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Old 11-22-2003, 07:36 AM
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Darnation!!!

ok ...background im a freshman in college (im 19 soon to be 20) and tonite i met this amazing guy in one of the frats my sorority hangs out with alot. Well we hit it off and we ended up h anging out in his frats living room talking for three hours (i ended up leaving at around four thirty a.m.) and we had a lot in common. We exchanged numbers ( after he was like "its rare to find someone who is as cool as you and can hold a good conversation). So i bet your wondering what the problem is...well He is 21 and a senior (im sure hes going to turn 22 soon)...and even though he's only two maybe one and a half year older than me, hes still a senior! So heres my thinking; hes very attractive extremely smart and very easy going so the only reason i would think a guy like him would talk to a girl like me (in a 'romantic' way) is if he wanted some...but then again i can be cynical when it comes to relationships. But then on the other hand my best friend has grown up with him and he is best friends with her brother and she says hes not like THAT and if he likes me he would GENUINELY like me! She also says that it seemed like he was interested. So my question is if he WANTS to...should i pursue it?
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Old 11-22-2003, 10:41 AM
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Sounds pretty simple to me.. Pursue it. Just discuss it with him and let him know that sex is out of the picture and is not something you want to consider early on in a relationship or whatever. If that's all he's after then he'll book. If not, he'll hang around.
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Old 11-22-2003, 11:09 AM
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I agree with ktsnake.
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Old 11-22-2003, 03:41 PM
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I argree partly with ktsnake. Pursue it but don't like say: "Hey I am not going to have sex with you" over the appetizer on your first date.

That would make you look a little neurotic
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Old 11-22-2003, 04:38 PM
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I agree with all of the above

Just remember, actions speak louder than words. Don't say "sex is not going to happen" and then elude to it(ie: sleeping in his bed - or your bed with him, play fighting, etc...) I know pretty much everything can be taken as sexual, but usually if its 2 or 3 in the morning, things can get carried away.
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Old 11-22-2003, 06:51 PM
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You could just sleep with him upfront and get it over with. That way if he calls you back and actually wants to date stuff, you know he likes you.

Thats my advice.
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Old 11-22-2003, 08:41 PM
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You could just sleep with him upfront and get it over with. That way if he calls you back and actually wants to date stuff, you know he likes you.

Thats my advice.
LOL!!!! Umm no........
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Old 11-22-2003, 08:59 PM
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You could just sleep with him upfront and get it over with. That way if he calls you back and actually wants to date stuff, you know he likes you.

Thats my advice.
LOL... DAMN!
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Old 11-23-2003, 12:19 AM
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You could just sleep with him upfront and get it over with. That way if he calls you back and actually wants to date stuff, you know he likes you.

Thats my advice.
You can't make a housewife out of a hoe.

lol that comment ain't true... but i just really have always wanted to say it!
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Old 11-29-2003, 04:44 PM
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Dunno what you decdied to do...but as long as you make it clea rto him that your not going to sleep with him, do whatever you want. The guy that I am currently hooking up with is aware that I will not sleep with him, and there is no problem with us doing stuff with each other, even at 2 in the morning in my bed
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Old 11-29-2003, 06:56 PM
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That seems a little mean doesn't it? I mean I am sure the guy still has the hope that you will sleep with him lol.



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Dunno what you decdied to do...but as long as you make it clea rto him that your not going to sleep with him, do whatever you want. The guy that I am currently hooking up with is aware that I will not sleep with him, and there is no problem with us doing stuff with each other, even at 2 in the morning in my bed
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