My Situation......

[SuzyQ18]

I have been reading for a couple of months now. Laying in bed last night I decided to just go for it and register so I could get some support or advise from the Wise Ones!

OK, here goes......(it will be kina long though)

I am at a small southern university. I am a freshman. I am not beautiful, but I am not ugly either - most think I am cute, and I am not fat, not skinny, just about right I'd say. I have a good GPA. Senior yr - 3.95, HS cumulative 3.4. I was active in HS, both of my parents were Greek, so was my aunt and several cousins.

I went through formal recruitment - here is what happened....

Day 1 - Met Rho Chi's and got in our groups and met each other. Told us what was what and told us to where to meet and at what time the next day and what to wear (really casual and very comfy shoes)

Day 2 - Open House Day! I wore nece denium shorts and a nice T-shirt with new athletic shoes, hair and make-up done. Visited all the houses. I loved every house!! Everyone was so awesome, I was impressed that they knew me! WOW!!
At the end of the day we had to fill out the scantron and rand the houses 1-5. Liked them all, so this was hard.
Our Rho Chis told us when to meet the next day to get our invites for the next day. We could only go to 4 houses though.

Day 3 - AHHHHH! I only got 3 invites back, I was bummed since my friends all got 4. I felt like a loser! I wonder why I got cut, and why by the ones I put 1 & 2?????
Anyway, my mom, and my Rho Chis told me that this is really ok, and to concentrate on the three I got, and to remember that I really liked them a lot! So I did!
This day was so fun!!!! We made thing for their philanthropy. I really enjoyed this at all of the houses! I talked to several of the sisters at each of the houses. I felt good about all of my visits, they all seemed to like me. I wore a skirt and a cute top, hair and make up done, my Rho Chis thought I looked cute, they told me.

Day 4 - This day we could have 3 houses. I went to get my invites and was so upset!!!! I only got 1. I was so embarrassed, my friends and everyone else in my group all got 3, now, what was wrong with me????
I pulled myself up by the boot straps, got dressed up (a different skirt and top, did my hair and make up), put on a positive attitude since I really liked this house, and off I went. Again it was embarrassing to have to go alone, with out the group since I only had one invite, but I was excited to go!
Again, I loved this house!! This was the best visit yet. I felt so close to this group this time. I could really see myself here. I decided that everyone was right, it did not matter how many houses you went to as long as you found the right one for you!!
I just knew I had found my HOME!!

Day 5 - Pref Day! I was ok with the fact I would only get 1 invitation because I knew it was the right one. I was getting ready to go to meet my Rho Chis to pick it up when there was a knock at my door. I was shocked to see my Rho Chis at my door. They looked really upset too. They told me that I did not have any invitations.
Yep, I was devestated!!!!! The Rho Chis told me they couldn't believe it either. One of the girls said she was so mad at her chapter since she knew I would be a great sister. The other Rho Chi said she was mad at hers too since they cut me and she knew I wanted them too.
Any way, they told me to go through informal recruitment or wait until spring. I was so hurt, what was I going to tell my friends? Good thing they are friends, they love me anyway. Off they all went to Pref.

Day 6 - Bid Day
I went to support my friends and watched them get their bids and the groups they wanted and that wanted them. I couldn't believe I was left out. My heart hurt.

Day 7 - I signed up for informal recruitment.

Day 8 - I was so confused, at my school you sign up for this informal thing and just wait until someone tells you about an activity at a house. It was really quiet......

Day 9 - one of my friends invited me to a gathering at the house she just got in. Luckily it was the one I liked the best, the one I hoped I would get in to. I had a good time and met more of the girls. I spent quite a bit of time with one girl, and got close to her. Again, I knew this was where I wanted to be.

Day 12 - My friend invited me to the house again. I am excited since I really want this. We had a good time again and I met a few more people. My friend said she voted for me and knew a few other girls did too.

Day 13 - I thought I would hear something, yet nothing, my friend does not know anything either.

Day 14 - Nothing yet

Day 15 - Nothing yet

Day 16 - Nothing yet, but I have been told that others have gotten bids. I am really nervous.

Day 17 - Still nothing, but I know that this informal recruitment will end in 4 days.

This is the end of the story. Today is day 17.

[mmcat]

sigh!!! sometimes things happen that don't make a lot of sense. don't put your head down for an instant. keep smiling and going on and see what happens in the long run.
we're with you.

