Some Sad News

DG515 · #1 12-08-2003, 02:57 AM

To the wonderful Delta Gamma Women of Greek Chat....
::sighs:: This is one of the hardest things I've had to do, but I want you all to know this. I'm going to be contacting my President and our VP membership and I will be making arrangements to sign my termination of membership papers. This is one of the harder decisions of my life, but I feel that for my life specifically, this is the best thing I can do for myself. As much as I love and cherish Delta Gamma and everything it means, not only for myself, but for all the women of the world that wear the Golden Anchor, I can't continue on in my membership. I've still not found a job and when the money gets tight, sacrifices have to be made. I'd be lying if I didn't say some of the problems that have been occuring in my chapter make it somewhat easier to find what to eliminate from my life, but as a whole, Delta Gamma has meant a lot to me for the last 2 years. This online community of DG's has kept me involved longer than I thought I was going to be. After this summer, I was going to leave the chapter and you ladies encouraged me to stay involved and rededicate myself to what I believed in and what our organization believes in, and I did. I found new meaning in what it means to be a Delta Gamma Woman and that is what makes this so hard to do. I think, for me personally, the sacrifices I have to make to remain a member of our Fraternity are starting to severely affect the rest of my life, and I can not forget why I'm at college in the first place. Although being a part of such a great collaboration of women is rewarding and awesome, I am in college to learn, to get my degree and to move on into the real world. I just wanted to let all of you women know that even though I may no longer technically be a sister, you will all always hold a very special place in my heart and in my memories and I hope that I don't lose contact with you. I talked to my big sis tonight and she said that although it pains her to say it, she agrees with me in the fact that maybe the best thing for me to do with my life is to leave the chapter. She told me something that sticks with me as I write this, and it is true for almost every woman that frequents this board. She said, "Mandie, to everyone that matters, you will be their sister and their friend, whether or not you wear the badge they do. You have the same values, the same morals, the same ambitions and you live by the same standards of life. When you went through initation, you became part of them and they a part of you, and whether or not you still pay money to some office, or an official part of the chapter, you will always be sisters in your hearts. If someone is so quick to throw you away, esp. in this circumstance, they weren't worth your time in the first place. Delta Gamma isn't a badge or an once a week meeting, it's larger than that. It's a feeling, a mindset, a way of life that will always be a part of you and you of it."
I don't know if I'll still be welcome to come to the board, being as it is for members, but you can be sure that I'm going to keep in IM contact with you all.
I wish for nothing less than the best for each and every one of you and for every one that should come to this board after this moment. I treasure my GC DG's as much, if not more, than some of my sisters here in town. You are all incredible women and I want nothing but the best for all of you.
A few short words to the people that stand out in my mind...

Good luck to my two mom's to be: AJ & Mel, I hope you both have happy and healthy babies (whether legacies or anchormen, they may be)

Laura: My GC Little Sis, this bites as much as it does even THINKING about having to tell my Real Life little sis...I've watched you grow from a nervous wreck going through recruitment to a confidant leader of the AU chapter. I'm so incredibly proud of everything you've become and everything you've done. I knew, the night I talked with you online, that you were made for Delta Gamma and that's why I was so willing, not only to sponsor you, but to be your online big :-D Continue to reach for the moon, that way, if you should happen to fail, you'll land among the stars. If you ever need anything at all, your long distance big sis is here for you.

Noreen: You're such a nut, but that's what I (And so many other people) love so much about you. I know no matter what it is that happens on the board, you're always there to give your 2 cents and your famous dances. I can't count the number of times I'd read your posts and dance along with you. Your personality and outpouring of love (for not only Delta Gamma, but for everyone) is such an inspiration to me as it is (I'm sure) to everyone around you.

CutiePie: I'm incredibly sorry I can't help you out like I had wanted to so badly. I feel bad that I can't be of more help to you. If it was possible, I'd still love to do it, and help, but I don't know if I can (by rules). Please let me know about the situation, if I can or not. You've been such an awesome Mod and I'm honored that you thought of me!

