i need a release

smiley21 · #1 09-13-2003, 01:54 PM

i have so much anger and frustration built up inside. it has been building for the last few years. there are times when i start to release but never completely. so it just builds with each passing day. i dont have anyone around here that i can talk to. the only person that i can talk to is part of the frustration. i am tired of hiding it. i want to punch something.

bethany1982 · #2 09-13-2003, 02:06 PM

If you decide to hit something, I hope it's soft. I really hope you can find someone to talk to.

annice22 · #3 09-13-2003, 03:07 PM

You should really try working out. It's a really good stress relief

xok85xo · #4 09-13-2003, 03:37 PM

have you considered therapy?

IheartMATT806 · #5 09-13-2003, 04:37 PM

Maybe try going for a run, joining a fitness club, taking a vacation or talking to a professional. There are many resources out there that can help calm you down. Hope things get better!

smiley21 · #6 09-13-2003, 04:52 PM

if i run, wont my problem still be there when i get back?
i am not crazy about talking to strangers. i dont want to talk to my mom, cause i always feel like she is talking down to me. i just wish i had a close friend

xok85xo · #7 09-13-2003, 04:56 PM

while you may see talking to a therapist as talking to a "stranger", thats what they are there for..they are an impartial ear..someone to vent to that is not your source of frustration..they will either off advice or not if you don't want it..they won't talk down you..they will just listen.

smiley21 · #8 09-13-2003, 05:08 PM

i dont know what i want to do. boy, am i really a walking irony- my gc name is smiley and my major is psychology. but yet it is usually hard for me to smile and i am in need of psychological help.

IheartMATT806 · #9 09-13-2003, 06:47 PM

Im not sure what you have been through in your past but if you seek help even if it is a doctor, they can perscribe medicine to help you not feel so blue about life. I understand where you are not exactly easy about talking to strangers but seeking a doctor can help. Depression is an inbalance between nerves and by no means is feeling down your fault..seek help no matter what..it cant hurt.

Eclipse · #10 09-13-2003, 09:43 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by smiley21
i dont know what i want to do. boy, am i really a walking irony- my gc name is smiley and my major is psychology. but yet it is usually hard for me to smile and i am in need of psychological help.

A professional therapist once told me that any therapist worth his/her salt has gone through counseling. So, look at it this way, you are just preparing for your future career!

PsychTau · #11 09-14-2003, 12:53 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by Eclipse
A professional therapist once told me that any therapist worth his/her salt has gone through counseling. So, look at it this way, you are just preparing for your future career!

Ditto. I saw a therapist for a few sessions during my master's program in Psychology...I really needed to let go of some stress and baggage. It was one of the best things I've done for myself.

I know, it was hard for me to do at first. I had the impression that since I was going to be a therapist, I had to be "strong" and handle things on my own. After all, if I couldn't handle my stuff, how was I going to help others? That belief is SO, SO wrong!!!! I was able to get a lot of stuff off my chest to a totally impartial person who I would probably never see again....and if I did, they would either not remember what I said, or pretend like they didn't. Plus, it allowed me to dump some baggage so that I didn't let it color my therapeutic relationships with others. I can't tell you enough how it got me on the right track for my future. It's a wonderful gift to give yourself (kinda like retail therapy...but it doesn't wear out!)

Go see someone at your school counseling center. If they have student interns there (I was one at my school) you can request not to see them. Or request a PhD student if they have those. Or request the student intern if that's what would make you feel better.

PM me if you need to, OK? Go and do something good for yourself...you deserve it.

sugar and spice · #12 09-14-2003, 10:56 AM

I ditto the recommendations for both working out and therapy. Sure, if you go for a run your problem will still be there when you get back, but you'll have some time to think through it and work it out in your head, and I can guarantee that you'll feel at least a little bit better about it. Therapy can definitely help too, although make sure you get the right one or it won't help at all.

I hope you start feeling better soon.

PM_Mama00 · #13 09-14-2003, 11:21 AM

Smiley you and I are alike in this situation. Most of the time when I'm really upset or pissed, the only people I have to talk to are the ones who are pissing me off. And I never talk to my mom about my problems, cuz she always thinks that I'm the one who started it.

Sistermadly · #14 09-14-2003, 12:23 PM

You don't like talking to strangers, but you post on GreekChat?

Seriously, get therapy. Therapists aren't there to judge you - they're there to help you. Your mother may not be the best person to talk to because (a) she knows you too well and (b) she'll always put her own spin on what needs to be done to fix you. Friends are nice to have, but often they aren't equipped to help people who need serious help, and even if they are, they're your friends, and they won't want to hurt your feelings. You need help, not enabling, or validation.

Physical activity doesn't help with depression and anger, but it does pump lots of lovely endorphins through your body that can really do wonders for improving your mood. If you make that physical activity a habit, not only will you feel better, you'll look better too.

Also - get a dog. No, really. Dogs are amazing for people who may be suffering from depression or other mental illnesses. Somehow dogs just know when you're down, and they pick that exact moment to come over and stick their heads in your lap and cuddle up next to you. I miss having a dog.

moe.ron · #15 09-14-2003, 12:40 PM

Go and find somewhere peaceful. THen curse, scream and other outward expression that does not have anything to do with physical stuff. It does me a lot of good stuff.