[LouisaMay]

Hang in there, hon! And don't sit around waiting. Get out there and have fun, make friends, find your niche! If a bid comes, let it catch you by surprise 'cause you were so busy getting to know your new college home

LM

[tri-d]

I get frustrated hearing stories like yours. There could be a lot of things going on behind the scenes that you just don't know about. One is always numbers--if houses are at total, they can't take anyone through COB. I really don't know what the deal is in your case though. Just stay positive and if you don't happen to get a bid in the fall, you CAN go thru in the spring. Sometimes houses move a little slow with informal rush if they are not in great need for numbers. It sounds like you would make a great sister for any house--let them see that...right now it is their loss--stay active and positive on campus, be friendly and you will be surprised at what a semester can do. Good luck and if being in a sorority is something you truly want, don't give up.

[SuzyQ18]

You know, I love you all!! I was right, I did need to just post this and get it off of my chest. I feel sooooo much better!
You know, I really do want to be part of the greek system. I want it because I LOVE being active and having lots to do. I LOVE being associated with a group that does good things for other people - the philanthropies at each of the sororities were so awesome! I love people! I love being involved! I enjoy being part of a team or group. This is why I want this so bad.
OK, for the good news....I have great friends! Several of them have been chosen to be in the greek system, but several have chosen not to be greek. I know I am "greek material", so I am not worried that I will never get this opportunity. I am having a great weekend, this weekend - I am with my awesome friends and my super supportive boyfriend. I love life!
Yep, I am bummed out a little that the opportunity has not come knocking yet, but, it will.....I know it will, just don't know when!!

Until then....I will be FANTASTIC!!

[tri-d]

You do have a great attitude going for ya and sooner or later the sororities will see that as well. I know that a friend of mine went thru COB at our school and I was amazed that the girls in my house were not jumping all over the chance to bid her...finally, after a heartfelt speech on my part we extended her a bid. And the house never regretted it--here was a girl that they weren't sure was a good match for DDD and 2 years later, she bacame president of the chapter! Just goes to show you....

[76owlgal]

Suzy,
Wow! I ditto all of the above! You have an awesome attitude!
You are not alone. My daughter is having a similar situation.
I also agree that it is hard to really get to know each other in this "crazy" process.
When you and your new home finally connect, I know it will be a Grand Day!
Good Luck!!

[erica812]

SuzyQ...My situation was so much like yours! I just love people. I love being super involved in EVERYTHING! Greek Life didn't open up for me until I became a grad student, but I did find my "home" and I'm so pleased to be a Beta Sigma Phi. Hang in there! Enjoy your first semester.

Erica

[SuzyQ18]

so......I have a question.
How would I go about finding out if the sorority I was interested in has completed their COBs? My friend has just pledged so she does not really know. Also, they are doing their pinning tomorrow night, so I assumed that they are more than likely done. Would this be a correct assumption?

[Floridagirl]

It's too hard to know. They could have a pinning ceremony for the several women the have picked up and still have 1 or 2 slots left, or not. The best source is your friend. But she is not an active yet and can't really vote for membership. I'm sure her opinion counts though. Kept this greek stuff in perspective. Lots of us rushed as freshman and then rushed again as sophmores before we joined. Good luck!!!!!!

[socialbutterfly]

Keep your head up!

You'll make it! Your attitude on not giving up will be seen by the sorority you are hoping for, if not...don't worry I'm sure others have seen it and will make their move soon. If you stay positive and out there for eveyone to see your potential, the right org will come your way!!

Best of luck to you

[TriDeltaGal]

I agree with what everyone says...you sound like an amazing girl and I hope that a GLO is able to see that soon! I wish you all the best of luck!

[SuzyQ18]

Ok....Interesting Development!!!!

I got back from dinner tonight and had a message on my answering maching! It was an active member of one of the sororities. She wanted to know if I would be interested in coming to a theme party tomorrow night!
Woooo Hooooo!!!
Of course I called her back and told her I would LOVE to!!!

By the way, this is the one I like THE best at first, but they cut me, so I did not think I had a chance!!!

[SmartBlondeGPhB]

Yeah! Good Luck and have a great time!

[BadSquirrelBeta]

Let us know how it goes...I hope you have a wonderful time!!