To the rest of my GC'ers----
Your love, guidance, and support has shown me the true meanings of what Delta Gamma's stand for. Before I leave the chapter, I am going to tell my little sis and some of my other sisters about the awesome people I have met here, in hopes that they too can have such a good influence put upon them as I have upon me.

::Sighs::
Now tomorrow, I have to tell my little sis.
This isn't going to be easy. :-(
(perhaps one of the last times I can say this)
ITB, sincerely and with great love,
Mandie Pierce

WhiteDaisy128 · #2 12-08-2003, 09:14 AM

Mandi,
I'm so sorry to hear this!! Isn't there something your chapter can do money wise to help you out? Can't they hold a car wash to raise funds for you or something? Have you looked into loans from EO, etc.? It's just so sad....
CJ

AUDeltaGam · #3 12-08-2003, 09:26 AM

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Originally posted by DG515
Laura: My GC Little Sis, this bites as much as it does even THINKING about having to tell my Real Life little sis...I've watched you grow from a nervous wreck going through recruitment to a confidant leader of the AU chapter. I'm so incredibly proud of everything you've become and everything you've done. I knew, the night I talked with you online, that you were made for Delta Gamma and that's why I was so willing, not only to sponsor you, but to be your online big :-D Continue to reach for the moon, that way, if you should happen to fail, you'll land among the stars. If you ever need anything at all, your long distance big sis is here for you.

Are you SURE this is what you want? Is there anyway you can apply for early alum?

You know what's best for you and if this is what is best for you, then I support you 100%. You are such a great person and you will always be my big sister. I love you so much and am so glad you believed in me when I didn't! You MUST always IM me and maybe we can see each other if your GA plans work out!

Love always and ITB,
Laura

JohnsDGsweethrt · #4 12-08-2003, 12:12 PM

I can't speak for anyone else but I would certainly be willing to make a donation to the "mandie fund" if it meant that mandie would still be a dg. of course i can't speak for the other problems your chapter is having but please feel free to im me and talk about it!

etahannah · #5 12-08-2003, 04:21 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by DG515
Noreen: You're such a nut, but that's what I (And so many other people) love so much about you. I know no matter what it is that happens on the board, you're always there to give your 2 cents and your famous dances. I can't count the number of times I'd read your posts and dance along with you. Your personality and outpouring of love (for not only Delta Gamma, but for everyone) is such an inspiration to me as it is (I'm sure) to everyone around you.

this is the worst and best post i have ever read in this forum!! i am so sad that you are terminating. i know we have talked about this so many times before and all and i swear that i had you talked out of it before!! i will, however, support you 100% with that you feel is the best decision for you. maybe we just need to have one of our talks!! :::sigh:::this is sad and DG will not be the same without you.

i was soooooo touched by what you said about me. i have 24390528934928489 things going on in my life right now and that was so awesome to come in and read that post and to see that about me. i had tears in my eyes and it just made me feel sooooo good. sometimes i feel like i get lost in the everyday shuffle...thank you so much!!

i hope if you ever need anything....you will get a hold of me...just like you usually do!! please let me know how everything goes and if you need any support let me know. i could also give you a zillion reasons why you should not terminate if you want...hehe!!

***dances a little dance just for you***

litb, noreen

DG515 · #6 12-08-2003, 04:32 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by etahannah
i have 24390528934928489 things going on in my life right now

***dances a little dance just for you***

litb, noreen

wow, i thought i was busy but my 24390528934928488 just don't measure up :-)

I love my dance, i bet it's a crazy dance :-)

You all are so wonderful, I haven't done it yet...maybe because I'm still grasping for straws and hoping tomorrow morning when i wake up there will be a check for a couple hundred dollars sitting there, but i need to get it done by this weekend if I'm going to do it, that way they can transition someone else in as director of rituals....:-\
::crosses fingers:: maybe I'll win some giant lawsuit I didn't know I had in court....
lol
ITB
Mandie

OrigamiTulip · #7 12-08-2003, 04:57 PM

Have you looked into the possiblity of getting a short term loan from your school?

hannahgirl · #8 12-08-2003, 08:56 PM

Oh Mandie....

