It's that time of year...

Munchkin03 · #1 11-21-2003, 02:06 AM

...when we invite our significant others to spend the holidays with our families (or vice-versa).

I thought that, past a certain age, that most parents were cool with letting their child share a room with their significant other. I know that my parents are cool with it as long as there aren't little ones staying over too, and Mr Munch's family is cool with it. I was apparently wrong--everyone seems scandalized when I mention that we crash together.

So, how does it go with your respective families?

valkyrie · #2 11-21-2003, 05:22 AM

This is funny because compared to you all I'm old

and I've been married before -- but Mr. valkyrie and I will NOT be sleeping in the same bed at my parents' house. It's just not done. My mom mentioned the hide-a-bed to me, which is in the family room, and which implies that one of us will be sleeping there instead of the guest room. My parents are old fashioned and that's just how they are, so it doesn't bother me at all.

bethany1982 · #3 11-21-2003, 05:32 AM

My parents respect my decisions when it comes to whom I sleep with and where I sleep. My grandparents, on both sides, are a different story. I'm single this year, so this one is easy. It's kind of hard to believe that people (friends) would be giving you a hard time over this.

TigerLilly · #4 11-21-2003, 06:39 AM

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Originally posted by valkyrie
This is funny because compared to you all I'm old and I've been married before -- but Mr. valkyrie and I will NOT be sleeping in the same bed at my parents' house. It's just not done. My mom mentioned the hide-a-bed to me, which is in the family room, and which implies that one of us will be sleeping there instead of the guest room. My parents are old fashioned and that's just how they are, so it doesn't bother me at all.

Wait, you're MARRIED and your parents won't let you share a bed? Sheesh. A little too old-fashioned there, IMHO. Now if it's a matter of space, not having random double beds about the house, I understand that, but otherwise...

valkyrie · #5 11-21-2003, 07:21 AM

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Originally posted by TigerLilly
Wait, you're MARRIED and your parents won't let you share a bed? Sheesh. A little too old-fashioned there, IMHO. Now if it's a matter of space, not having random double beds about the house, I understand that, but otherwise...

No, I used to be married.

juniorgrrl · #6 11-21-2003, 09:07 AM

FI and I live relatively near to each other, but if he stays at my house, its understood that we'll have separate rooms. And my mom assumes that if we stay at his house, we'll have separate rooms.

When we went on an overnight trip to the French Quarter with his family for his 21st birthday, my mom assumed it was girls in one room, guys in the other. Right. We stayed in the same bed in the room with his parents. Scandalous.

His parents really don't seem to care all that much, which is good. My mom, on the other hand, cares enough for both of them.

mullet81 · #7 11-21-2003, 11:38 AM

i've gone home with my boyfriend, and his parents don't mind us sharing a room - but the door stays open

my parents, exactly the opposite. i sleep in my room, he sleeps in the guest room or on the couch.

we both understand, its their home so we have to respect their wishes. besides, its not like we don't share a bed all the time at school!

#8 11-21-2003, 11:47 AM

Somewhere around 20 years old, my parents stopped caring. Before that, boyfriend-of-the-week and I weren't allowed to stay in the same room... but once I hit 20 or so and had a v. serious boyfriend, they became okay with it. Heck, they were the ones who suggested we move in together.

many years later now, I live with my fiance, and parents, grandparents, etc. don't have any problem with us sleeping in the same room... we do the other 364 days of the year.

ZTAngel · #9 11-21-2003, 11:48 AM

His mom doesn't mind if we sleep in the same bed.

My parents are a completely different story. When he stayed at my place for a few days during a holiday weekend, my parents put us in seperate rooms!

When I stay at his mom's place, my parents always say, "Now, she puts you guys in seperate rooms, right?" Uh...yeah...sure.

aephi alum · #10 11-21-2003, 11:50 AM

My parents wouldn't let us share a room until we were married. They had my old bedroom and a guest room to put us in. My husband would sneak into my room though

My in-laws made us sleep in separate bedrooms until we were engaged.

But, my MIL has told me outright that if she'd had a daughter instead of a son, she wouldn't have let her daughter share a bedroom with her boyfriend until they were married. Nor would she have allowed her daughter to move in with a boyfriend or fiance. Double standard much??

GeekyPenguin · #11 11-21-2003, 12:28 PM

My parents weren't very keen on the idea, so GPBoy usually slept in the guest room or in the family room when he stayed over. They knew, they just dind't want it in their house! His parents, on the other hand, were psycho. His mom didn't even want us to be alone in his room WITH THE DOOR OPEN in plain sight during the day...and he was 22 at the time!

AchtungBaby80 · #12 11-21-2003, 12:47 PM

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Originally posted by GeekyPenguin
His mom didn't even want us to be alone in his room WITH THE DOOR OPEN in plain sight during the day...and he was 22 at the time!

Hmmm...sounds like my parents. I'm 23, but they still disapprove of me letting guys cross the threshold of my bedroom because "gentlemen don't belong in a lady's boudoir" (my mom's words). Same goes if I have a young man spend the night...he sleeps in the basement. Oh, yes, the basement. It's furnished, but it's still the basement; whereas, I sleep upstairs on what's effectively the 3rd floor. How's that?

I couldn't believe it when I went to visit my boyfriend's parents' house for the weekend. Not only did they not mind us sleeping in the same room, they pretty much assumed that's the way it would be and insisted that we take their room because the bed was bigger.

I felt a little, er, weird, but I didn't say anything because I didn't want to seem like a schmuck. But I will draw the line at getting up to, er, antics at a guy's parents' house...that just seems soooooo wrong.

adpialumcsuc · #13 11-21-2003, 06:14 PM

We used to have to sleep in different rooms until both sets of parents realized that when we were at school it was most likely that we weren't staying in separate beds.

When we bought a house our parents didn't care but my extended family (grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins etc.) all made comments about having our own room in the house. Ummm sure!!! By the time we got engaged no one cared anymore.

Cardinal026 · #14 11-21-2003, 08:05 PM

I wish my parents were a little more lax. I've been with my SO for almost 4 years, and both of our parents are really strict about separate rooms on vacations and whatnot. I don't think we'll get to share a room at home til we're married, which sucks, seeing as how I pretty much live at his apartment right now.

juniorgrrl · #15 11-22-2003, 03:14 AM

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Originally posted by AchtungBaby80
Hmmm...sounds like my parents. I'm 23, but they still disapprove of me letting guys cross the threshold of my bedroom because "gentlemen don't belong in a lady's boudoir" (my mom's words). Same goes if I have a young man spend the night...he sleeps in the basement. Oh, yes, the basement. It's furnished, but it's still the basement; whereas, I sleep upstairs on what's effectively the 3rd floor. How's that?

LOL. That sounds like my mom. My FIANCE and I still don't go in my room when we're at my house. We stay in the living room. So usually an evening at my house ends up being my mom, him and me. Fun

It's just "not apropriate" for him to be in my room. I know she doesn't like that when we're at his house, we hang out in his room - even though you can see in his room from the kitchen!

Oh well, in 6 months, we'll be MARRIED, so nyeh