How would you handle this?

Conskeeted19 · #1 03-19-2001, 09:22 PM

What if a young lady transfered to your school professing to be an AKA. At the time you were not a member of the sorority. After being excepted your big sisters introduces this young lady as another member of Alpha Kappa Alpha. Lets say you and the young lady become close friends - even best friends. Ok, ten years later you find out that she lied about being a member of AKA. You contact one of the sorors that she alledgedly crossed with. The soror tells you that she did not pledge on her line. You then call nationals. Nationals report that they have no record of this individual. What would you do? Do you think that your friendship would be over?

Oh, by the way, this is a true story.

AKA2D '91 · #2 03-19-2001, 09:26 PM

Yes, because your friendship was set on the foundation that she WAS a Soror. Your relationship started from that notion.

It seems that you probably would not have met OR established a "ship" if she were NOT a Soror.

That's just my take on the situation.

Convinced · #3 03-19-2001, 11:52 PM

Yes, I think I'd be very ticked. I would tell her how dissapointed I am in her and that I no longer respect her. I might continue to be her friend because I'd feel sorry for her; her self esteem must be REALLY low to go to such lengths.

Ideal08 · #4 03-20-2001, 09:51 AM

That's kinda deep. On the one hand, you have a 10 year friendship. On the other hand, you have a liar. I honestly don't know what I would do.

AKAtude · #5 03-20-2001, 09:54 AM

The friendship was based on a lie from the beginning. No, I would not continue being her friend. Dishonesty about being a soror is too big a deal for me. Just being honest...

loviest95 · #6 03-20-2001, 06:55 PM

Believe it or not this happens quite often.
And yes this has happened to me-
I asked her why she lied.. she told me some "throwed off" story about being hazed and the chapter was caught and suspended.. the people in the chapter accepted her line as sorors

What kinda mess is that????

I think that anyone that would straight out lie for no reason are not worthy of friendship--they are however worthy of PRAYER

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Wonderful1908 · #7 03-21-2001, 07:20 PM

10 Years is a loooooooong time. I would be highly disappointed and we probably would never be the friends we were, however to cut someone out of your life for lying about sorority membership is a little drastic. Clearly she has some ISSUES if she let it go on for 10 years maybe she needs help.

AKA2D '91 · #8 03-21-2001, 07:23 PM

She needed help YESTERDAY!

AKA_Monet · #9 03-21-2001, 08:32 PM

Life is very challenging...

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Discogoddess · #10 03-22-2001, 07:18 PM

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Originally posted by Wonderful1908:
however to cut someone out of your life for lying about sorority membership is a little drastic. Clearly she has some ISSUES if she let it go on for 10 years maybe she needs help.

But, what else was she lying about in that time? I would have a hard time trusting anyone like that once I found out that the very premise of our friendship was based on a lie.

Conskeeted19 · #11 03-23-2001, 03:08 AM

Recently, it was discovered that she does not have a degree at all. When she transfered she told everyone that she was working on a second degree. No one bothered to check her because our "then" Big Sisters said that she was a member of the sorority - and their Big Sisters told them and so on....
Peep this! It took a potential to say hmmmmmm.... something just isn't right.

AKAtude · #12 03-23-2001, 10:36 AM

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Orignally posted by Discogoddess:
But, what else was she lying about in that time? I would have a hard time trusting anyone like that once I found out that the very premise of our friendship was based on a lie.

My thoughts exactly. Maybe she does have issues, but it would be very difficult for me to continue the friendship because I would find myself questioning everything about her.

As sorors, we share and discuss lots of things from personal to sorority issues. This is someone that successfully passed as a soror! What did she learn? What did she see? What did she hear? We become angry with real sorors for the "pillow talk" (so do I

), but we take pity on a fake?!

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loviest95 · #13 03-23-2001, 11:03 AM

As sorors, we share and discuss lots of things from personal to sorority issues. This is someone that successfully passed as a soror! What did she learn? What did she see? What did she hear? We become angry with real sorors for the "pillow talk" (so do I

), but we take pity on a fake?!

Ditto!!!!!!!1

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sphinxpoet · #14 03-23-2001, 11:11 AM

Funny this came up.....One day I was on the train and a woman started kicking it to me. She claimed she was an AKA from the South. We started dating and it came out that she was not an AKA.....I was not sure how to react? We have since parted ways. I was angry because she lied to me but on the other hand we were dating but I felt like if that is how you meet guys then I do not want to be in a relationship with you. What do sorors think about what I did as well as the other question.

Sphinxpoet

MaMaBuddha · #15 03-23-2001, 12:30 PM

justing adding my quick $.13, you will be amazed to find out the amount if people that will LIE, to become a member in any of the Divine 9....

the young lady lied in being a member and lied to those that considered her a friend. what type of individual is that???

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