There has to be something or someway to help you out. You have such a love and respect for DG and especially for your sisters around the world in which you've shown here. I wish that there was something that I could do. Just so you know, I'm notorious for trying to talk people out of terminating because I tend to picture myself giving up DG and I always know that it is impossible. I have learned to understand and respect the decisions of others but it is always so hard to see wonderful women with so much enthusiasm like yourself let go of something that means so much to you. Does your chapter allow members to be on a promissary note? Is there any type of Early Alum status for your type of circumstance? Wow....I just don't know what else to say....you've totally blown me out of the water with this.

No matter what, you'll always be my sister and my friend. You will always be welcome here in the forum....don't even think that you won't be. I wish you the best of luck with whatever decision that you make. Please keep in touch with us!

Much love and ITB!
Andrea

kayla0deegee · #9 12-09-2003, 12:18 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by DG515
To the wonderful Delta Gamma Women of Greek Chat....
::sighs:: This is one of the hardest things I've had to do, but I want you all to know this. I'm going to be contacting my President and our VP membership and I will be making arrangements to sign my termination of membership papers. This is one of the harder decisions of my life, but I feel that for my life specifically, this is the best thing I can do for myself. As much as I love and cherish Delta Gamma and everything it means, not only for myself, but for all the women of the world that wear the Golden Anchor, I can't continue on in my membership. I've still not found a job and when the money gets tight, sacrifices have to be made. I'd be lying if I didn't say some of the problems that have been occuring in my chapter make it somewhat easier to find what to eliminate from my life, but as a whole, Delta Gamma has meant a lot to me for the last 2 years. This online community of DG's has kept me involved longer than I thought I was going to be. After this summer, I was going to leave the chapter and you ladies encouraged me to stay involved and rededicate myself to what I believed in and what our organization believes in, and I did. I found new meaning in what it means to be a Delta Gamma Woman and that is what makes this so hard to do. I think, for me personally, the sacrifices I have to make to remain a member of our Fraternity are starting to severely affect the rest of my life, and I can not forget why I'm at college in the first place. Although being a part of such a great collaboration of women is rewarding and awesome, I am in college to learn, to get my degree and to move on into the real world. I just wanted to let all of you women know that even though I may no longer technically be a sister, you will all always hold a very special place in my heart and in my memories and I hope that I don't lose contact with you. I talked to my big sis tonight and she said that although it pains her to say it, she agrees with me in the fact that maybe the best thing for me to do with my life is to leave the chapter. She told me something that sticks with me as I write this, and it is true for almost every woman that frequents this board. She said, "Mandie, to everyone that matters, you will be their sister and their friend, whether or not you wear the badge they do. You have the same values, the same morals, the same ambitions and you live by the same standards of life. When you went through initation, you became part of them and they a part of you, and whether or not you still pay money to some office, or an official part of the chapter, you will always be sisters in your hearts. If someone is so quick to throw you away, esp. in this circumstance, they weren't worth your time in the first place. Delta Gamma isn't a badge or an once a week meeting, it's larger than that. It's a feeling, a mindset, a way of life that will always be a part of you and you of it."
I don't know if I'll still be welcome to come to the board, being as it is for members, but you can be sure that I'm going to keep in IM contact with you all.
I wish for nothing less than the best for each and every one of you and for every one that should come to this board after this moment. I treasure my GC DG's as much, if not more, than some of my sisters here in town. You are all incredible women and I want nothing but the best for all of you.
A few short words to the people that stand out in my mind...

