Is communication the key?

[exquizit]

Have you guys ever been in a relationship where in the beginning everything was just like something out of a storybook, then later it turned into something out of a horror movie?
How do you break the same ol' dull cycle of what goes on day to day in your relationships?

[DELTABRAT]

I'd say communication is key, but also to find somethings that you two have in common (thisis hypothetical because I realize that this thread may not pertain to you). Extracurricular activities, intellectual activities, something besides the romantic things (i.e. exsay, hugging, kissing, etc).

Also, I would say to KNOW that the romantic intimacy that usually is what makes the relationship SEEM like a storybook in the beginning, IS going to die. After 3 or 4 years, the novelty and excitement IS going to wear off...point, blank. There had better be something else there or else there will be a slow deterioration.

Let me think of some more and I'll be back.

[Wonderful1908]

No...... LOL!!! All my relationships have started out nightmares (just kidding). Girl of course the beginning is so fun, exciting, etc then reality sets in. The key to making a relationship last is either your in it 100% or not. I used to think that if I let my boyfriend get away with anything and not say something, I was a weak women. I figured out that everything isn't WWIII and that I loved him enough to deal with his little imperfections (I'm not talking about cheating,beating, drinking anything on that scale) and make the best of them because I love him that much. Eventaully over my six years with him he mad the same decison. I'm a control freak and he knows that, but he makes the decison to handle that because he loves me. Try something exciting to do, take a trip or rent a room girl do something fun!!!

[exquizit]

Originally posted by Wonderful1908:
No...... LOL!!! All my relationships have started out nightmares (just kidding). Girl of course the beginning is so fun, exciting, etc then reality sets in. The key to making a relationship last is either your in it 100% or not. I used to think that if I let my boyfriend get away with anything and not say something, I was a weak women. I figured out that everything isn't WWIII and that I loved him enough to deal with his little imperfections (I'm not talking about cheating,beating, drinking anything on that scale) and make the best of them because I love him that much. Eventaully over my six years with him he mad the same decison. I'm a control freak and he knows that, but he makes the decison to handle that because he loves me. Try something exciting to do, take a trip or rent a room girl do something fun!!!

LOL! I'm the master of creativity! I just thought this would be a great topic because for some reason everyoone I've spoken with lately has been trying to re-light a flame in their relationships....Hey there's an idea! Playing firefighter! LOL