What's Up With Her?

[CrimsonTide4]

There comes a time in every woman's life when she has to take a close look
at herself. Not at her circumstance, not at what she did, not how unfair life is
or not at whom made you do it. She has to just look at herself in all her glory
and imperfection.

For many women this is a scary thing because often times they don't want
to know the truth about themselves. Virtuous women know what I mean.

As women, we have a tendency to water one another down. Maybe it makes us
feel good or look better than the next woman. Or maybe we just don't know how to
tell that woman how we admire her. In reality we really need to look at
ourselves and the pain we project towards other women.

Have you ever admired a woman who has been through changes in her life? Or
have you made up in your mind that she is just messed up. Before you make this
mistake, take a closer look. A woman who has endured the most unusual life is
someone of wisdom, someone who has been chosen by God to go through things that
have made her stronger.

Think of all the great women in the Bible, Mary Magdalene, Ruth and Naomi,
the woman with an issue of blood flow, and Esther, to name a few. Mary was a
prostitute, a very uneasy woman. But by the time Jesus was done with her, she
was His closest follower. Esther was unfortunate in marrying an abusive man. By
the time God was done with her, she had married one of the wealthiest men in the
land.

Have you ever admired the strength of a single mother? Or have you made up
your mind that it's too bad she had children on her own. A single mother knows
no bounds when it comes to her children. She is strong and durable. Single
mothers are strong, not because she has to be, but because it comes naturally
for her to protect the extensions of her very being. Her love for her children
is like that of fuel to a car. Most mothers keep their tanks full because they
understand that if it runs low you could jeopardize the car and have problems in
the long run. Other women only fill it when it is needed. Their cars usually
break down.

Have you ever wondered why some women are not approachable? Or have you
made up your mind that she is just mean. A quiet woman is a smart woman She is
valuable. She doesn't go off half-cocked and she won't be the one to argue with
you over nothing. She just may even let you go on "setting her straight" and
politely back out without a fight. She doesn't let many in her world. After all,
she has probably been through the fire and had to rebuild. So why let just
anyone in? This is usually the woman that only has "small talk" and knows her
place, which is away from all the unnecessary things in life.

Have you ever wondered why that woman is so loud? Well, hey she has a lot
to say. These are usually our younger women who have to learn refrain They are
eager and unsettled. They do before they think, and they do not think before
they talk. They just go.

Have you ever wondered about that woman who appears to have everything,
yet is still very unhappy? Well, she doesn't have everything. She doesn't have
personal validation. This is something that cannot be bought. This is something
developed over many mistakes and challenges that have taught lessons of the
unbearable.

Women are so quick to beat the next one down instead of trying to hold her
up. Before you wonder, "What's up with her?" ask yourself, "What's up with me?"
Why do I beat down another woman to build myself up? That woman could be my
mother, sister, aunt, in-law, stepmother, niece, grandmother, great-grandmother,
neighbor, friend, co-worker, etc. That woman could just be me. Women are the
carriers of life, not the channels of death. Let's build and encourage each
other, as did Ruth and Naomi.

Pass this to all the women in your life. Encourage and Love, Forgive and
Forget, and trust that the woman that receives this will be touched in some way.

May peace and love be upon you.