is taking care of it- i'm paying her back when i get paid next week... but i'm so embarrassed! I can definately understand that her parents would be pissed no question- but why does the sorority have to be involved? That makes me look like I WAS trying to dodge paying it- which i completely wasn't... i pay my dues- and i always front money- but now i have a bad impression on my sisters AND on our alumni.... thats why i'm so upset and it just wasn't called for... I guess i was asking advice to make sure i wasn't going crazy......