Help...informal wedding invite

Lil' Hannah · #1 09-08-2003, 01:14 PM

OK, so I started my job in early May. A woman I work with had just gotten engaged and they had planned a wedding for September. I of course wasn't invited because the woman didn't know me well.

The wedding is this weekend and today we were talking and she invited me to come to the wedding. She said something like "I know it's just an informal invitation, but you can come." I don't know if I should go or not. I love weddings and I like the woman I work with, but I don't think she'll be too broken up if I don't go. Other people from work will be there, and I think it will be fun, but I'm wondering if she was just inviting me to be nice.

ETA: I work in a very small office and by "other people from work will be there" I mean the entire office will be there. Also this woman and I have become friends and it wasn't like I was standing there while others were talking about the wedding. In fact we were talking about something totally different, and it was just she and I.

mu_agd · #2 09-08-2003, 01:26 PM

a lot of people will do that when they get a lot declines then they planned on. they have extra meals or something, so they try to fill them up. i received an invitation like that from someone i had met right before her invitations went out and had become friendly with from that point on. i couldn't attend the wedding anyways due to other plans i had though. i'd say if you want to go, go.

valkyrie · #3 09-08-2003, 01:47 PM

I wouldn't go. I'm sure she has good intentions, but I just couldn't see attending a wedding after getting such a half-assed invite.

Optimist Prime · #4 09-08-2003, 02:58 PM

oh wow. I thought the wedding would be informal and you were asking about what to wear.

Go if you want to, girls love that kind of stff.

Peaches-n-Cream · #5 09-08-2003, 03:33 PM

If your schedule is free and you like this woman, I say go. Weddings are fun.

HBADPi · #6 09-08-2003, 03:36 PM

I kinda understand your situation because a couple of months ago I bumped into a former high school friend that I had been out of touch with for 2+ years. Turned out she was getting marrried in like 6 weeks, invitations had already gone out and she didnt have anymore and right before I was leaving she was like "um yeah so you're invited to the wedding but i dont have an invitation for you so just so you know."

I was a little insulted because it almost seemed like she felt i was fishing for an invitation and thats why I was talking to her. I didnt end up going because I knew it would be akward, I wouldnt know anyone there and I was fairly certain I wouldnt be able to bring a date.

But hey if you are going to know people there that would have made it easier for me to decide. Still I agree with
mu_agd she probably has some openings.

33girl · #7 09-08-2003, 03:53 PM

I agree w/ valkyrie...one of the women in Mr 33's office did this and it was almost like she was saying "we didn't want you there enough to send you an actual invite, but since we don't have enough people coming to get us lots of presents, we are asking you at the last minute." And it was over in the next county, also. I found the whole business on the tacky side.

But if it's nearby and you can have fun with people at work and drink & eat for free, what the hell.

bethany1982 · #8 09-08-2003, 03:57 PM

Perhaps she enjoys your friendship. Why try to read anything into this other than that. If she were my NEW friend, I'd go if I had the date open. People can, and do, make NEW friends after they send invitations to important events. To me, that‘s what this sounds like... nothing more, nothing less.