WEDDING ETIQUETTE? #2

[OOHLALA]

I thought I would post it as a different thread than from the first......
With all of the talk about other siblings on the this board.I have another wedding etiquette question.....Do you think that I am wrong for not wanting my fathers children (through a relationship with there mother, while he and my mother were married) present at my wedding. I get along OK with them, but the sisterly bond is not really there. My main reason for not inviting them is this: I know how my mother feels about them and although she HAS NOT mentioned anything about them attending (knowing my mother she will not)she will be very uncomfortable......And I love my mother (of course) and want her to be just as happy seeing her baby girl get married.

Thank you PositivelyAKA,for replying.........

[OOHLALA]

Thank you AKATUDE. BTW, my friend and you have scheduled the same date for your weddings.

[Eclipse]

Originally posted by OOHLALA:
I thought I would post it as a different thread than from the first......
With all of the talk about other siblings on the this board.I have another wedding etiquette question.....Do you think that I am wrong for not wanting my fathers children (through a relationship with there mother, while he and my mother were married) present at my wedding. I get along OK with them, but the sisterly bond is not really there. My main reason for not inviting them is this: I know how my mother feels about them and although she HAS NOT mentioned anything about them attending (knowing my mother she will not)she will be very uncomfortable......And I love my mother (of course) and want her to be just as happy seeing her baby girl get married.

Thank you PositivelyAKA,for replying.........

I think the advice given previously was good (talking to your mother), but I also think there is another question that begs to be answered. What kind of relationship do you WANT to have with them in the future? If you are content with your somewhat distant (my assumption based on what you said,my apologies if that is wrong) relationship with them, then there should be no pressure to invite them to the wedding. If you'd like to strengthen the relationship then the wedding might be a good place to start, barring that it will not be more of a distraction than a joy (i.e. folks sitting around talking looking for 'mess' surrounding their relationship with you, your mother, etc.)

All in all, as someone told me, you should be able to look around on your wedding day and smile at every person there because you love them and you know they love you.