Good luck to my two mom's to be: AJ & Mel, I hope you both have happy and healthy babies (whether legacies or anchormen, they may be)

Laura: My GC Little Sis, this bites as much as it does even THINKING about having to tell my Real Life little sis...I've watched you grow from a nervous wreck going through recruitment to a confidant leader of the AU chapter. I'm so incredibly proud of everything you've become and everything you've done. I knew, the night I talked with you online, that you were made for Delta Gamma and that's why I was so willing, not only to sponsor you, but to be your online big :-D Continue to reach for the moon, that way, if you should happen to fail, you'll land among the stars. If you ever need anything at all, your long distance big sis is here for you.

Noreen: You're such a nut, but that's what I (And so many other people) love so much about you. I know no matter what it is that happens on the board, you're always there to give your 2 cents and your famous dances. I can't count the number of times I'd read your posts and dance along with you. Your personality and outpouring of love (for not only Delta Gamma, but for everyone) is such an inspiration to me as it is (I'm sure) to everyone around you.

CutiePie: I'm incredibly sorry I can't help you out like I had wanted to so badly. I feel bad that I can't be of more help to you. If it was possible, I'd still love to do it, and help, but I don't know if I can (by rules). Please let me know about the situation, if I can or not. You've been such an awesome Mod and I'm honored that you thought of me!

To the rest of my GC'ers----
Your love, guidance, and support has shown me the true meanings of what Delta Gamma's stand for. Before I leave the chapter, I am going to tell my little sis and some of my other sisters about the awesome people I have met here, in hopes that they too can have such a good influence put upon them as I have upon me.

::Sighs::
Now tomorrow, I have to tell my little sis.
This isn't going to be easy. :-(
(perhaps one of the last times I can say this)
ITB, sincerely and with great love,
Mandie Pierce

This is by far the saddest story i have ever heard!!!!! I nearly creid when reading it!!! Mandie, I had the same thing going on right before school started back....except I didnt think i was going to get to go back( i would have had to attend a community college), but anyway you really should check out the loans through DG. I checked everyone of them out and certainly one could help you! I couldnt getany type of sutdent loan and the only way I was able to go back was through the blessing of God...i got rear ended and they had to pay me. God works in mysterious ways and from what I hear you dont really want to do this. Pray about it and I'll pray for you too......
talk to your president and make sure there's nothing you can do!!! if you need anything you can pm me!!!
ITB, Kayla Meade

JohnsDGsweethrt · #10 12-09-2003, 12:41 PM

I know Mandie and I have talked about this and I really wish there was some type of loan or something. However, I can see if there are other chapter problems then maybe there would be an unwillingness to get a loan but we just love you Mandie and want what's best for you!

DG515 · #11 12-09-2003, 03:47 PM

Even more "sad news" I was just checking in on you girls, and leaving, because I've got a temp of 103.9......Death and Puking don't sound too bad right now ::laughs::
Be back tomorrow
ITB
Mandie

JohnsDGsweethrt · #12 12-09-2003, 04:36 PM

Feel better soon!

rho4life · #13 12-09-2003, 04:42 PM

Please excuse the board crash, but this is so sad. Hopefully you will get over your temp soon. Also, hopefully you will be able to be involved as an alum. A temporary change in finance can't undo your induction.

Good Luck!

AGDLynn · #14 12-11-2003, 09:45 PM

Forgive me for crashing your board too! My sil is a DG and perhaps my niece will be next year (although AGD would be terrific!) lol.

DG may have program similiar to AGD. Does your chapter have a promissory note system? AGD has a money assistance program called Sisters Income Supplement (SIS). Please check into see if DG has a similar program.

Unfortunately, DG may have a policy of if a collegian wants to go inactive, she has to be financially up-to-date first.

I know you can't discuss specifics here but perhaps DG has a way to become reinstated when you get back on your feet.

Best of luck!

AUDeltaGam · #15 12-12-2003, 08:35 PM

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Originally posted by DGMarie
I don't believe there is such a thing as inactive in DG. I'll go look it up meanwhile....You can be an active member, an alumna or not a member (resign your membership). This is my understanding.

Correct, Marie. It's either active collegiate or alumna